pan!c139 Posted August 28, 2008 Share Posted August 28, 2008 [quote name='cmotherofpirl' post='1640699' date='Aug 28 2008, 02:02 PM']From the married point of view: We need to let them be our heros. We need to let them fuss over us, open doors for us, and treat us like ladies, and make us feel safe and protected. Then they feel like they are king of the world. We in turn need to domesticate them if their mums neglected this task. We need them to know that we do need them and love them, not in words, but in actions. So give them the remote, a backrub, a good cooked meal, and loving arms at the end of the day.[/quote] Yes. VERY much agree with you! [quote name='princessgianna' post='1640728' date='Aug 28 2008, 02:50 PM']you do bring up a good point! I think a women should listen and obey men for guys are the leaders! Christ picked 12 men to lead his Church and He pick St.Peter (who is a man) to be the head! not to mention God put Adam in charge of the Garden of Eden. So we need to listen and obey them and they need to respect us! It is a in harmony thing! reminds me of salt and pepper on eggs! The salt and pepper "work together" and if one was with out the other it would not be as good as it could be when you have both. They are the protectors the ones that fight the wars and do the REALLY dirty jobs in the war! (you don't see women in the front!).They are the leaders and we as women need to respect that![/quote] Also, I agree very much!!! [quote name='MissyP89' post='1640738' date='Aug 28 2008, 03:10 PM']Build them up, encourage them, be their strength when they have none of their own. Listen, even when you could care less. Love, even when you'd rather hate them. Forgive. Forgive again.[/quote] Very important. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IcePrincessKRS Posted August 28, 2008 Share Posted August 28, 2008 [quote name='cmotherofpirl' post='1640699' date='Aug 28 2008, 05:02 PM']So give them the remote, a backrub, a good cooked meal, and loving arms at the end of the day.[/quote] That sums it up nicely. [quote name='princessgianna' post='1640728' date='Aug 28 2008, 05:50 PM']you do bring up a good point! I think a women should listen and obey men for guys are the leaders! Christ picked 12 men to lead his Church and He pick St.Peter (who is a man) to be the head! not to mention God put Adam in charge of the Garden of Eden. So we need to listen and obey them and they need to respect us! It is a in harmony thing! reminds me of salt and pepper on eggs! The salt and pepper "work together" and if one was with out the other it would not be as good as it could be when you have both. They are the protectors the ones that fight the wars and do the REALLY dirty jobs in the war! (you don't see women in the front!).They are the leaders and we as women need to respect that![/quote] I think "obey" is a little bit strong of a word... I would say that I consult with and defer to my husband in all things. That is, to quote the dictionary, I "yield respectfully in judgment or opinion" rather than "comply with or follow the commands, restrictions, wishes, or instructions".... see the difference in terminology? "Obey" almost seems too strict. Children obey their parents... to expect me to treat my husband the same way I expect my kids to treat me with regards to obedience seems a little on the ridiculous side to me. Anyway, I defer to him except when I think he's wrong. And then I tell him that I think he's wrong and why. Sometimes he agrees and sometimes he changes my mind. But, it's the working through things together--to use a term you put forth, as partners--that helps us help one another to grow as individuals and as a couple, spiritually and otherwise. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pan!c139 Posted August 28, 2008 Share Posted August 28, 2008 Yep. ^ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maggyie Posted August 28, 2008 Share Posted August 28, 2008 Treat us like ladies and not just like another one of your guy friends Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rachael Posted August 28, 2008 Share Posted August 28, 2008 Beat them when they step out of line. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IcePrincessKRS Posted August 28, 2008 Share Posted August 28, 2008 [quote name='Maggie' post='1640782' date='Aug 28 2008, 07:18 PM']Treat us like ladies and not just like another one of your guy friends [/quote] Psst. Wrong thread. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
homeschoolmom Posted August 28, 2008 Share Posted August 28, 2008 [quote name='Groo the Wanderer' post='1640525' date='Aug 28 2008, 02:07 PM']4. keep the wimminy stuff off our side of the bathroom sink...yuck[/quote] What "our side of the bathroom sink" are you speaking of? Under? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IcePrincessKRS Posted August 28, 2008 Share Posted August 28, 2008 Haha My husband keeps his shaving kit on the back of the toilet and a couple things in the medicine cabinet. The rest is my domain. (We don't actually have room on the sink for anything except soap and the toothbrush holder... So I get the cupboards and closet.) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pan!c139 Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 (edited) Iawtc!! I get three shelves of the medicine cabinet, my brother gets one. Edited August 29, 2008 by pan!c139 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missionarybelle Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 ha ha wash their dishes when we go visit (sometimes if I'm in a good mood) and help them arrange their furniture when they move. and fuss over them. and have them walk me to my car when it's dark Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mommas_boy Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 [quote name='rachael' post='1640788' date='Aug 28 2008, 06:29 PM']Beat them when they step out of line. [/quote] Wrong thread, dear. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rachael Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 [quote name='mommas_boy' post='1641218' date='Aug 29 2008, 02:43 AM']Wrong thread, dear. [/quote] Come over here, I want to give you a hug... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
picchick Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 [quote name='cmotherofpirl' post='1640699' date='Aug 28 2008, 04:02 PM']From the married point of view: We need to let them be our heros. We need to let them fuss over us, open doors for us, and treat us like ladies, and make us feel safe and protected. Then they feel like they are king of the world. We in turn need to domesticate them if their mums neglected this task. We need them to know that we do need them and love them, not in words, but in actions. So give them the remote, a backrub, a good cooked meal, and loving arms at the end of the day.[/quote] I am sooooo bad at this....i mean the hero thing. My whole life is dedicated to serving...but to let them fuss over me, that's hard. As far as dating someone: I am not going to domesticate anyone. That is for sure. I am not going to find someone to "fix" them. Yes I need them and I love them but I am not going to be their "savior" on issues that they have. People need to work out their issues before going into relationship... However, as a sisterly sister in Christ I'll help domesticate my brothers I have lots of experience with four boys in the family... [quote name='princessgianna' post='1640728' date='Aug 28 2008, 04:50 PM']you do bring up a good point! I think a women should listen and obey men for guys are the leaders! Christ picked 12 men to lead his Church and He pick St.Peter (who is a man) to be the head! not to mention God put Adam in charge of the Garden of Eden. So we need to listen and obey them and they need to respect us! It is a in harmony thing! reminds me of salt and pepper on eggs! The salt and pepper "work together" and if one was with out the other it would not be as good as it could be when you have both. They are the protectors the ones that fight the wars and do the REALLY dirty jobs in the war! (you don't see women in the front!).They are the leaders and we as women need to respect that![/quote] I don't know if I would say obey. They are the leaders, but we too are leaders in a different way. I think by claiming that menare the leaders, we do a disservice to women. Women are leaders probably more through example. However, how many women have been outspoken leaders who overcame the oppression put on them? Rosa Parks, St. Joan of Arc, and the list could go on. [quote name='rachael' post='1640788' date='Aug 28 2008, 06:29 PM']Beat them when they step out of line. [/quote] Yeppers. a mos def. My contribution: I talk to men. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
princessgianna Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 [quote name='IcePrincessKRS' post='1640764' date='Aug 28 2008, 04:51 PM']That sums it up nicely. I think "obey" is a little bit strong of a word... I would say that I consult with and defer to my husband in all things. That is, to quote the dictionary, I "yield respectfully in judgment or opinion" rather than "comply with or follow the commands, restrictions, wishes, or instructions".... see the difference in terminology? "Obey" almost seems too strict. Children obey their parents... to expect me to treat my husband the same way I expect my kids to treat me with regards to obedience seems a little on the ridiculous side to me. Anyway, I defer to him except when I think he's wrong. And then I tell him that I think he's wrong and why. Sometimes he agrees and sometimes he changes my mind. But, it's the working through things together--to use a term you put forth, as partners--that helps us help one another to grow as individuals and as a couple, spiritually and otherwise.[/quote] well yea! Good point! thanks! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IcePrincessKRS Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 [quote name='picchick' post='1641337' date='Aug 29 2008, 11:22 AM']I don't know if I would say obey. They are the leaders, but we too are leaders in a different way. I think by claiming that menare the leaders, we do a disservice to women. Women are leaders probably more through example. However, how many women have been outspoken leaders who overcame the oppression put on them? Rosa Parks, St. Joan of Arc, and the list could go on.[/quote] Another thought regarding obedience and leadership... as mother's we HAVE to be leaders within our homes. Daddy may be the head of the household but when he's off to work we can't spend our days saying "Just you wait till your father gets home!" We must lead our children, and if our husband steps out of line we have to lead him, too. Like I said in my previous post, spouses working together to help one another grow. Partners who defer to one another. When you're dating you definitely shouldn't be following the "obey" line of thought because a "mere" boyfriend should not ever be able to hold that kind of authority over your head--he hasn't earned it yet. Once he takes vows and puts that ring on your finger defer all you want, but "obey men because they are the leaders" is far too simple and strict a statement. It definitely isn't taking human nature into account--as human beings we are fallen creatures, we tend to make mistakes. Until you've put your life in that mans hands till death do you part it's in your best interests to be wary of "obeying" him. Trust, yes. Obey, not so much. I've seen too many engagements called off last minute because one party or the other turned out to be a giant turd. I mean, lucky for them they called it off before it was too late, but still... bummer that it has to happen at all. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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