desertwoman Posted June 5, 2009 Share Posted June 5, 2009 [quote name='CatherineM' post='1884125' date='Jun 5 2009, 12:11 PM']You know when I read "African American" women my brain went to women still in Africa. I wasn't thinking of women in America. My brain can be a pain sometimes. Of course in America it would be due to the large percentage of African American men who are in jail or never make it to their 21st birthday due to drugs or violence. I used to have those stats at my fingertips when I was doing death penalty stuff.[/quote] No problems my friend. It happens. I prefer Black American any way. But it is a sad state of affairs around here, and many black females feel indebted to black men for some odd reason. I always tell them that they are selling themselves short, that their Mr. Wright could be white or whatever. But they ain't hearing it. It is slowly breaking down though, and it still seems that it is sociably acceptable for black men to be with white women and not vice versa. I can walk down the street with any black guy and no one bothers to look. I walk down the street with my white guy friends, and people literaly break their necks to look at us. Cars will actually slow down and people will gaze at Tony, Joey, Scott, or whoever and I. But I don't see it when I see a black man and a white woman walk down the street. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissScripture Posted June 5, 2009 Share Posted June 5, 2009 [quote name='desertwoman' post='1884234' date='Jun 5 2009, 01:30 PM'] Don't you just hate that. I understand when people tell you that you should enjoy being single for the time being, but if being single is not your vocation, then don't settle for it.[/quote] Or, when people assume because you currently aren't dating someone, you never are going to, and therefore should just go be a nun (or priest, if you're a guy). I had a TEACHER tell me in HIGH SCHOOL that I needed to be a nun. I said, "No, I am going to get married and have lots of kids." And she looked at me and said, "Well, you know, you need a boyfriend, first!" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hoosieranna Posted June 5, 2009 Share Posted June 5, 2009 [quote name='MissScripture' post='1884249' date='Jun 5 2009, 01:41 PM']Or, when people assume because you currently aren't dating someone, you never are going to, and therefore should just go be a nun (or priest, if you're a guy). I had a TEACHER tell me in HIGH SCHOOL that I needed to be a nun. I said, "No, I am going to get married and have lots of kids." And she looked at me and said, "Well, you know, you need a boyfriend, first!"[/quote] It's annoying the other way, as well. I'm happy on my own. For a long time, my relatives (excluding my folks and sister) couldn't seem to grasp that concept. If I wasn't currently with a man, I was either doing something wrong, or even better, lesbian. It's gradually sunken into their minds that a) I like being on my own, and b) yes, I like men. K, back on topic. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CatherineM Posted June 5, 2009 Share Posted June 5, 2009 My mother sent me wedding and baby announcements out of my hometown paper for years. Now that I'm finally married, she sends me obituaries. That's depressing on a whole other level. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sojourner Posted June 5, 2009 Author Share Posted June 5, 2009 [quote name='desertwoman' post='1884246' date='Jun 5 2009, 11:39 AM']No problems my friend. It happens. I prefer Black American any way. But it is a sad state of affairs around here, and many black females feel indebted to black men for some odd reason. I always tell them that they are selling themselves short, that their Mr. Wright could be white or whatever. But they ain't hearing it. It is slowly breaking down though, and it still seems that it is sociably acceptable for black men to be with white women and not vice versa. I can walk down the street with any black guy and no one bothers to look. I walk down the street with my white guy friends, and people literaly break their necks to look at us. Cars will actually slow down and people will gaze at Tony, Joey, Scott, or whoever and I. But I don't see it when I see a black man and a white woman walk down the street.[/quote] I've noticed this issue among my own friends. One of my closest friends is black, and she's dated men from all sorts of ethnic backgrounds, including a white guy for almost two years. One thing I've wondered is how economic backgrounds play a role in social acceptance of interracial dating. When I worked with impoverished teen moms, many of them were white with black boyfriends (or ex-boyfriends). There were far fewer black women with white guys -- actually, none that I can think of off the top. In higher-income circles, in my experience the trend is almost reversed, probably in part due to the educational and professional imbalance you've noted. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Norseman82 Posted June 5, 2009 Share Posted June 5, 2009 [quote name='Nadezhda' post='1884274' date='Jun 5 2009, 02:27 PM'] It's annoying the other way, as well. I'm happy on my own. For a long time, my relatives (excluding my folks and sister) couldn't seem to grasp that concept. If I wasn't currently with a man, I was either doing something wrong, or even better, lesbian. It's gradually sunken into their minds that a) I like being on my own, and b) yes, I like men. K, back on topic.[/quote] The common theme here is the social problem of eligible males not being able to find wives, whether the lack of females is due to commie social experimentation or females "taking themselves off the market", so to speak. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
loveletslive Posted June 5, 2009 Share Posted June 5, 2009 ha! i just read this article literally like 10 minutes ago when i got home from work! china has created quite a conundrum for themselves. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hoosieranna Posted June 5, 2009 Share Posted June 5, 2009 [quote name='Norseman82' post='1884335' date='Jun 5 2009, 04:44 PM']The common theme here is the social problem of eligible males not being able to find wives, whether the lack of females is due to commie social experimentation or females "taking themselves off the market", so to speak.[/quote] I got that. I read the posted article and I've come across the topic academically. I was responding to something posted by MissScripture. I tried to make it clear that my response was slightly off topic from the original post. My apologies if it wasn't entirely clear. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Old_Joe Posted June 5, 2009 Share Posted June 5, 2009 [quote name='Nadezhda' post='1884274' date='Jun 5 2009, 02:27 PM'] It's annoying the other way, as well. I'm happy on my own. For a long time, my relatives (excluding my folks and sister) couldn't seem to grasp that concept. If I wasn't currently with a man, I was either doing something wrong, or even better, lesbian. It's gradually sunken into their minds that a) I like being on my own, and b) yes, I like men. K, back on topic.[/quote] I know what you mean. some of my family members, namely my brother, can't seem to realize that a guy who likes women is okay with being single. I think he might actually be afraid of me going into the priesthood. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Old_Joe Posted June 5, 2009 Share Posted June 5, 2009 [quote name='CatherineM' post='1884280' date='Jun 5 2009, 02:40 PM']My mother sent me wedding and baby announcements out of my hometown paper for years. Now that I'm finally married, she sends me obituaries. That's depressing on a whole other level.[/quote] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ivri Haza Posted June 6, 2009 Share Posted June 6, 2009 [quote name='dominicansoul' post='1884037' date='Jun 5 2009, 11:15 AM']any reasons on why there aren't enough african american men??[/quote] they are in prisons? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
desertwoman Posted June 6, 2009 Share Posted June 6, 2009 Yeah. Economics and social circles does play a role in it. I asked my writer friend a question about it, and of the seven ladies he dated, 6 of them were white. He believes that in certain circles, the color dynamic changes. Since he is a writer and he was in an art exhibits and writing critques, he was around certain types of people. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
homeschoolmom Posted June 6, 2009 Share Posted June 6, 2009 [quote name='loveletslive' post='1884342' date='Jun 5 2009, 05:12 PM']ha! i just read this article literally like 10 minutes ago when i got home from work! china has created quite a conundrum for themselves.[/quote] And the weirdest part to me is that they couldn't envision this problem. In a culture that favors sons, promotes abortion and enforces a one-child policy... I would think a second-grader could have predicted this... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CatherineM Posted June 6, 2009 Share Posted June 6, 2009 [quote name='homeschoolmom' post='1885017' date='Jun 6 2009, 04:20 PM']And the weirdest part to me is that they couldn't envision this problem. In a culture that favors sons, promotes abortion and enforces a one-child policy... I would think a second-grader could have predicted this...[/quote] Maybe they figured it would just be another way to reduce the population while having plenty of men for their army. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Resurrexi Posted June 6, 2009 Share Posted June 6, 2009 [quote name='CatherineM' post='1884280' date='Jun 5 2009, 02:40 PM']Now that I'm finally married, she sends me obituaries.[/quote] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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