whatsup Posted May 14, 2009 Share Posted May 14, 2009 I've mentioned my best friend before. Anyway. We're just friends. The other night we were discussing cars and I was saying how a certian car was cute. Long story short without thinking I said, "Oh, yeah, I forget you're a guy." Now this isn't something he's ever been particularly sensitive over. And in my other (completely plutonic) guy-girl group friendships we said this all the time with no hurt feelings. We said it going both ways..guys "forgetting" that I was a girl. Infact, in other circles outside of my college buddies, the verbal recognition of gender forgetfulness in the face of casual disagreement is fairly common place. Anyway he sounded genuinly hurt so I told him all the things that made him guy-like and that seemed to satisfy him. I never want to look too far into things but to me this was mighty strange. The only time I've ever taken ofence is when I've liked the guy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Groo the Wanderer Posted May 14, 2009 Share Posted May 14, 2009 [quote name='whatsup' post='1867023' date='May 14 2009, 06:37 AM']I've mentioned my best friend before. Anyway. We're just friends. The other night we were discussing cars and I was saying how a certian car was cute. Long story short without thinking I said, "Oh, yeah, I forget you're a guy." Now this isn't something he's ever been particularly sensitive over. And in my other (completely plutonic) guy-girl group friendships we said this all the time with no hurt feelings. We said it going both ways..guys "forgetting" that I was a girl. Infact, in other circles outside of my college buddies, the verbal recognition of gender forgetfulness in the face of casual disagreement is fairly common place. Anyway he sounded genuinly hurt so I told him all the things that made him guy-like and that seemed to satisfy him. I never want to look too far into things but to me this was mighty strange. The only time I've ever taken ofence is when I've liked the guy.[/quote] Don't worry about it. The fact that you are so close as friends that you forget about things like that is cool really. That said, I am a manly-man due and I think the new VW Beetle and the SmartCar are cute! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
whatsup Posted May 14, 2009 Author Share Posted May 14, 2009 lol I was talking about the new VW beetle. I'm not so much concerned I really hurt his feelings...just examining the plutonic-ness of the relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
whatsup Posted May 14, 2009 Author Share Posted May 14, 2009 lol I was talking about the new VW beetle. I'm not so much concerned I really hurt his feelings...just examining the plutonic-ness of the relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HisChildForever Posted May 14, 2009 Share Posted May 14, 2009 I totally get what you were saying to him. It's not that you FORGOT he was a guy, but that your comment "this car is cute" is generally LOST on guys, something you realized only after you said it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
whatsup Posted May 14, 2009 Author Share Posted May 14, 2009 [quote name='HisChildForever' post='1867197' date='May 14 2009, 12:29 PM']I totally get what you were saying to him. It's not that you FORGOT he was a guy, but that your comment "this car is cute" is generally LOST on guys, something you realized only after you said it.[/quote] lol yes I knew what I meant Poor thing was hurt though. I had to talk him out of leaving empty pizza boxes around his apartment to "prove" he was a guy. Where do they come up with theses things? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HisChildForever Posted May 14, 2009 Share Posted May 14, 2009 (edited) Well, here's how I figure it. Girls tend to over-analyze and read into EVERYTHING - particularly with a guy she likes. Just an example. Yes the movies exaggerate this but every girl can't deny it's happened to her at one point or another. Guys, however, take things more at face value rather than reading between the lines the way a girl does. That's how I've always understood it anyway. So he took your comment "Oh, I forget you're a guy!" at face value. If you look at it that way, it can seem offensive. "So what, I'm just like one of the girls to you?" But if he really thinks about it, he'll recognize [a] that your comment would have been lost on him, which is why you made the second remark and [b] it's a GOOD thing that you may "recognize" him alongside your girlfriends...this does NOT mean you see him as a girl, but that you're extremely comfortable around him. Edited May 14, 2009 by HisChildForever Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KnightofChrist Posted May 14, 2009 Share Posted May 14, 2009 [quote name='Groo the Wanderer' post='1867062' date='May 14 2009, 07:54 AM']Don't worry about it. The fact that you are so close as friends that you forget about things like that is cool really. That said, I am a manly-man due and I think the new VW Beetle and the SmartCar are cute! [/quote] But really how Smart is it when it comes into contact with a Semi, or a soda can? /off_topic Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Groo the Wanderer Posted May 14, 2009 Share Posted May 14, 2009 Didn't name it. Just think it's cute...in a roller-skate kind of way. *meep-meep* Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Theoketos Posted May 14, 2009 Share Posted May 14, 2009 I think he doth protest too much and needs to wrestle something powerful. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StColette Posted May 14, 2009 Share Posted May 14, 2009 [quote name='Theoketos' post='1867281' date='May 14 2009, 02:40 PM']I think he doth protest too much and needs to wrestle something powerful.[/quote] like a gator? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Theoketos Posted May 14, 2009 Share Posted May 14, 2009 [quote name='StColette' post='1867283' date='May 14 2009, 02:41 PM']like a gator?[/quote] That would probably do it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StColette Posted May 14, 2009 Share Posted May 14, 2009 [quote name='Groo the Wanderer' post='1867275' date='May 14 2009, 02:33 PM']Didn't name it. Just think it's cute...in a roller-skate kind of way. *meep-meep*[/quote] Does anyone find it funny that big ol' trucks and suvs have wimpy horns? lol My dad used to drive this huge truck and it had this tiny little girlie sounding horn, lol it always cracked me up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Bus Station Posted May 15, 2009 Share Posted May 15, 2009 [quote name='StColette' post='1867290' date='May 14 2009, 02:49 PM']Does anyone find it funny that big ol' trucks and suvs have wimpy horns? lol My dad used to drive this huge truck and it had this tiny little girlie sounding horn, lol it always cracked me up.[/quote] They're just sensitive Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
southern california guy Posted May 15, 2009 Share Posted May 15, 2009 (edited) [quote name='whatsup' post='1867023' date='May 14 2009, 04:37 AM']I never want to look too far into things but to me this was mighty strange. The only time I've ever taken ofence is when I've liked the guy.[/quote] So.. do you like him? Are you interested in him as more than a friend? It sounds like you already know that he likes you. Edited May 15, 2009 by southern california guy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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