Dog Vs Friend

[whatsup]

Ok here's the story.

I have an adopted mutt (lanky 38lb shepard) who's just over 2 yrs old. She was in a shelter most of her life. She's made HUGE leaps and bounds in the social and behavorial departments the past 5 months I've had her.

HOWEVER.

She just WON'T behave when I have a certain friend around. Part of the problem is he lets her behaviors esclate until she's mouthing, jumping or other bad behaviors. She dosn't act like this around anyone else. I mean, she knocked over a toddler before but that was out of curiosity and not knowing what to do.

I told my friend that when she starts to misbehave he can punish her...he can push her down, yell, hit, grab her scruff, do whatever needs to be done. I trust him to do that...and she's a dog that responds mostly to physical behaviors (the scruff works EXTREMELY well to make her behave). But insted the behaviors get worse and worse and he is silly and playful and eventually he has enough and he gets all tempered and reacts. The dog really dosn't get his hot temper and thinks he's playing which makes him madder. I can't watch her all the time in group, and she can behave with everyone else. Just find something that works becuase it seems to be him.

What would you do? If I'm going to have a party or people over I think that its only fair my dog be around (and when its just us she keeps the creepy neighbors out of my yard). Do I tell my friend that he just has to learn to deal with my dog, or do I keep my dog in beucase she won't behave around him?

[cmotherofpirl]

[quote name='whatsup' post='1875848' date='May 26 2009, 07:21 PM']Ok here's the story.

I have an adopted mutt (lanky 38lb shepard) who's just over 2 yrs old. She was in a shelter most of her life. She's made HUGE leaps and bounds in the social and behavorial departments the past 5 months I've had her.

HOWEVER.

She just WON'T behave when I have a certain friend around. Part of the problem is he lets her behaviors esclate until she's mouthing, jumping or other bad behaviors. She dosn't act like this around anyone else. I mean, she knocked over a toddler before but that was out of curiosity and not knowing what to do.

I told my friend that when she starts to misbehave he can punish her...he can push her down, yell, hit, grab her scruff, do whatever needs to be done. I trust him to do that...and she's a dog that responds mostly to physical behaviors (the scruff works EXTREMELY well to make her behave). But insted the behaviors get worse and worse and he is silly and playful and eventually he has enough and he gets all tempered and reacts. The dog really dosn't get his hot temper and thinks he's playing which makes him madder. I can't watch her all the time in group, and she can behave with everyone else. Just find something that works becuase it seems to be him.

What would you do? If I'm going to have a party or people over I think that its only fair my dog be around (and when its just us she keeps the creepy neighbors out of my yard). Do I tell my friend that he just has to learn to deal with my dog, or do I keep my dog in beucase she won't behave around him?[/quote]
Tell the guy to grow up.
Its not the dog's fault that he is much better behaved than your friend. If your friend can't obey the house rules about the dog he would not be invited, or he can be on the leash. Your house - your pet - your rules.

[whatsup]

most times its not like he intentionally dosn't listen to me. The dog misbehaves and "tests" others but not like she challenges him. It was very apperent last night when I had a big group over and while she licked other people too much or did other mildly annoying things with them she was a real pest to my friend. I have tried to be on top of this behavior but what I do seems to be of little help becuse he un-does it.

[CatherineM]

crate. When he starts to act out, off he goes. That will change the behavior pretty quick.

[Lil Red]

[quote name='CatherineM' post='1875914' date='May 26 2009, 05:44 PM']crate. When he starts to act out, off he goes. That will change the behavior pretty quick.[/quote]
+J.M.J.+
the dog or the friend?

[cmotherofpirl]

[quote name='Lil Red' post='1875921' date='May 26 2009, 08:48 PM']+J.M.J.+
the dog or the friend?

[/quote]

[CatherineM]

[quote name='Lil Red' post='1875921' date='May 26 2009, 06:48 PM']+J.M.J.+
the dog or the friend?

[/quote]

Depends on which one you like the best.

[T-Bone _]

You could try having them both neutered.

[Saint Therese]

Dogs over people any day.

[whatsup]

[quote name='T-Bone _' post='1876003' date='May 26 2009, 08:58 PM']You could try having them both neutered.[/quote]

I just about died at this one

[Resurrexi]

I'm afraid of dogs.

[Groo the Wanderer]

Concerning the dog:

start with
then progress to
if it is still acting out then
and

if it STILL continues, then I am afraid you have no choice but to get out your
leading either to , , or


then go get a like a normal person

[homeschoolmom]

Honestly, some people don't like disciplining other people's dogs in the same way they don't like disciplining other people's children. If you notice that the dog behaves badly in large groups, please put him elsewhere. If there was a party at your house and your errant child was allowed to go around and pinch people (for example) which is "mildly annoying" like licking (I find licking VERY annoying-- I'm allergic), your guests would expect YOU to do something.

Imho, your dog, your responsibility.

[Jaime]

there is no need to ever hit a dog

[VoTeckam]

It sounds like your friend is being unreasonable in some respects, but it is your responsibilty to discipline your dog. I happen to LOVE dogs but not everyone feels the same way. When you invite them to your house it is not unreasonable for them to expect not be jumped on mouthed by a dog.

Do you do any trainign with your dog? I rescued and American bulldog about 7 months ago and I have spent a lot of time training her (since she is a bully breed and I didnt knwo her history it is very importnat she is well behaved). Sit, stay, come have very practical uses that it seems like your dog could benefit from.