T-Bone _ Posted June 22, 2009 Share Posted June 22, 2009 I don't have anything to say that hasn't already been said. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CatherineM Posted June 22, 2009 Share Posted June 22, 2009 I find it funny that we call our families dysfunctional, when they act exactly like we expect. I can't tell you how many times I've heard that, "I've/We've done so much for you, yet you can't do X,Y,Z for us." It does make you want to just pay the going rate so that you can just thumb your nose at them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sojourner Posted June 22, 2009 Share Posted June 22, 2009 [quote name='picchick' post='1898979' date='Jun 22 2009, 05:25 PM']Don't worry I will be doing the same thing. "DIDY!!!! DIDY!!!!" "WHAT?!?!" "YOU GOT TO COME OVER AND KILL THIS CENTIPEDE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! IT IS HUGE!" *click* Well of course that is if my husband (Whoever and whenever that is) can do it instead. Actually Didy doesn't kill my centipedes. My other brother does. They are so creepy. Silliness aside, I agreed with everything said here [/quote] Centipedes are creepy. When I started living on my own I invested in a large can of Raid for such occasions. It works wonders. Red, glad to see your problem has begun to mend itself. I do agree that your BIL crossed a big line in what he said. I know from dealing with my husband's family that it can be hard as heck to bite your tongue when it comes to how they deal with your spouse, but that's what you have to do. Kudos to you for following the code. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eagle_eye222001 Posted June 22, 2009 Share Posted June 22, 2009 This women called four-five people to do something she could have done in three minutes? Is there any explanation for why she had to get someone else to get the bird? If not......out of line. ---------------- Now playing: [url="http://www.foxytunes.com/artist/matt+maher/track/great+things"]Matt Maher - Great Things[/url] via [url="http://www.foxytunes.com/signatunes/"]FoxyTunes[/url] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lil Red Posted June 23, 2009 Author Share Posted June 23, 2009 [quote name='eagle_eye222001' post='1899005' date='Jun 22 2009, 05:05 PM']This women called four-five people to do something she could have done in three minutes? Is there any explanation for why she had to get someone else to get the bird? If not......out of line. ---------------- Now playing: [url="http://www.foxytunes.com/artist/matt+maher/track/great+things"]Matt Maher - Great Things[/url] via [url="http://www.foxytunes.com/signatunes/"]FoxyTunes[/url][/quote] +J.M.J.+ she was grossed out? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jmjtina Posted June 23, 2009 Share Posted June 23, 2009 wow. i got a dead plastic bird you could have. it's yours anytime Jess. my prayers go out to you and your hubby!!!!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luigi Posted June 23, 2009 Share Posted June 23, 2009 "i don't like confrontation, but if she starts in on my hubby (her brother), i'm afraid my temper will get the best of me." Agreed, she should be able to take care of her own dead bird. But given the fact that she didn't... Don't let her dysfunction make you dysfunctional, too. If she's driving you to possibly lose your temper, she's pushing your buttons and controlling your emotions. Although you don't like your husband's tactic of apologizing for something he shouldn't have to (and I agree that he shouldn't have to), it sounds like he's found a way to keep from getting all pished off with her every time she tries to lay some guilt & manipulation on him. And he's big enough to take care of himself, so you don't have to get angry for him. Really, he's known his sister longer than you have, and he knows the drill by now. And it's not like she actually did manipulate him - he didn't jump when she snapped her fingers. Maybe try to develop a somewhat more distant or detached perspective? - Watch these little dramas unfold the way an anthropologist would observe rituals among the tribe she's studying. Practice saying "Hmmm... I wonder what this is really about" with a quizzical look on your face. You might not use it on your sister-in-law, but it might help you keep you own blood pressure in the normal range. Good luck. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
homeschoolmom Posted June 23, 2009 Share Posted June 23, 2009 I always like the non-apology apology in these cases. "I'm sorry that you were disappointed that I would not jump out of bed, drive to your house and dispose of a dead bird for you." The unspoken thought is, of course, "I'm not sorry that I didn't do it, just that you are crazy enough to think that I would and got yourself disappointed when I wouldn't." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
VeniteAdoremus Posted June 23, 2009 Share Posted June 23, 2009 [quote name='homeschoolmom' post='1899423' date='Jun 23 2009, 03:06 PM']I always like the non-apology apology in these cases. "I'm sorry that you were disappointed that I would not jump out of bed, drive to your house and dispose of a dead bird for you." The unspoken thought is, of course, "I'm not sorry that I didn't do it, just that you are crazy enough to think that I would and got yourself disappointed when I wouldn't."[/quote] Are you my mum? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
VoTeckam Posted June 23, 2009 Share Posted June 23, 2009 [quote name='homeschoolmom' post='1899423' date='Jun 23 2009, 09:06 AM']I always like the non-apology apology in these cases. "I'm sorry that you were disappointed that I would not jump out of bed, drive to your house and dispose of a dead bird for you." The unspoken thought is, of course, "I'm not sorry that I didn't do it, just that you are crazy enough to think that I would and got yourself disappointed when I wouldn't."[/quote] Ah, the non-apology apology... how very Southern Bell of you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StColette Posted June 23, 2009 Share Posted June 23, 2009 I'm just very confused why the disposing of the dead bird could not wait until her husband got home? I mean most dead animals don't smell that soon after death lol so I don't see the point of getting upset that it isn't getting taken care of immediately. I mean seriously, I hate spiders, but I'll kill one and throw it away if Micah isn't home to take care of it. Sometimes I think everyone should be required to go camping out in the woods or live way out in the boonies for a few months as preparation for adult life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Groo the Wanderer Posted June 23, 2009 Share Posted June 23, 2009 I prolly would have said something like "No thanks. We're having pot roast tonight." But then again..who doesn't like squab? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lil Red Posted June 23, 2009 Author Share Posted June 23, 2009 +J.M.J.+ [quote name='Luigi' post='1899332' date='Jun 23 2009, 12:00 AM']You might not use it on your sister-in-law, but it might help you keep you own blood pressure in the normal range. Good luck.[/quote] thanks. when i went to pick up the kids yesterday, i acted like nothing was wrong and didn't bring it up. neither did she. [quote name='homeschoolmom' post='1899423' date='Jun 23 2009, 06:06 AM']I always like the non-apology apology in these cases. "I'm sorry that you were disappointed that I would not jump out of bed, drive to your house and dispose of a dead bird for you." The unspoken thought is, of course, "I'm not sorry that I didn't do it, just that you are crazy enough to think that I would and got yourself disappointed when I wouldn't."[/quote] thanks, hsmom. [quote name='StColette' post='1899524' date='Jun 23 2009, 08:16 AM']I'm just very confused why the disposing of the dead bird could not wait until her husband got home? I mean most dead animals don't smell that soon after death lol so I don't see the point of getting upset that it isn't getting taken care of immediately. I mean seriously, I hate spiders, but I'll kill one and throw it away if Micah isn't home to take care of it. Sometimes I think everyone should be required to go camping out in the woods or live way out in the boonies for a few months as preparation for adult life.[/quote] the only reason i can think of is that she didn't want any of the daycare kids getting curious about it and touching it. but it was in the front yard (not the back where all of them play) [quote name='Groo the Wanderer' post='1899560' date='Jun 23 2009, 09:18 AM']I prolly would have said something like "No thanks. We're having pot roast tonight." But then again..who doesn't like squab? [/quote] i'll have to tell my hubby that. although i did get to use a great joke. i told my hubby that i wasn't going to say anything else because i didn't want to ruffle any more feathers. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lil Red Posted June 23, 2009 Author Share Posted June 23, 2009 [quote name='jmjtina' post='1899066' date='Jun 22 2009, 06:51 PM']wow. i got a dead plastic bird you could have. it's yours anytime Jess. my prayers go out to you and your hubby!!!!!![/quote] +J.M.J.+ maybe i'll give her one as a birthday present? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StColette Posted June 23, 2009 Share Posted June 23, 2009 [quote name='Lil Red' post='1899564' date='Jun 23 2009, 11:26 AM']although i did get to use a great joke. i told my hubby that i wasn't going to say anything else because i didn't want to ruffle any more feathers.[/quote] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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