Hair Highlighting For 15 Yr Old?

[MissScripture]

[quote name='Farsight one' post='1428392' date='Dec 2 2007, 09:54 PM']Another idea is to get her a bottle/jar/whatever of "temporary" highlights - Stuff that lasts for a couple of days and then washes out. That way she could have her highlights, but you can be comfortable knowing it's not too permanent.[/quote]
Not to mention, if she turns out to not like it, you didn't just waste $100...

[mom25angels]

[quote name='Farsight one' post='1428392' date='Dec 2 2007, 09:54 PM']Another idea is to get her a bottle/jar/whatever of "temporary" highlights - Stuff that lasts for a couple of days and then washes out. That way she could have her highlights, but you can be comfortable knowing it's not too permanent.[/quote]

Hmmm....we may have something here....a sort of trial run apeals to me. That way(and this sounds a little sneaky)if I don't like it, or she doesn't for that matter, it is only temporary. If everything is OK then she can have the permanent highlights done.

My biggest concern with all of this is proper timing. The paranoid Momma in me thinks things like....first highlights, then cell phone, then boys, then Mom knows nothing.....I don't want to speed up the order. KWIM?

I know these things will happen(well praying she continues to believe I sometimes have a brain) but I'd prefer not to be pushed.

[Autumn Dusk]

[quote]first highlights, then cell phone, then boys, then Mom knows nothing[/quote]

Many kids have cell phones. Depending on your lifestyle and community its not all that bad. Some families I know share a "going out" trak-phone cell, where if they are going a new place, or going for a long bike ride they'll take it with them. I know, I know, you survived childhood without a cell phone. But there's alot of things that happen today that didn't happen in your childhood.

If a 15yo (I'm assuming almost 16) isn't interested in the opposite sex, atleast a bit then they aren't understanding their sexuality. It dosn't mean they have to be stupid and go head over heals but they should recognize the opposite sex.

And Mom knows nothing is soley based on how you act. If you are controlling and don't respect that she's a different person then she'll stop talking....or if you act like her best buddy...

[MissScripture]

I think she means that she isn't going ga-ga over boys, which I don't think is a bad thing, because then she's less likely to get into a bad situation.

And if you think "mom knows nothing" is based soley on the action of the parents, then you are rather naive. My brother doesn't talk. This has nothing to do with my parents. They raised him the same as the rest of us, and we can't shut up. You ask him a question, and he gives you a three word answer, usually being "I don't know." That's how it's been since he was in middle school. That's just how he is. Annoying? Yes. My parents fault? Not in the least.

[mom25angels]

[quote name='Autumn Dusk' post='1428477' date='Dec 3 2007, 12:17 AM']Many kids have cell phones. Depending on your lifestyle and community its not all that bad. Some families I know share a "going out" trak-phone cell, where if they are going a new place, or going for a long bike ride they'll take it with them. I know, I know, you survived childhood without a cell phone. But there's alot of things that happen today that didn't happen in your childhood.

If a 15yo (I'm assuming almost 16) isn't interested in the opposite sex, atleast a bit then they aren't understanding their sexuality. It dosn't mean they have to be stupid and go head over heals but they should recognize the opposite sex.

And Mom knows nothing is soley based on how you act. If you are controlling and don't respect that she's a different person then she'll stop talking....or if you act like her best buddy...[/quote]


She's 14 going to be 15 in a couple of weeks. She's not driving for a year, then we will discuss cell phones. Maybe i'll actually have one by then. I don't think cell phones are from the devil or anything.
She does know what boys are....she knows theology of the body......she chooses not to be "interested" in them. In her words "boy crazy girls have no sense and should get a hobby". I like that about her.
Honestly she is a horse carzy gir and has no time for boys. If you've ever met one you know what I mean.
She's actually a very innocent(not naive) girl and I don't want to rush that changing. There is definetly time enough for all the hard stuff......I want her to be free from those worries as long as possible.

[rachael]

[quote name='mom25angels' post='1428487' date='Dec 3 2007, 01:47 AM']Honestly she is a horse carzy gir and has no time for boys. If you've ever met one you know what I mean.[/quote]
I know what you mean. I've known several.

[prose]

The problem with temporary color done at home is that, unless you do it well, it will look awful.

No matter which you choose, definitely spend the money and go to a salon.

[Lil Red]

[quote name='Justin86' post='1427791' date='Dec 1 2007, 11:43 AM']Well, if I had a daughter who wanted me to spend $100 on her hair I'd say to her, "What? You're talking to a man who thinks eight dollar haircuts are overpriced. I'm going to spend $100 on a haircut, who do you think I am, John Edwards?"[/quote]
[quote name='Autumn Dusk' post='1427822' date='Dec 1 2007, 01:38 PM']Why in the world would highlights cost $100[/quote]that's what i was thinking - mine usually cost around $35.
[quote name='prose' post='1427834' date='Dec 1 2007, 02:28 PM']Plus it feels girlie and grown up to get your hair done.[/quote]yup!
[quote name='Paladin D' post='1427985' date='Dec 1 2007, 10:00 PM'][size=7][b]Wait a second![/b][/size]

What is wrong with getting highlights?

If it's for a birthday present, and she really wants it... why not (if you can afford it)? It isn't against Catholic moral teaching to dye your hair. At least she isn't asking for a Victoria Secret's gift card (at that age), if she did, then you would have something to worry about.[/quote]totally agree!
[quote name='MissScripture' post='1428486' date='Dec 2 2007, 11:45 PM']And if you think "mom knows nothing" is based soley on the action of the parents, then you are rather naive. My brother doesn't talk. This has nothing to do with my parents. They raised him the same as the rest of us, and we can't shut up. You ask him a question, and he gives you a three word answer, usually being "I don't know." That's how it's been since he was in middle school. That's just how he is. Annoying? Yes. My parents fault? Not in the least.[/quote]that's because he's a guy.

[MissScripture]

[quote name='Lil Red' post='1429406' date='Dec 4 2007, 02:29 PM']that's because he's a guy. [/quote]
Eh, but my other brother is almost as talkative as I am. My mom once told me I had to call my brother because I hadn't talked to him in like a month (he lives in NJ) and I didn't want to, because I didn't know what we'd talk about. We ended up being on the phone for 2 hours and mom had to make us hang up because I had to go somewhere. And at least 45% of the conversation was coming from his end.
My other brother --sometimes a fence post is more responsive.

[XIX]

In his defense, fence posts can be rather gabby if you push their buttons.

[missionseeker]

that really did make me laugh out loud.

[mom25angels]

[quote name='MissScripture' post='1429417' date='Dec 4 2007, 02:37 PM']My other brother --sometimes a fence post is more responsive.[/quote]


I have one of those in my family, too!!

[mom25angels]

Made the appointment, today. My friend, who is a hairdresser, promises me it will look natural and won't cost me $100.

If she turns into a crazy teen next you all will be at fault!!

[missionarybelle]

ok, from reading your different posts, i had to check several times to make sure that you weren't my mother. SO much of what you've said sounds so much like it could be coming from our family.

I just have to say that highlights totally depend on the person. I'm more of a level headed girls who'se not gaga over boys. (yea i know they exist and are VERY attractive, i just want to wait so i can grow up more). my sister on the other hand... well, she's crazy about boys and looks and growing up and VERY dramatic. if I really wanted highlights, my mom would let me get them (she probably wouldn't pay for them but she'd allow it) but if my sister wnted some, mom wouldn't let her because it'd probably be yet ANOTHER burden in her struggle with vanity etc. Your daughter would probably be fine because it sounds like she just honestly wants something fun and different and she wants to look nice.
I understand about not wanting your daughter to grow up too quickly because my mom goes through that a lot with my sister but there's a way to gracefully allow and help her to ease into womanhood and there's a way to tie her up and keep her pinned in that will make the transition into womanhood even more difficult for her and will probably make her rebel against you.
you SOUND like a mom who will gradually encourage her daughter to "bloom" into the woman of God that she is becoming but I'm just throwing that out there because I know that my mom has struggled with that a lot with me and my sisters.

and about the cell phone, I didn't get one till i was forced to when I got a license at 17:P it's amazing what paying for the phone and the bill will do to discourage interest in stuff

[mom25angels]

[quote name='missionarybelle' post='1429892' date='Dec 5 2007, 12:37 AM']ok, from reading your different posts, i had to check several times to make sure that you weren't my mother. SO much of what you've said sounds so much like it could be coming from our family.

I just have to say that highlights totally depend on the person. I'm more of a level headed girls who'se not gaga over boys. (yea i know they exist and are VERY attractive, i just want to wait so i can grow up more). my sister on the other hand... well, she's crazy about boys and looks and growing up and VERY dramatic. if I really wanted highlights, my mom would let me get them (she probably wouldn't pay for them but she'd allow it) but if my sister wnted some, mom wouldn't let her because it'd probably be yet ANOTHER burden in her struggle with vanity etc. Your daughter would probably be fine because it sounds like she just honestly wants something fun and different and she wants to look nice.
I understand about not wanting your daughter to grow up too quickly because my mom goes through that a lot with my sister but there's a way to gracefully allow and help her to ease into womanhood and there's a way to tie her up and keep her pinned in that will make the transition into womanhood even more difficult for her and will probably make her rebel against you.
you SOUND like a mom who will gradually encourage her daughter to "bloom" into the woman of God that she is becoming but I'm just throwing that out there because I know that my mom has struggled with that a lot with me and my sisters.

and about the cell phone, I didn't get one till i was forced to when I got a license at 17:P it's amazing what paying for the phone and the bill will do to discourage interest in stuff[/quote]

Thank you for throwing that out there, misssionarybelle. I wil pray for your Mom. She sounds like a good one.