Colleen Posted February 17, 2004 Share Posted February 17, 2004 i don't know if it's really blackmail. it's more a fraternal correction. i agree with the others. tell him he should go to confession, and if he doesn't, i think you should bring it to your parents' attention. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thy Geekdom Come Posted February 17, 2004 Share Posted February 17, 2004 I'm 17 and don't have a car... Yeah, well, I'm 19 and I don't have a car or a liscense! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rebirth flame Posted February 17, 2004 Share Posted February 17, 2004 This is only my opinion. He has free will. Call him out on it face to face with no one around and let his conscious dictate his actions. You will only push him away if you tell anyone else. It will not help. Again, only my opinion. i agree. I think that he would only go out of spite if he went after you "forced" him to, and that might push him farther away than you'd like. As far as blackmail goes, it's all about the delivery, as Mrs. Bro. Adam said. In some cases, your bro might not feel he should do anything without alittle motivation from a figure who greatly influences his life. Pray about it. Maybe you're that figure. Maybe someone else is. Maybe someone influencing him this way will "turn him around." As i don't know the fullness of the situation, what i'm saying may bear little relevance anyway, but yeah. That, personally, is what turned me around, having my parents help me. Pray about it. :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thicke Posted February 17, 2004 Share Posted February 17, 2004 haha, you don't know my bro though. if i get him to go it's "forgive me father for i have sinned, it's been, well since last time CCD forced us to go, since my last confession" :ph34r: Some people are laughing at what you said, but it's not funny. Someone's salvation (or possible lack there of) is no laughing matter. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thicke Posted February 17, 2004 Share Posted February 17, 2004 If I were in your shoes, I would consider it blackmail. I would think that I had to tell the folks. But, I might give him the chance to go to confession and avoid telling the folks. That's not blackmail, that's charity. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
socalscout Posted February 17, 2004 Share Posted February 17, 2004 (edited) Confession does not work if he is not sorry. You cannot make him believe. You cannot save him. He must want all of this for himself. You might guilt him into going but that is a bandaid. The root is his beliefs and if he doubs all that then brother, parent, priest, Pope cannot make him believe . If he has doubts then dispel them. if you can. If he still doubts then pray for him to come back home. Tell him he can confide in you. Show utmost compassion because anything else will drive him away. My uncle used to force me to go to Mass when I was younger. After I got my license and car I blew off Mass and the Church. From 1984 to 2001 I had gone to Mass 3 times. I never blamed the actions of my uncle because he was a good guy who only cared about me but I was turned off to the Church anyway. Of course now I see him as a literal Godsend but it took 17 years to realize that. Good Luck and take care. Edited February 17, 2004 by socalscout Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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