How Do You Tell If A Shirt Is Too Tight?

[Adrestia]

layers help.

[missionseeker]

'cept in florida. then they kill you.

jjjjjuuuuuuuust kiddin'

Edited May 7, 2009 by missionseeker

[Slappo]

[quote name='HisChildForever' post='1860272' date='May 6 2009, 08:25 PM']I hope that you dress as modestly as you expect your girlfriend to.[/quote]

I actually won't even wear that polo shirt in my avatar picture around her if the top button isn't buttoned or I don't have a t-shirt on underneath it anymore. I won't wear sleeveless shirts in public (only when going to bed, or underneath clothes). I'm usually conscious of how high up on my thigh my shorts are when I sit down or am on a couch, and I [b]definitely[/b] don't wear pants/shorts that show underwear....

I think the only thing modesty police could get me on is whether or not I dress too casual sometimes or that I don't always make sure my face is clean shaved (I have a beard but I don't trim the edges very often).

Granted.... this is 100x easier as a man. It took me an hour and a half or two hours to find the shirt I got my girlfriend for her birthday, and that shirt is actually the reason I made this thread .

I'm 100% glad I don't regularly have to shop for womens clothes.


EDIT: It seems like to shop for a woman's shirt that isn't too tight on the chest, but isn't too loose on the neckline is near impossible...

Edited May 7, 2009 by Slappo

[Slappo]

[quote name='tgoldson' post='1860275' date='May 6 2009, 08:26 PM']layers help.[/quote]

Yeah, when I got her a shirt I was kind of hoping it would be a shirt she wouldn't have to layer in for the sake of dressing cool for the summer heat. I know layers help a ton for women, but I'm sure you folks would love to not be overheated in the summer from having to wear 2-3 layers!

[Adrestia]

[quote name='Slappo' post='1860289' date='May 6 2009, 10:34 PM']I'm 100% glad I don't regularly have to shop for womens clothes.[/quote]
try finding a modest wedding dress.

even the ones on the "modest bride" web sites are low cut, spaghetti strapped or worse.








disclaimer: I've been looking for F.Q.I., not myself.

[tinytherese]

Perhaps this link will help.

[url="http://www.purefashion.com/modesty"]http://www.purefashion.com/modesty[/url]

And tgoldson, that's surprising to hear about the modest bride websites. This one seems fine though. [url="http://www.beautifullymodest.com/"]http://www.beautifullymodest.com/[/url]

Not that I'm wedding gown shopping. Heck, I don't even have a boyfriend. I'm just a chastity buff.

[princessgianna]

[quote name='missionseeker' post='1860253' date='May 6 2009, 10:14 PM']Peasant tops are sort of our friends. 'cept sometimes they just make us look pregnant. Empire waists work for dresses. A little bit of the same problem tough.[/quote]
And they are cute but yea it can make me (anyway) look overweight!

I HATE that!

Edited May 7, 2009 by princessgianna

[Adrestia]

[quote name='tinytherese' post='1860305' date='May 6 2009, 10:44 PM']And tgoldson, that's surprising to hear about the modest bride websites. This one seems fine though. [url="http://www.beautifullymodest.com/"]http://www.beautifullymodest.com/[/url][/quote]
short sleeves - especially those miniature cap sleeves are not modest enough. 3/4 sleeves are tolerable, but no elbows.

[missionseeker]

this one is fun

[url="http://www.bridesandjokers.com/"]http://www.bridesandjokers.com/[/url]

[southern california guy]

[quote name='missionseeker' post='1860326' date='May 6 2009, 09:58 PM']this one is fun

[url="http://www.bridesandjokers.com/"]http://www.bridesandjokers.com/[/url][/quote]

I think the real problem is that if she's good looking than all sorts of guys are going to be checking her out regardless of the clothes she wears.

The best solution is to have her either wear a veil over her face, or a bag over her head

[Slappo]

[quote name='southern california guy' post='1860377' date='May 6 2009, 09:26 PM']The best solution is to have her either wear a veil over her face, or a bag over her head [/quote]



totally dig it.

[missionseeker]

[quote name='southern california guy' post='1860377' date='May 6 2009, 11:26 PM']I think the real problem is that if she's good looking than all sorts of guys are going to be checking her out regardless of the clothes she wears.

The best solution is to have her either wear a veil over her face, or a bag over her head [/quote]


I'm totally beginning to this IS the answer.

Here is why:

We go to the store, we sort through and try on literally dozens of shirts and pants hunting for something that is modest while not completely frumpy. Sometimes we spend extra money on something so that we can we can be modest. We konw that there will always be the ruffian guys that you run into, but we can try for the guys appreciate modesty, right?

WRONG. Apparently it's a big fat wrong. Because no matter how much tortuous time we spend hunting, some guys will still say "it's too tight" or "you shoulders aren't covered enough" or "that is really immodest". I mean, sure there are times when we don't realize how it looks to someone else. But seriously, girls who care about modesty generally do.

And then hear that that's not even good enough? Why even bother? We try hard and all they can is the two inches off the shoulder. (no offense, Slappo, just an example)


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Slappo, if you are hunting for a shirt for your gf, I'd really recommend maybe another gift? It's hard for US to shop for them. Different brands are different sizes. You can never tell if something is too tight or short or long or see through or whatever.

Just my opinion.

Edited May 7, 2009 by missionseeker

[johnnydigit]

[quote name='Nihil Obstat' post='1860232' date='May 6 2009, 09:01 PM']Modesty is a subject that I try not to get too deep into... Past the obvious surface stuff, I won't touch it with a 39 1/2 ft. pole. Way beyond me.[/quote]

i learned the hard way. i'm wearing my flame suit as we speak [img]http://i48.photobucket.com/albums/f226/PursuitGT/flamesuit.gif[/img]

i agree with what the others said - if it even crosses your mind, then change it.

[url="http://www.purefashion.com/modesty"]http://www.purefashion.com/modesty[/url] <great starting point!


i learned that for Mass, the altar server's goal is to try to remain hidden. no act or gesture should take away from the focus on the priest/altar/Sacrifice. at places where i don't wear an alb, i try to serve with that in mind. so then it kind of carries with me outside, except when i want to wear a loud Catholic t-shirt.

in a prayer for lectors, one part reads, "By my physical action of reading, I am the instrument through whom You become present to the assembly in Your word and through whom You impart Your teachings. [b]Let nothing in my manner disturb Your people or close their hearts to the action of Your spirit.[/b]" i think we should carry this outside as well. "By my physical act of [i]dressing[/i].."

[url="http://www.catholicmodesty.com"]http://www.catholicmodesty.com[/url] <go deeper.


"A true love of God is necessary to grow in modesty." i think this may go hand in hand. it seems that as the person grows, the clothes may mysteriously grow looser and longer.

[img]http://i48.photobucket.com/albums/f226/PursuitGT/flamesuit.gif[/img]

Edited May 7, 2009 by johnnydigit

[Slappo]

[quote name='missionseeker' post='1860404' date='May 6 2009, 08:45 PM']WRONG. Apparently it's a big fat wrong. Because no matter how much tortuous time we spend hunting, some guys will still say "it's too tight" or "you shoulders aren't covered enough" or "that is really immodest". I mean, sure there are times when we don't realize how it looks to someone else. But seriously, girls who care about modesty generally do.

And then hear that that's not even good enough? Why even bother? We try hard and all they can is the two inches off the shoulder. (no offense, Slappo, just an example)


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Slappo, if you are hunting for a shirt for your gf, I'd really recommend maybe another gift? It's hard for US to shop for them. Different brands are different sizes. You can never tell if something is too tight or short or long or see through or whatever.

Just my opinion.[/quote]


I never said 2 inches was immodest... I'm just saying for someone to say "If you have to ask, then it is immodest" definitely does not work because there are many people who have legitimate questions on the matter.

And believe me, even if we think the sleeve could be a little longer, or it could be a little higher cut, it is definitely much appreciated that it is much less revealing etc then most dress.

It is frustrating when something is immodest though, and when asked and told that it could be a little higher cut etc they defend themselves... just don't ask if you won't be okay getting an answer you didn't expect

[missionseeker]

no, i didn't mean you said that, it was just an example (taken from something that you said, BUT that is not something that I haven't heard).