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[quote name='cmotherofpirl' date='Mar 18 2004, 11:50 AM'] But you will discover your baby will be your best teacher. The hardest thing is getting over the idea you are in charge of your day. If the baby is having a good day, hurray - you get to do the dishes. If the baby is having a bad day, wow, you get to go to the bathroom yourself, maybe.! [/quote]
The baby is already in charge of my day, so I know it is going to get worse. My work schedule has been completely reworked since I won't get to work until 8 AM at the earliest, and that's if I'm lucky. At six months pregnant, I'm constantly being kicked and kept awake at night cause little Dominic doesn't want to go to sleep. So I've started to work my day around when I feel up to things. It is pretty frustrating though, and for the past month or so my to-do lists are only half done if I'm lucky by the end of the day. I just hope Jared doesn't get too frustrated....I'm the patient one most of the time.

Right now I'm just taking things how they come, cause I'm going to stay at work as long as I can before the baby is born. But he's wearing me out already. :P

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popestpiusx

[quote name='cmotherofpirl' date='Mar 18 2004, 08:48 AM'] Dearie, there is one important detail somebody forgot to tell you.
The baby sets the schedule, not you. You are bringing a unique little individual into your household. Would you tell an important household guest when they may or may not eat? Your schedule, to a large extent, is set by the child. They know what they need.

Sometimes the baby will want to nurse for long periods. This usually means the munchkin is getting ready for a growth spurt, and is increasing your milk supply. You won't know this in advance, so if you are trying to regulate the feedings, a schedule could be more of a hindrance than a help.

If the baby is in the same bed with you, you both will get a lot more sleep, and both be happier, more pleasant people. Humans are not meant to sleep alone. [/quote]
So very true, mother. I highly recommend the family bed thing (if you want the perspective of a father) for the very reason you gave: more sleep for all involved. I can't wait to have another. :)

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homeschoolmom

In my experience things got worse towards the end of pregnancy (work wise) but got somewhat better right after the baby was born. They sleep a lot and you don't have to hold them all the time. This is only a very brief window, they do wake up and they are HUNGRY!! :lol:

I didn't think I would be able to homeschool with a baby on my lap all the time, but I do. You get creative. You just have to be able to adjust quickly!

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Kilroy the Ninja

The baby Ninja Crusader slept with us for the first month or so (much to Don John's chagrin - he was afraid of crushing the boy, but I knew better), and then we moved him to the cradle next to the bed. Although to this day he sleeps more soundly on our pillow-top soft-side water bed with the down comforter...hmmm, naptime soon...

Anyway, just remember to take each day as it comes, and enjoy the early moments and live in the moment as much as you can because they will be over before you know it. And don't worry because you will forget everything (or many things) you will have read when you get to it. Although, in a crisis you'll probably remember exactly what you need to know.

If reading everything you can right now makes you feel better then read! It made me feel better and I was more confident and perservered through what was shaping up to be a pretty ugly post-partum depression. My house has gone to pot because of my little bundle of joy, but he's happy, healthy and pretty-well adjusted for a 1 year old. We have clean clothes and hot food to eat from a mostly clean kitchen (without a dishwasher there is ALWAYS something in need of washing!) and plenty of interesting things for the kiddo to look at (read: toys strewn about the house). I've resigned myself to the knowledge that my house will not be the way I really want it until he's about 3. And by then we'll probably have another one running around....who knows.

Bottom line: Trust your maternal instincts - they will kick in as soon as you see that innocent little person staring back at you. If you feel like the baby needs to eat, then feed him. If that doesn't help, check the diaper or the clothes (something maybe pinching or twisting or just uncomfortable). Learn how to properly swaddle your newborn. Tightly. It may seem mean, but trust me, for most babies this is a measure of security as swaddling is akin to being in the womb all closed up. It's scary being able to flail your arms and legs about and hit nothing if you're used to being in a womb!

Anyway, I'm full of all this info from...reading.... a lot while pregnant.

You'll be a wonderful mother and you've got some great support here at PM (CMom, Az to mention a couple).

As always, God will not give you more than you can handle!

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[quote name='Kilroy the Ninja' date='Mar 18 2004, 02:34 PM'] The baby Ninja Crusader slept with us for the first month or so (much to Don John's chagrin - he was afraid of crushing the boy, but I knew better), and then we moved him to the cradle next to the bed. [/quote]
Well, as long as you don't make him sleep on that futon *coughassoftasconcretecough* he should be okay.

:sweat: I love you. Bye.

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IcePrincessKRS

[quote name='marielapin' date='Mar 18 2004, 11:30 AM'] Does the family bed thing work well if both parents are tossers? [/quote]
Trust me when I say that'll soon stop. You will make a sort of "shelter" with your body so Mr. Tosser doesn't lob Dominic in his sleep. You, as mommy, will be aware of where he is all night long.

I usually sleep in the middle now, and I never toss around anymore. Adrienne started off in a bedside crib, then she began sleeping the first part of the night in the crib and the second half in bed with us (because mommy is too lazy to put her back...), NOW she sleeps with us all night long. Matt tosses around less than he used to, but he still has alot of limbs to account for. lol

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BullnaChinaShop

[quote name='IcePrincessKRS' date='Mar 18 2004, 02:42 PM']Trust me when I say that'll soon stop. You will make a sort of "shelter" with your body so Mr. Tosser doesn't lob Dominic in his sleep. You, as mommy, will be aware of where he is all night long. [/quote]
The problem in this case is more Mrs. Tosser that Mr. Tosser. I just stay on my third of the bed and no one gets hurt. :P

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IcePrincessKRS

haha Well, what I meant was Mrs. Tosser will stop tossing on account of the baby and Mr. Tosser can toss if he wants to because baby will be sheltered from it.

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When my daughter slept with us we usually just ended up pushing her off the bed. She was so small, it was pretty easy. Size has it's benefits.

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BullnaChinaShop

[quote name='dUSt' date='Mar 18 2004, 03:05 PM'] When my daughter slept with us we usually just ended up pushing her off the bed. She was so small, it was pretty easy. Size has it's benefits. [/quote]
:rolling: :D

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