" I Think I'm Fat."

[Lilllabettt]

If someone asks me "am i fat?" I generally say something along the lines of:

"yes. Oh my gosh. how did you get down the stairs today. I'm surprised the Montel Williams Show didn't need to come break down a wall and take you out on a forklift."

Where healthy weight people are concerned, I've found that a good natured mocking does more to convince people that they are being ridiculous.

Where pleasingly plump folks are concerned, it can diffuse a tense, anxiety producing situation. (And then at a later date, I will tell them [u]my[/u] doc says I need to get healthy, will they support me diet/exercise wise. )

Of course, if you use the mocking method, you have to make it clear you're kidding. I also do not recommend that guys use this.

When I was fat, I never asked anyone if I was fat. I would ask, sometimes, "do these pants make me look fat?" and by that I meant "especially fat." I knew I was fat, and I knew everyone else knew I was fat. I did not like admitting it to myself and I certainly did not want anyone to tell me. It did not matter if whomever said it was being malicious or just trying to be helpful. It hurt the same.

[Christie_M]

[quote name='Lilllabettt' post='1704819' date='Nov 19 2008, 12:24 PM']If someone asks me "am i fat?" I generally say something along the lines of:

"yes. Oh my gosh. how did you get down the stairs today. I'm surprised the Montel Williams Show didn't need to come break down a wall and take you out on a forklift."

Where healthy weight people are concerned, I've found that a good natured mocking does more to convince people that they are being ridiculous.

Where pleasingly plump folks are concerned, it can diffuse a tense, anxiety producing situation. (And then at a later date, I will tell them [u]my[/u] doc says I need to get healthy, will they support me diet/exercise wise. )

Of course, if you use the mocking method, you have to make it clear you're kidding. I also do not recommend that guys use this.

When I was fat, I never asked anyone if I was fat. I would ask, sometimes, "do these pants make me look fat?" and by that I meant "especially fat." I knew I was fat, and I knew everyone else knew I was fat. I did not like admitting it to myself and I certainly did not want anyone to tell me. It did not matter if whomever said it was being malicious or just trying to be helpful. It hurt the same.[/quote]

Sarcasm is great, too, acctually. especially if the other person laughs. I know when i shop for clothes i NEVER ask "does this make me look fat?" couse i know i am pretty phat : I usually ask "does this make me look like i have WAY too many bad curves?" lol and i usually get a sarcastic remarc from my sisters which puts me in a better mood.

But for the most part i think that people need to stop worrying about other people's thoughts on issues like that and just go whith whatever makes you feels comfy. IMHO

Edited November 19, 2008 by Christie_M