tinytherese Posted April 13, 2009 Share Posted April 13, 2009 I am VERY familiar with Jason and Crystalina Evert and their work, in fact they are the reason why I am so into promoting chastity and started a chastity club at my secular women's college that FINALLY got approved of. I'm supposed to talk to a catholic youth group about chastity and I was wondering how to start it. I've got plenty of information about how to live it out, I just need help with starting it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CatherineM Posted April 13, 2009 Share Posted April 13, 2009 The best one I ever saw, got everyone's attention by talking about toothbrushes. People who think it is completely normal for teenagers to sleep around, will get white in the face at the suggestion that they share their toothbrushes with anyone. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mcts Posted April 13, 2009 Share Posted April 13, 2009 one that i heard actually had audience participation. we had 5 volunteers or so and a strip of duct tape. you put on on one persons arm (it will hurt this person) and say that the tape is doing what it is supposed to do and is sticking to what it's on. then you put the same piece on another person's arm. it will stick less and will be doing it's job less. as you go on, the tape as less to "give" i thought it was pretty cool. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tinytherese Posted April 13, 2009 Author Share Posted April 13, 2009 (edited) Good. Edited April 13, 2009 by tinytherese Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zealousrap Posted April 13, 2009 Share Posted April 13, 2009 I like to tell the story of St. Maria Goretti Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tinytherese Posted April 13, 2009 Author Share Posted April 13, 2009 [quote name='zealousrap' post='1833560' date='Apr 13 2009, 12:50 AM']I like to tell the story of St. Maria Goretti [/quote] That might freak them out though (and me too. Rape may be a woman's greatest fear.) Perhaps starting off with the story of Bishop Nonus and St. Pelagia might be a good idea though. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tinytherese Posted April 13, 2009 Author Share Posted April 13, 2009 (edited) Don't get me wrong, St. Maria is cool, it's just that her story has some sensitive elements in it. Edited April 13, 2009 by tinytherese Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zoecool13 Posted April 13, 2009 Share Posted April 13, 2009 My wife and I give chastity talks, and sometimes we start it off by doing a little skit where I ask for her permission to let me go out and sleep around with other women so I can "get practice" and be my best for her in our marriage. She then slaps me across the face (one time she missed and hit my ear so the next hour of the talk it was ringing non stop and really annoying)... but that seems to get their attention, and gets rid of the the reasoning many people have to have to sex before marriage or with others right off the bat. I'd suggest using your own story as to why you're giving this talk as how to start it. Why is it important to you? I've seen several people do the duct tape (although clear packing tape is better because you can then show the residue). I never recommend it, nor use it because I think it uses mostly scare tactics which I don't approve of nor support in chastity talks. At least that's how a lot of youth get out of that example, and how i've seen it used each time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pio Posted April 13, 2009 Share Posted April 13, 2009 Is the talk for young men and women together, or just one or the other? If you don't want to use St. Maria Goretti as an opener (which is totally understandable), you could choose a few Saints and discuss why they might have stayed chase. Or Saint Mary Magdalene, and why she chose Jesus+ over being unchaste. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tinytherese Posted April 13, 2009 Author Share Posted April 13, 2009 This talk consists of both middle school and high school guys and girls together and the youth ministry volunteer and young parish priest will supervise. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tinytherese Posted April 15, 2009 Author Share Posted April 15, 2009 I am sooooo incredibly pumped for this! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sirklawd Posted April 15, 2009 Share Posted April 15, 2009 Hey hey. I've been meaning to respond to this. I recently put together a dating Lifenight for my youthgroup. It focused on the definition of love (The whole talk was basically about chastity but i didn't label it so kids wouldn't be scared away). It was my first (and really only) chastity talk, but I guess it went over alright. When I gave the talk the first thing I did was acknowledge their assumptions and worries about "dating talks". Everyone just assumes the church's position is just a list of rules. I explained that its not really a list of no's but fences put up at the edges of cliffs. That the church really has our best interests in mind. It doesn't want us to have failed relationships. It wants us to experience true love. I then also acknowledge how I had gone my whole life and never heard that message. If you say that you understand how people can assume those things about the churches view, it sorta disarms them and opens them up to listen. - and do it in a funny way. i'll send you my talk so you can see what i mean Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
prose Posted April 15, 2009 Share Posted April 15, 2009 (edited) [quote name='mcts' post='1833292' date='Apr 12 2009, 09:37 PM']one that i heard actually had audience participation. we had 5 volunteers or so and a strip of duct tape. you put on on one persons arm (it will hurt this person) and say that the tape is doing what it is supposed to do and is sticking to what it's on. then you put the same piece on another person's arm. it will stick less and will be doing it's job less. as you go on, the tape as less to "give" i thought it was pretty cool.[/quote] I don't mean to be rude, but I don't like this message at all. Just because someone has pre-marital sex, does not mean they no longer have as much love to give or whatever it is you are suggesting they give. If you are not talking about love, to what are you referring? Especially in a college group where several people may be changing their lifestyle to be chaste, and not maintaining chastity. I would maybe suggest looking into [url="http://www.thrillofthechaste.com/"]http://www.thrillofthechaste.com/[/url] by dawn eden. Remember, these are not teens or children you are talking to. These are people that are in an adult time of life making adult decisions. From what I understand, you formed this group in order to find camaraderie, and not to necessarily teach everyone. Maybe have everyone read the book, or watch chaste movies. I think the best way to start is to really establish what the goals are of your group and then what the members would like to acheive and then go from there. These are people who are joining because they already believe that chastity is the strongest choice, not because they need to be converted. It is important to keep that in mind Good luck, what a great idea for this endeavor!! Edited April 15, 2009 by prose Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dUSt Posted April 15, 2009 Share Posted April 15, 2009 I'd just take them all to the local Wal-Mart at about 1am in the morning. A few minutes there will keep them all chaste for a good 5-10 years. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Winchester Posted April 15, 2009 Share Posted April 15, 2009 If you can get it through people's heads right off the bat that married people having sex are being chaste, then you will have made incredible progress. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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