Guest Posted February 13, 2008 Share Posted February 13, 2008 [quote name='XIX' post='1460352' date='Feb 12 2008, 09:55 PM']It's very hard, but it's not impossible. Very important not to kill yourself over it if you fall. [url="http://www.freedomeveryday.org/"]http://www.freedomeveryday.org/[/url] [/quote] ok, here is some text taken from that page you gave me : "questions about sexual addictions" Is there a difference between high sex drive and sexual addiction? Yes! Different individuals do have differing sex drives. The difference between someone who has a healthy sex drive and one who has a sexual addiction lies in the issue of satisfaction. A person with a healthy or even high sex drive is satisfied with sex. There is no need to go elsewhere to find validation. In addition, if the person with a healthy sex drive hears "no, not tonight" from his or her partner it is not taken personally or as rejection. so if im going by this advice im pretty normal. im 26 years old with a high healthy sex drive and i dont go to extreme mesaures like pornography or random people. although i guess u could argue that because if i see someone on tv portraying themselfs as a silly sally its very tough not to lust (sorry for being blunt) but what about the word "partner" ? why does it not say spouse ? so are they suggusting that if i have a partner i care about that its ok for us to engage in sexual activirtes ? i am under the understanding that the catholic church teaches its a mortal sin for me to even masturbate. (again sorry for being so blunt) and im the first to say that is very tough for a 26 year old male who is attracted to women. from my understanding i cant even have a girlfriend and really even touch her without it falling into mortal sin. I also reluctenly agree with this because i see the moral prespective of it. although its tough and does seem unfair when so many do the same thing but dont know their commiting "mortal" sin so it goes by without it being mortal sin. im complaining now, i'll shut up... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
XIX Posted February 13, 2008 Share Posted February 13, 2008 [quote name='Lil Red' post='1460313' date='Feb 12 2008, 09:40 PM']and i'm pretty sure this is why the Church has not specifically addressed this issue. because it limits us too much, to grow in love with our spouse.[/quote] Honestly, yeah. I think the answer to the question really depends on what one would mean by "foreplay." I'll just leave it at that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cmotherofpirl Posted February 13, 2008 Share Posted February 13, 2008 [quote name='dUSt' post='1460228' date='Feb 12 2008, 08:31 PM']Okay, based on this reasoning: It would be sinful for me and my wife to kiss unless it ended in intercourse. It would be sinful if my wife grabbed my butt in the grocery store while nobody was watching. It would be sinful for me to rub on my wife's leg in the back row of a movie theatre. This is all foreplay. Seems ridiculous to me, and even more ridiculous that the church would deem this sinful, which I don't believe it does. Also, in the context of marriage, all of these things do eventually lead to intercourse... eventually. If you're going to tell someone these things are a sin if they do not lead to intercourse, what is the timeframe you will give them? Must it me immediate? Within 15 minutes, an hour, a day? You see how subjective this can be? I don't think it's by accident that the church does not specifically address this issue. I can tell you one thing, if a husband and wife aren't allowed to engage in any type of foreplay without it leading to intercourse, a lot of marriages would be in trouble. Me and my wife are in a constant state of foreplay. I can't imagine what my marriage would be like if we weren't.[/quote] HAH! excellent answer. In my marriage classes we were taught lovemaking was a 24 hour a day activity. Obviously you can't have relations 24/7 but the intimacy, touching, cuddling, and caring for each other etc can. I wasn't kidding when I said doing the dishes can be foreplay i.e. any of those activities that remind the other person of your personal connection can be foreplay. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lil Red Posted February 13, 2008 Share Posted February 13, 2008 [quote name='XIX' post='1460499' date='Feb 12 2008, 07:54 PM']Honestly, yeah. I think the answer to the question really depends on what one would mean by "foreplay." I'll just leave it at that. [/quote] and with differing cultures and such, the Church really would limit somebody or other in their moral, vital expression of love to their spouse. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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