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[fides quarens intellectum]

[quote name='morostheos' post='1417361' date='Nov 10 2007, 11:44 PM']the holiness/spirituality/moral virtue is the most attractive because it's the hardest to find.[/quote]

totally agree, and since i am still trying to figure out what God wants of my life, i also picked holiness. if He does actually want me to get married and - yikes! - raise kids, it would have to be a holy/spiritual/moral man to win my heart and stand by my side.


[quote name='Veritas' post='1417386' date='Nov 11 2007, 12:10 AM']After holiness, I find a nice beard most attractive.

[img]http://www.bellathemovie.com/downloads/desktops/Desk-JoseChef_WIDE.jpg[/img]

[img]http://www.eduardoverastegui.com.ar/Espanol/Noticias/Archivos/BELLA007.JPG[/img][/quote]

i'm still laughing over this one! you know, they put him in a beard so that his looks wouldn't be distracting!


[quote name='tgoldson' post='1417449' date='Nov 11 2007, 01:11 AM']To the first, I voted other. What attracts me most is a combination of passion (for life) and humility.

I have no desire to accumulate excess money or material possessions, so the wealth/junk thing got my second vote.

As far as appearances go, I do have a thing for facial hair. Since I enjoy outdoor activities (cycling, climbing, swimming, backpacking, etc.), athletic guys are more likely to be compatible with me.[/quote]

i can totally see you falling for a humble, but totally geeky, guy - but if it is an outdoorsy type you're looking for, you need to come to Colorado, dear! Backpacking in Southern Texas?! yuck!


[quote name='tgoldson' post='1417576' date='Nov 11 2007, 08:47 AM']Wow - I didn't think about the voice thing until I read y'all's posts. And I am in total agreement. In fact, the sound of a guy whining is like fingernails to a chalkboard.[/quote]

you rock!


[quote name='Socrates' post='1417992' date='Nov 11 2007, 09:33 PM']True. The poll's vague on this. I guess I'm thinking if you met a bunch of guys at a bar or social event, which ones would you have an interest in dating?[/quote]

whichever one mentioned that he loves going to Mass and/or Adoration during the week.


[quote name='Socrates' post='1418474' date='Nov 12 2007, 09:34 PM']Ok, everything I've read on the subject lately (albeit from secular, carp sources) says women are most attracted to money and financial/career status (as well as status symbols like nice cars, etc.)[/quote]

i am not surprised at all that holiness ranked first among women on this site.


[quote name='Totus Tuus' post='1418787' date='Nov 13 2007, 02:32 PM']Personally, I don't ever think about having a wealthy husband. For heaven's sake, I was a Franciscan... Lady Poverty is one of my best friends But I do think it's awesome when a guy is practical, because even if he's poor, he will make ends meet by being practical.[/quote]

Amen to that!

[cathoholic_anonymous]

Things like nice cars have never really interested me at all. I find it incredibly irritating when I see men showing off their cars by driving them at ridiculous speeds or droning on about the make and the engine all the time. They could go about on a donkey for all I care. In fact, a donkey would be a lot more interesting. I quite like donkeys. They have such sweet faces and velvety muzzles.

Career 'status' doesn't bother me, but the nature of the career does. People who have a passion for the work that they do attract me, especially if they're not doing it for the pay-packet but for the sheer love and enjoyment of it.

[XIX]

[quote name='photosynthesis' post='1419415' date='Nov 14 2007, 03:48 PM']I don't think a man is really ready to get married until he has established a means of supporting a wife and children. He should be done (or almost done) with pursuing his educational goals and he should have a steady job. He doesn't have to be earning six figures or own a big expensive house, but he should be in a position to support a wife and children.[/quote]
*gets back to studying for actuarial exam*

[Deb]

[quote name='Socrates' post='1417992' date='Nov 11 2007, 10:33 PM']True. The poll's vague on this. I guess I'm thinking if you met a bunch of guys at a bar or social event, which ones would you have an interest in dating?[/quote]


The one who makes me laugh.

[missionarybelle]

holiness and a love of God are absolute musts.

but i find a fun guy that I can joke around with a lot to be very attractive. also, a guy who i can have a really intelligent conversation with, BIG BIG plus.

i like beards, deep voices, broad shoulders and masculine hands.

the hands though are one of the most important things. i dunno, his hands have to not be as soft as mine.


i don't care for the badboy kinda guy. at all. sorry i'm a sucker for good guys who know how to LIVE and hava a bit of spice in them.

i also don't care for guys who are full of themselves. i really like a humble guy

[missionarybelle]

and honestly, i don't understand how anyone could not be wildly attracted to Eugenio whatshisname

[Deb]

Eduardo Verastegui............Yes, killer eyes.

[Adrestia]

[quote name='fides quarens intellectum' post='1434707' date='Dec 15 2007, 06:07 PM'][quote name='Socrates' date='Nov 11 2007, 09:33 PM']
True. The poll's vague on this. I guess I'm thinking if you met a bunch of guys at a bar or social event, which ones would you have an interest in dating?[/quote]
whichever one mentioned that he loves going to Mass and/or Adoration during the week.
[/quote]
How about [i]this[/i] guy:

This past Saturday night I was at a local dance club. I told the crew that I had to leave early so I could get enough rest before teaching Sunday School the next morning. This one guy that I had just met earlier the same evening (at a work-related holiday party) asks me where I go to church. Turns out he attends my church and is a reader! (He did look familiar to me, but he also works in my building - one floor below me - so I didn't remember where I had seen him.) Anyway, before I finally got out of the club, he talked me into volunteering as a reader at the noon Mass. Three different people at church yesterday made sure that the woman in charge of scheduling got my 411 before I left Mass.

Reason number 8,000,456,894,234 why I [u]LOVE[/u] being Catholic: we don't ignore each other at bars, we sign each other up for more ministries! yeah!

[missionseeker]

lol

[Rosemary's Goddaughter]

[quote name='rachael' post='1417300' date='Nov 10 2007, 11:52 PM']I need a guy with ambition. Ironically, that is hard to find in the college setting. [/quote]

A lesson too hard learned for me. A reasonable amount of ambition & direction are definite prerequisites. Some of the guys I meet at college- and these are 4th years now!- really need to grow up and well, start being men.

[Ash Wednesday]

[quote name='tgoldson' post='1435187' date='Dec 17 2007, 09:44 AM']Reason number 8,000,456,894,234 why I [u]LOVE[/u] being Catholic: we don't ignore each other at bars, we sign each other up for more ministries! yeah![/quote]

So instead of "Hey baby, what's your sign?" it's "So, you a Lector or a Perpetual Adoration kind of girl?"

[Kitty]

Humor attracts me first. I LOVE to laugh and I laugh a lot, and I love to hang around guys who make me laugh. When I get married, he definitely has to be a funny guy because I love humor so much. (I also have this fantasy to marry a cop or a firefighter. LOL I heart men in uniform)

Edited February 19, 2008 by Kitty

[Ash Wednesday]

[quote name='Rosemary's Goddaughter' post='1465570' date='Feb 19 2008, 01:16 AM']A lesson too hard learned for me. A reasonable amount of ambition & direction are definite prerequisites. Some of the guys I meet at college- and these are 4th years now!- really need to grow up and well, start being men.[/quote]


I just listened to a radio show where the topic being discussed was just this sort of thing. I don't mean to knock men as being the deficient sex here, because there are a LOT of really disturbing trends among girls and young women that are just as alarming. But the site is [url="http://www.boysadrift.com/"]http://www.boysadrift.com/[/url]

Basically the gist of this doctor's focus is on the fact that boys and men up to college don't have as much direction and ambition as ones 20 years ago. His theory involves testosterone and estrogen levels and things of that nature, and interestingly enough they did bring up the high levels of estrogen in our drinking water from things like the pill.

Again women and girls are not immune from flaws either, given early onset of puberty (from things like too much estrogen) and the sexualization of young girls. Not to mention women becoming more careless about morals and going the "hussy" route as some perverse attempt at "empowerment."

But of course it's not just hormones, it's culture, loss of faith, et cetera. When I read historical novels I can't help but wonder if, while I know humanity for the most part has always had problems -- I wonder what people from Jane Austen's time would think of us now.

Don't ask me what I'm getting at here -- it just seems like people of character are really hard to come by.

[BeenaBobba]

I'd like a guy who's intelligent and opinionated. I like when guys are passionate about their interests, and I can't stand apathy. I don't think I could ever be with a guy who doesn't have a sense of humor, and I'd prefer a guy who's kind and who shares my moral outlook. I'd want a guy who's active and in good shape (though he doesn't have to be anywhere near physically perfect for me to find him attractive). I'd like a guy who's a real man's man, and I'd want someone who'd make me feel safe. I'd like a man who has a nice smile. Generally, I'm most attracted to bookish, outdoorsy men, but I like all types of guys.

I can't stand arrogance, possessiveness, dishonesty, sleaziness, whininess, hardcore drug abuse, etc. One of my biggest pet peeves is when some guys are too afraid to tell their girlfriends that they want out of the relationship. Because of that, they end up playing their girls, and that's just not cool. I'd want a guy who knows how to man up and do the right thing.

Edited April 6, 2008 by BeenaBobba

[Paddington]

Celibacy means not trying to be good enough for somebody or tell somebody if they are good enough for you.

If we find the perfect spouse, we should give them the mercy of rejecting them.

One person thinks you are funny and serious. Another thinks you are neither.

Some people like you until they know you. Some people will never like you only because they will never know you.

"I think you're ugly" really does mean "it's not God's will."