goldbug16 Posted November 12, 2007 Share Posted November 12, 2007 [quote name='rachael' post='1417635' date='Nov 11 2007, 01:38 PM']Am I the only one who thinks ambition is attractive? [/quote] It depends on how you define "ambition". Eyes are a big factor too....Hahahaa. Oh, yeah, and the limp handshake drives me crazy too. Blagh! I once cracked the fingers of the guys whose hand I was shaking hand. That sentence is realllllllly confusing... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rachael Posted November 13, 2007 Share Posted November 13, 2007 (edited) [quote name='goldbug16' post='1418322' date='Nov 12 2007, 07:56 PM']It depends on how you define "ambition". [/quote] The drive to go somewhere in life, the want and need to succeed. I can't be attracted to a guy who doesn't really want to go anywhere with life. For me, a guy who's doing well in school and work is extremely attractive, especially if he wants to move up in the world. He can't always be comfortable just being at the bottom. He's gotta have some dreams and be trying to reach for them at the same time. It's not about money, it's more about going places... Edited November 13, 2007 by rachael Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
misereremi Posted November 13, 2007 Share Posted November 13, 2007 I've only ever been attracted to good-looking "bad boy"....ascetics. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
goldbug16 Posted November 13, 2007 Share Posted November 13, 2007 [quote name='rachael' post='1418330' date='Nov 12 2007, 08:01 PM']The drive to go somewhere in life, the want and need to succeed. I can't be attracted to a guy who doesn't really want to go anywhere with life. For me, a guy who's doing well in school and work is extremely attractive, especially if he wants to move up in the world. He can't always be comfortable just being at the bottom. He's gotta have some dreams and be trying to reach for them at the same time. It's not about money, it's more about going places...[/quote] Yeah, then I agree with you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rachael Posted November 13, 2007 Share Posted November 13, 2007 [quote name='goldbug16' post='1418335' date='Nov 12 2007, 08:10 PM']Yeah, then I agree with you. [/quote] Sweet. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Socrates Posted November 13, 2007 Author Share Posted November 13, 2007 (edited) Ok, everything I've read on the subject lately (albeit from secular, carp sources) says women are most attracted to money and financial/career status (as well as status symbols like nice cars, etc.) In studies, money/career came first, followed by looks, and then kindness (or something like that). I figured my problem was basically lack of money, though women being primarily attracted to money and wealth does create a lot of cynicism about the opposite sex. In one survey I was reading about, women were asked what it would take for them to choose a shorter man over a taller man, and the most common answer was that he would have to make at least $100,000 more. (So much for men being the shallow sex! And no, this isn't a personal issue for me, as I'm not short, but it did seem to show remarkable shallowness.) This phatmass survey (though admittedly unscientific) seems to give oppposite results. No one picked money first, yet a number picked it as least important. Social status/popularity was also an "unpopular" choice - though from my experience (and what I've read) it seems to rank very high. Many girls (and I'm talking the "good Catholic" variety), seem unwilling to so much as seriously talk to anyone outside their accepted clique. Of course, I can't accuse anyone voting here of being a hypocrite, though I suspect there is a wide gap between what women say they want, what they actually go after. Predictably for Phatmass, holiness/spirituality/virtue was the most popular choice for most important factor, though I recall on other threads girls discussing how they tended to be attracted more to non-Catholic guys, or saying how religion was only one of many factors going into choosing a mate. Anyways, just thought this was kinda interesting, for whatever it's worth - probably not much. Edited November 13, 2007 by Socrates Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rachael Posted November 13, 2007 Share Posted November 13, 2007 [quote name='Socrates' post='1418474' date='Nov 12 2007, 11:34 PM']Social status/popularity was also an "unpopular" choice - though from my experience (and what I've read) it seems to rank very high. Many girls (and I'm talking the "good Catholic" variety), seem unwilling to so much as seriously talk to anyone outside their accepted clique.[/quote] I tend to talk to guys outside of my clique for some reason. Popularity isn't important to me- honestly. Actually, my ex-boyfriend was extremely unpopular here at school and was quite popular back at home (it actually kind of irritated me). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Socrates Posted November 13, 2007 Author Share Posted November 13, 2007 [quote name='rachael' post='1418485' date='Nov 12 2007, 11:42 PM']I tend to talk to guys outside of my clique for some reason. Popularity isn't important to me- honestly. Actually, my ex-boyfriend was extremely unpopular here at school and was quite popular back at home (it actually kind of irritated me).[/quote] I was talking in generalities - obviously this doesn't apply to everyone, but it does seem rather common. (And if that is the same ex-boyfriend you've been talking about on here, I'd say his unpopularity at school is for a good reason!) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lena Posted November 13, 2007 Share Posted November 13, 2007 maybe because women see men who make a lot of money as being capable of "providing" for them, and their future family. and material wealth is an attractive aspect to a lot of people, heck look at those ugly rock stars and their young girlfriends. I do know girls who just want to marry a rich guy and never work. Men always seem to complain though about that money one, just like women always complain about the guys who want girls to look like heidi klum (ok it was the first name that popped into my mind, but everyone gets the idea). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lena Posted November 13, 2007 Share Posted November 13, 2007 (edited) double post..... Edited November 13, 2007 by Lena Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lena Posted November 13, 2007 Share Posted November 13, 2007 (edited) yay three times a charm Edited November 13, 2007 by Lena Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rachael Posted November 13, 2007 Share Posted November 13, 2007 [quote name='Socrates' post='1418495' date='Nov 12 2007, 11:52 PM']I was talking in generalities - obviously this doesn't apply to everyone, but it does seem rather common. (And if that is the same ex-boyfriend you've been talking about on here, I'd say his unpopularity at school is for a good reason!)[/quote] He is the one! But in all honesty, popularity within the social world can be such a negative thing to people. It can mess with their heads. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Winchester Posted November 13, 2007 Share Posted November 13, 2007 I null voted to see. I am glad courage didn't get a single vote for the least, but to see the physical prowess get so many for the least is a bit sad. That this would be the thing that has the least affect, especially when there are so many other worthy unimportant categories is wierd. I am continually appalled when slightly built pretty men are held up as attractive. The hideous trend toward men who get their nails done is inching its way into the mainstream. While getting a manicure doesn't rob one of masculinity, it is a slippery slope that all too often ends in mascara and socks that match one's shirt. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
prose Posted November 13, 2007 Share Posted November 13, 2007 I said intelligence, but I think money is up there too. Not in a materialistic kind of way, but monetary responsibility is important to me. It really demonstrates several virtues, self control being one of them. So, throw stuff at me if you think I am greedy, but to me, money is important. As for least, the "rebel attitude" is bleh to me. Interestingly, one of the options was authority, I can't STAND men with false senses of authority. Real authority is something earned and can be attractive in some cases. There are so many positives that could be negative and negatives that could be positive. Hard list. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MRSannie Posted November 13, 2007 Share Posted November 13, 2007 I love my hubby. Here are the top ten things that make a man attractive: 1. clears the table 2. makes the bed 3. mows the lawn 4. does laundry 5. does windows 6. cooks 7. cleans up the kitchen after cooking 8. grocery shops 9. says, 'let's eat out tonight' 10. picks up dog mushy mud pie Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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