tinytherese Posted January 14, 2009 Share Posted January 14, 2009 So far I've thought of us reading Pure Love and Pure Womanhood. Also, to make posters to bring in awareness of why to be pure and facts about contraceptives that most people don't know about. It would also be nice if we could create our own chastity talk or play Romance Without Regret in an auditorium or other movie viewing area. Does anyone have any ideas about what we could do at meetings or activities that we could do to interact with the campus? Just so you know, this is a secular women's college. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CatherineM Posted January 14, 2009 Share Posted January 14, 2009 I'm thinking that orgies are out of the question, so how about sewing lessons. I know that sounds silly, but it is increasingly difficult for women to find modest clothing, and making your own is an alternative. The girl guides group at our church did this. Found an older woman who teaches at the sewing center. You get free lessons when you buy a machine, so she came and gave some basic lessons thinking that she might get a customer down the line. She showed them how to do some basic repairs, and how to alter a pattern to make a hem line lower or a neckline higher. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sirklawd Posted January 14, 2009 Share Posted January 14, 2009 Not to pimp out my own thing, but check out this facebook group I started. Alot of the posts in the discussion board are about coming up with ideas to spread chastity. [url="http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=29191034554"]http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=29191034554[/url] (i believe thats the link..facebook is blocked here) The trick with chastity is that its been labeled as lame and uncool and stupid. Any creative attempt to spread chastity has to recognize that problem and try to cut through it, or dodge around it, or they will fail. One thing I heard about (and made a topic about in the facebook group) is how the chastity group at Harvard gave out hersey kisses to all incoming freshmen girls with a note that said "you are worth waiting for", and then promoted a chastity talk that the group was putting on. I'm sure a bunch of the girls understood the message, but some people got mad, thinking women were being "held back", or that women who hadn't waited were somehow unworthy. I still think this hersey kiss idea is a good idea, and I would do it. Most of the time though, I like to be more blunt. Most people want purity, they just have to be reminded that they want it. One campaign I'm working on is a series of posters with photos of women holding up signs 'I am not a sex doll'. I really like that sort of in-your-face stuff. Thats just me though... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
puellapaschalis Posted January 14, 2009 Share Posted January 14, 2009 Does this mean that your club got approved? Coolness! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sirklawd Posted January 14, 2009 Share Posted January 14, 2009 OOPs! sorry! I'm an idiot haha. I was getting my avatar images mixed up, and expected your facebook picture here on phatmass thats why i didnt "recognize" you. Clearly you know about my group haha, your one of the biggest supporters! im a dummy 4 sure anyway. did you ever read up on that harvard group? it was interesting to see all the different negative forces they had to deal with. Thats expected though. It did seem that they had alot of luck with guest speakers. Like it seemed to be their main draw. If I had my way I would get Jason Evert to speak to every highschool and ever college campus, twice a year. He's so expensive though! another idea that I've had for a while is something tentatively called "Condoms for Flowers". College campuses are ALL about giving away free condoms. Like they just have buckets of them like they are free mints or something, and many activities are just ways to distribute condoms to the students. (Many of my fellow RA's held such activities, I always thought it was funny how RAs would encourage sex, but discourage drinking) Anyway, this idea would be to set up a booth/table/hotdog stand. Where you are giving out roses or other flowers, but you charge condoms. The whole activity is based around teaching people to give out of love instead of taking out of love. The booth would teach people that by giving a loved one a flower instead of a condom, it shows they truely want to make their loved one happy and feel loved without any sexual trade-off. The flowers could even come with a note that explains that sentiment, so that the person who eventually ends up with the flower understands the special significance. Something like "I bought this flower with my condom, and I give it to you to show that when I say I love you I want nothing in return" or something more romantic... To say this demonstration is an uphill battle is an understatement. The people running this thing will probably get attacked from everywhere. You will have to train your crew NOT to get defensive and angry, it will ruin everything. You can stand by your position, but with a happy, peaceful attitude. With this sort of thing, success isnt in the amount of flowers you give out, but just in getting the message out. Other suggestions: -specifically setup the display after one of your guest speakers, in the hopes that after hearing the talk people will be more likely to get the flowers. -specifically setup the display next to people giving out condoms. You'll be making a GREAT counter-point. (I should really post this in the facebookgroup..i think im going to do that tonight) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Church Punk Posted January 14, 2009 Share Posted January 14, 2009 Hmmm... Not having sex, and anything else that is chaste would be a good start HAHAHAH Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tinytherese Posted January 15, 2009 Author Share Posted January 15, 2009 [quote name='puellapaschalis' post='1751336' date='Jan 14 2009, 03:29 PM']Does this mean that your club got approved? Coolness![/quote] 98 % there. It's almost a complete guarantee at this point. The student government told us to revise our constitution. I've already submitted that in and then we should be covered. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tinytherese Posted January 15, 2009 Author Share Posted January 15, 2009 [quote name='Sirklawd' post='1751412' date='Jan 14 2009, 06:26 PM']OOPs! sorry! I'm an idiot haha. I was getting my avatar images mixed up, and expected your facebook picture here on phatmass thats why i didnt "recognize" you. Clearly you know about my group haha, your one of the biggest supporters! im a dummy 4 sure anyway. did you ever read up on that harvard group? it was interesting to see all the different negative forces they had to deal with. Thats expected though. It did seem that they had alot of luck with guest speakers. Like it seemed to be their main draw. If I had my way I would get Jason Evert to speak to every highschool and ever college campus, twice a year. He's so expensive though! another idea that I've had for a while is something tentatively called "Condoms for Flowers". College campuses are ALL about giving away free condoms. Like they just have buckets of them like they are free mints or something, and many activities are just ways to distribute condoms to the students. (Many of my fellow RA's held such activities, I always thought it was funny how RAs would encourage sex, but discourage drinking) Anyway, this idea would be to set up a booth/table/hotdog stand. Where you are giving out roses or other flowers, but you charge condoms. The whole activity is based around teaching people to give out of love instead of taking out of love. The booth would teach people that by giving a loved one a flower instead of a condom, it shows they truely want to make their loved one happy and feel loved without any sexual trade-off. The flowers could even come with a note that explains that sentiment, so that the person who eventually ends up with the flower understands the special significance. Something like "I bought this flower with my condom, and I give it to you to show that when I say I love you I want nothing in return" or something more romantic... To say this demonstration is an uphill battle is an understatement. The people running this thing will probably get attacked from everywhere. You will have to train your crew NOT to get defensive and angry, it will ruin everything. You can stand by your position, but with a happy, peaceful attitude. With this sort of thing, success isnt in the amount of flowers you give out, but just in getting the message out. Other suggestions: -specifically setup the display after one of your guest speakers, in the hopes that after hearing the talk people will be more likely to get the flowers. -specifically setup the display next to people giving out condoms. You'll be making a GREAT counter-point. (I should really post this in the facebookgroup..i think im going to do that tonight)[/quote] Interesting idea about the condoms with flowers. I'll have to bring that up with the ladies in the club. Every residence hall at my school has a mailing room and in each of the mailing rooms is a "male" box with the combination listed for getting out free condoms. Last year, my mail box was directly beneath it. Talk about irony. We might have the same problems that Harvard had. Feminism is a powerful thing at a women's school. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Sirklawd Posted January 15, 2009 Share Posted January 15, 2009 (edited) oh you go to an all girls school? Good to know. I think some of the biggest issues girls face when it comes to chastity are modesty and the standards they have for the guys they date. Both of these are sort of wrapped up together in today's culture. Girls are told that there is generally only one type of guy out there, and to get him they have to dress sexy. You can talk to girls about the standards and expectations they have for guys, and encourage girls to demand the dignity they want and deserve. Modesty can be a way to put this into practice. Modesty specifically teaches girls that they should demand guys be attracted to them as whole people instead of merely being attracted to pieces of their body. The true purpose of beauty in fashion is to draw on-lookers inward to the whole person, not merely to the hips or chest or that person. You could probably do a entire year's worth of activities on modesty and modest fashion. Will your group be religious-based? If so, i TOTALLY recommend you buy this cd and have it available for group members to listen to. Every girl needs to hear it. [url="http://www.ascensionpress.com/shop/Scripts/prodView.asp?idproduct=102"]http://www.ascensionpress.com/shop/Scripts...p?idproduct=102[/url] Edited January 15, 2009 by Sirklawd Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paddington Posted January 15, 2009 Share Posted January 15, 2009 Maybe something with vd's. With pictures of them and info on how to get tested. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tinytherese Posted January 15, 2009 Author Share Posted January 15, 2009 [quote name='Sirklawd' post='1751897' date='Jan 15 2009, 11:38 AM']oh you go to an all girls school? Good to know. I think some of the biggest issues girls face when it comes to chastity are modesty and the standards they have for the guys they date. Both of these are sort of wrapped up together in today's culture. Girls are told that there is generally only one type of guy out there, and to get him they have to dress sexy. You can talk to girls about the standards and expectations they have for guys, and encourage girls to demand the dignity they want and deserve. Modesty can be a way to put this into practice. Modesty specifically teaches girls that they should demand guys be attracted to them as whole people instead of merely being attracted to pieces of their body. The true purpose of beauty in fashion is to draw on-lookers inward to the whole person, not merely to the hips or chest or that person. You could probably do a entire year's worth of activities on modesty and modest fashion. Will your group be religious-based? If so, i TOTALLY recommend you buy this cd and have it available for group members to listen to. Every girl needs to hear it. [url="http://www.ascensionpress.com/shop/Scripts/prodView.asp?idproduct=102"]http://www.ascensionpress.com/shop/Scripts...p?idproduct=102[/url][/quote] Modesty is definitely a good thing to bring up. There's this one event every year where we dress up and have a very special dinner at school. I lost track of how many immodest dresses that I saw this year. I remember freshman year at the first dance how much inappropriate dancing there was. A lot of guys were told about our dance and were delighted to come to see so many available girls there. Esh, a lot of grinding that night. I had never seen so much dirty dancing in one night before. I didn't feel comfortable dancing with any these guys, other than the fact that they were ones that I didn't know, I thought of how they might expect me dance with them and I wouldn't have it. So I mostly stayed close to my gal pals that evening. Really, that night we ladies had the power to set the tone of dignified fun but some girls may have just been too happy to finally see testosterone again or may just have been thinking, "Oh well, boys will be boys." I'm tired of girls complaining about how there are hardly if any decent guys out there. Oh if only every girl on campus would read Pure Womanhood! That Feminine Genius cd sounds amazing. Maybe I can share that with some girls apart from the True Love Revolution meetings. (Yes we took that name from Harvard, but they let us use it, so its all good.) My school is a secular one and I thought that it would be best to not include religion with it as it may get more people to listen to us. Some think that chastity is simply a religious issue, but by presenting what we stand for without including the religious aspect, we might be able to touch more hearts that way, especially those who are not strong in whatever faith they have or those who don't have any faith at all. I'll let you in on a secret though. Despite that it won't be religiously offiliated, I've assigned the club patron saints praying for TLR; Our Lady, St. Joseph, St. Gemma, Blessed Pier Giorgio, and Pope John Paul II. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tinytherese Posted January 17, 2009 Author Share Posted January 17, 2009 I'd like to remind everyone to pray or continue to pray for True Love Revolution. We're gonna need it especially during our first year. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest vansamgirl Posted January 17, 2009 Share Posted January 17, 2009 I think it's really cool that you are starting a chastity club at your school. I recommend reading "If You Really Loved Me..." by Jason Evert. I am a huge fan of his talks "Romance Without Regret". There's also another book I recommend, it's called "I Kissed Dating Goodbye". It is by a Protestant author named Joshua Harris and basically about courtship. Well I hope your club is officially approved. "When you decide firmly to lead a clean life, chastity will not be a burden on you: it will be a crown of triumph." - St. Josemaria Escriva In Christ, Vanessa Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tinytherese Posted January 17, 2009 Author Share Posted January 17, 2009 [quote name='vansamgirl' post='1753869' date='Jan 17 2009, 03:52 PM']I think it's really cool that you are starting a chastity club at your school. I recommend reading "If You Really Loved Me..." by Jason Evert. I am a huge fan of his talks "Romance Without Regret". There's also another book I recommend, it's called "I Kissed Dating Goodbye". It is by a Protestant author named Joshua Harris and basically about courtship. Well I hope your club is officially approved. "When you decide firmly to lead a clean life, chastity will not be a burden on you: it will be a crown of triumph." - St. Josemaria Escriva In Christ, Vanessa[/quote] Thanks. The Everts are amazing! I finally got my dvd copy of "The Pure Life" for encouragement and inspiration. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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