For The Ladies Only

[Socrates]

Ok, I've got my own dark, mysterious reasons for making this poll, but mostly out of idle curiosity and because I've apparently got too much time on my hands.

Ladies, please be honest, and don't all just vote for the "correct" answer.
While any insights and words of wisdom are welcome, you may vote anonymously if you don't want your answer known publicly.
And any guys who vote to screw up the results - I'm watching you, and will exact justice upon you accordingly.

Edited November 11, 2007 by Socrates

[MissyP89]

Intellect for the win! I love a man who can keep up a good, intelligent conversation. Holiness is good, too, but a smart guy will get me in a heartbeat.

And I could honestly give a flying rat's butt about popularity. (My apologies if that was inappropriate.)

[alicemary]

Looks are fleeting, I look for a man with a good head on his shoulders. A smart guy who knows how to think things through. At my age, money is kind of important too, as well as sense of humor.

[diwa]

A good sense of humour always get my attention.

As for me, social status does not mean a thing.

[rachael]

I need a guy with ambition. Ironically, that is hard to find in the college setting.

A good sense of humor, and intelligence are also a plus. Also, I like to see how he treats others...I don't like guys who judge others quickly.


What I do not care about is his popularity.

[Brigid]

I've found that I'm attracted most to holy, Catholic boys who really care about their faith.

the whole "bad boy" thing is dumb... and not at all attractive. you need to know when to follow the rules.

[Farsight one]

[hijack]You ladies need to have a talk with some of my female friends and get it through their thick skulls that they shouldn't fall for a guy just because he's smooth or can dance.[/hijack]

[rachael]

[quote name='Brigid' post='1417325' date='Nov 11 2007, 01:15 AM']the whole "bad boy" thing is dumb... and not at all attractive. you need to know when to follow the rules.[/quote]
I can see where a bad boy can be attractive. Not in the sense of doing illegal things...but if they are a little bit more into spontaneity. I'm not making much sense though.

[morostheos]

I've already answered, but then I got to thinking, do you mean initial attraction or sustained attraction? Those are two very different things I would say.

Honestly though, at this point in my life, the holiness/spirituality/moral virtue is the most attractive because it's the hardest to find. I've come across many nice, funny, intelligent guys in life, but I'm usually only attracted to them until something really offensive comes out of their mouths regarding religion.

Edit: If I had to pick a second choice that was more based on the initial attraction, I'd have to say gentleness/kindness/caring.

Edited November 11, 2007 by morostheos

[Brigid]

[quote name='rachael' post='1417333' date='Nov 11 2007, 12:21 AM']I can see where a bad boy can be attractive. Not in the sense of doing illegal things...but if they are a little bit more into spontaneity. I'm not making much sense though.[/quote]
no, that makes sense.

[Veritas]

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After holiness, I find a nice beard most attractive.

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Edited November 11, 2007 by Veritas

[hoosieranna]

I'll admit to a fondness for broad shoulders. However, after that first impression, gentleness is what I want. Arrogance is an immediate and immense turnoff. We don't always have to agree, but I won't stick with someone who is even slightly violent. Gentle, or not at all.

[missionseeker]

I voted intelligence, which is definitely true, but I put sense of humor/humourous/funny/clever under the intelligence.

A guy who doesn't understand jokes isn't all that clever or all that intelligent.

But maybe that's just me.

The thing that MOST initially gets me, though, is voice. Really. Smooth and deep is what i like best, but there are other types that I just want to listen to all day long.

I don't know why, but I LOVE deep voices.

[Adrestia]

To the first, I voted other. What attracts me most is a combination of passion (for life) and humility.

I have no desire to accumulate excess money or material possessions, so the wealth/junk thing got my second vote.

As far as appearances go, I do have a thing for facial hair. Since I enjoy outdoor activities (cycling, climbing, swimming, backpacking, etc.), athletic guys are more likely to be compatible with me.

[jiyoung]

Amen to the voices thing. But I put holiness/etc because that's one of the main deciding factors. You may have everything else that I want, but if you are godless and immoral, or even just apathetic, then those traits immediately diminish. It's one of those things that is absolutely necessary.

I don't like the "rebel" attitude because I don't really even see the point in it. Also, sometimes charm and smooth talking will just turn me off because a lot of times it feels really oily and slick and fake--I appreciate genuine people.