cheryl Posted November 19, 2008 Share Posted November 19, 2008 Yep, it's me again.....but I really need your prayers. The guy that I had planned on marrying is a die-hard Lutheran, somehow I have to tell him that I'm thinking of converting to Catholicism. But this is going to cause a rift, because if I do, I will need to be married in the catholic church, and will want to raise my kids catholic. Can you see me with my "mary-obsession" as it's been called, not being able to shower my children in that same joy? I know ultimately, I will choose the church, but I sincerely love this guy and Lutheranism has led him to such a simple trust in Jesus (one that I greatly envy) that I could never ever attempt to talk him into becoming catholic, for fear of destroying his faith. Also, if I don't post tomorrow, that I called my priest ---please remind me. I was suppose to do it today. Thanks, Cheryl Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
homeschoolmom Posted November 19, 2008 Share Posted November 19, 2008 I think it is possible to get a dispensation from being married in a Catholic church... just fwiw.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
icelandic_iceskater Posted November 19, 2008 Share Posted November 19, 2008 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vincent Vega Posted November 19, 2008 Share Posted November 19, 2008 Prayers for you. Just remember - Catholicism is just Lutheranism...except with all the cool stuff they cut out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cheryl Posted November 19, 2008 Author Share Posted November 19, 2008 [quote name='USAirwaysIHS' post='1704381' date='Nov 18 2008, 09:55 PM']Prayers for you. Just remember - Catholicism is just Lutheranism...except with all the cool stuff they cut out. [/quote] He won't see it that way. I wouldn't call him anti-catholic, but there is some very strong feelings there. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cheryl Posted November 19, 2008 Author Share Posted November 19, 2008 [quote name='homeschoolmom' post='1704373' date='Nov 18 2008, 09:40 PM'] I think it is possible to get a dispensation from being married in a Catholic church... just fwiw....[/quote] Maybe...but I wouldn't feel comfortable with that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cheryl Posted November 19, 2008 Author Share Posted November 19, 2008 [quote name='icelandic_iceskater' post='1704378' date='Nov 18 2008, 09:52 PM'][/quote] Thanks Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CatherineM Posted November 19, 2008 Share Posted November 19, 2008 I have known two former Lutheran ministers who later became Catholic priests. Both told me that two things really started their path to the Catholic Church. One was reading Luther's letters in an un-edited form. His writing is actually, shockingly, profane. The second thing was reading the writing of the Early Church Fathers, St. Polycarp, St. Clement of Alexandria, St. Ignatius, St. Irenaeus, and St. Justin especially. Their theology is our theology, and Protestants can't say that these guys were anything but the real deal. It makes one really start to think rather than just spout tired old attacks on Catholicism. If I were in the same situation that you are, I would buy him a book with the writings of these guys, not to try to convert him, but to have something for the two of you to study together. Let the Holy Spirit do the work for you. When trying to convert a former roommate, I used to leave EWTN on in the background. She fell in love with Mother Angelica, and Fr. Corapi. She entered RCIA two years later. Sometimes indirect methods work best. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
prose Posted November 19, 2008 Share Posted November 19, 2008 There is a couple at our Church that takes the whole family to Catholic Mass and then to Lutheran Service EVERY Sunday. (She is Catholic, he is Lutheran) Now that is dedication. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seven77 Posted November 19, 2008 Share Posted November 19, 2008 give him your copy of Story of a Soul after you read it... Lutherans should love St. Therese' simple trust in God. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Selah Posted November 19, 2008 Share Posted November 19, 2008 Prayers Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vincent Vega Posted November 19, 2008 Share Posted November 19, 2008 [quote name='cheryl' post='1704389' date='Nov 18 2008, 10:14 PM']He won't see it that way. I wouldn't call him anti-catholic, but there is some very strong feelings there. [/quote] I know he wont; none of us do...at first. Do you know how many of us here would have said, one, two, five, ten, or twenty years ago that we'd, "Never ever be Catholic, as long as I live!" ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cmotherofpirl Posted November 20, 2008 Share Posted November 20, 2008 [quote name='cheryl' post='1704371' date='Nov 18 2008, 09:33 PM']Yep, it's me again.....but I really need your prayers. The guy that I had planned on marrying is a die-hard Lutheran, somehow I have to tell him that I'm thinking of converting to Catholicism. But this is going to cause a rift, because if I do, I will need to be married in the catholic church, and will want to raise my kids catholic. Can you see me with my "mary-obsession" as it's been called, not being able to shower my children in that same joy? I know ultimately, I will choose the church, but I sincerely love this guy and Lutheranism has led him to such a simple trust in Jesus (one that I greatly envy) that I could never ever attempt to talk him into becoming catholic, for fear of destroying his faith. Also, if I don't post tomorrow, that I called my priest ---please remind me. I was suppose to do it today. Thanks, Cheryl[/quote] Dear its not your job to talk him into being Catholic. Be a happy Catholic and the Holy Spirit will take care of the rest. You can always invite the bf to phatmass . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seven77 Posted November 20, 2008 Share Posted November 20, 2008 [quote name='cmotherofpirl' post='1705061' date='Nov 19 2008, 09:54 PM']Dear its not your job to talk him into being Catholic. Be a happy Catholic and the Holy Spirit will take care of the rest. You can always invite the bf to phatmass .[/quote] Cmom is truly wise! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cheryl Posted November 20, 2008 Author Share Posted November 20, 2008 [quote name='prose' post='1704685' date='Nov 19 2008, 11:40 AM']There is a couple at our Church that takes the whole family to Catholic Mass and then to Lutheran Service EVERY Sunday. (She is Catholic, he is Lutheran) Now that is dedication.[/quote] What are the children baptized and confirmed as? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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