How To Start A Chastity Talk

[Groo the Wanderer]

Give them all an aspirin. Tell them to hold it between their knees until until after the wedding reception.

[tinytherese]

Thank you everyone. Overall it went well tonight. Fr. commented that the youth group seemed to be intently listening to me. After I passed out copies of "Pure Love," "Pure Womanhood," and "Pure Manhood" one of the boys asked for the first two to give to his sister.

I don't know how much of an affect that I really had on them and looking back I realized that there was some other stuff that I wish that I would have remembered to talk about, but overall it seemed to go well. I didn't get a standing ovation or anything, but I sure had their attention.

I started off with asking if they knew what I was there to talk to them about, not everyone did, "I know what you might be thinking, 'Oh no not another sex talk,' " and proceeded to tell them about my own poor experiences in learning about chastity. They were surprised when I told them that abstinence and chastity are not the same thing!

Edited April 16, 2009 by tinytherese

[tinytherese]

I thought that perhaps the funniest part of the talk was when I was talking about a man having a desire to both use a woman and also to love a woman and I brought up how protective my older brother is of me his little sister. (He used to be a police officer too and he said that if it were up to him I would never marry anyone.) Then Fr. spoke up commenting about it being apart of a man to protect women, even saying that he felt protective of his younger sister too. One of the guys was really surprised by this.

"You have a sister!" Aparentally, he thought that priests don't have families!

[sweetpea316]

[quote name='tinytherese' post='1837519' date='Apr 16 2009, 04:48 PM']Aparentally, he thought that priests don't have families![/quote]
how funny!

Very glad to hear that it went well...I know you put a lot of work into it!

[tinytherese]

It turns out that the chastity booklets that I gave them have been well received and the kids that didn't make it to the youth group meeting are requesting them.

[Michael Lopez]

If I am talking with other Catholics about Chastity I always start with CCC #2520-2527 "The Battle for Purity".
If people say, "I am not Catholic, so I do not accept that teaching" I simply reply,"By my Baptism I must tell you the truth. The truth is that fornication, cohabitation, ect. are actions that are objective sin, and you can't get an ought out of an is, sin is sin, let us call sin by the correct name.
Ezekiel 3:17-19 says,'Thus the word of the Lord came to me: Son of Man, I have appointed you a watchman for the house of Isreal. When you hear a word from my mouth, you shall warn them for me. If I say to the wicked man, You shall surely die; and you do not warn him or speak out to dissuade him from his wicked conduct so that he may live: that man shall die for his sin, but I will hold you responsible for his death. If, on the other hand, you have warned the wicked man, yet he has not turned away from his evil nor from his wicked conduct, then he shall die for his sin, but you shall save you life."
So as long as you tell them in Faith and Love you did your best.

[Treehugger]

I hear a chastity talk recently that was so well done.

The speaker began by saying, "Tonight I am going to talk about sex. Who's heard of sex?"

Then the speaker asked, "Who can tell me some good things that come from sex?"

One teen said babies...the next said love (he explained love doesn't come from sex but it can be a part of it...and someone else said pleasure. The speaker continued saying some of the bizarre answers he's gotten in the past like "money"

Then he talked about the two purposes of sex...

Eventually he explained that you can know if sex is good by whether or not good is coming from sex...ex...no one ever says, "Aww, check it out...I have an STD...isn't it wonderful?"

Whereas, people always go, "It's a baby! That's precious! How adorable!"

He also said this: "If you only save sex for marriage because you’re afraid of getting pregnant or getting an STD, then you are not living with chastity as your attitude."

He spoke in great length about all of these things, was super entertaining, and down-to-earth....he also did a skit with his wife and had his newborn daughter there while he gave the talk.

[Old_Joe]

Me and a couple of other guys were doing a talk on Theology of the Body. we started with what it was like the garden of eden and having no shame. Then my friend kindly asked everyone to strip naked so they could feel shame. of course he wasn't serious, but it was a good way to get ball rolling and a good icebreaker.

[Proud2BCatholic139]

[quote name='tinytherese' post='1833245' date='Apr 12 2009, 10:15 PM']I am VERY familiar with Jason and Crystalina Evert and their work, in fact they are the reason why I am so into promoting chastity and started a chastity club at my secular women's college that FINALLY got approved of. I'm supposed to talk to a catholic youth group about chastity and I was wondering how to start it. I've got plenty of information about how to live it out, I just need help with starting it.[/quote]

My best advice is to go to the Blessed Sacrament, and ask Jesus what you should do with this ministry. Always be obiedient and follow where the Spirit leads you. Ask our Lady through her Immaculate Heart what you should speak...Pray fervently, especially the Rosary.

God bless you.