Happy Birthday Tristan-man

[Azriel]

It strikes me at odd times, the fact that my lovely Tristan man hasn't been with us for almost five years. It remains as true today as it did 5 years ago that the love that little boy brought into my life, and those around him is unparalleled.

Tomorrow would be his 11th birthday, and yet in my mind he will always be 6 1/2. His miracle being that he survived at age 2 to make it to 6 1/2. If there ever was proof in the existence of God, and the strength of the human heart, it was evident in T-Man. Despite every set back known to man, he refused to leave us.

I have no answers as to why we were given 4 more years with him. Why when they said he wouldn't make it, he did. And why oh so suddenly he was gone.

I only know that in my heart, Tristan will always be my T-Man. The little boy who showed me that obstacles can be overcome, that with love all things are possible.

For those of you if do not know T's story, I'll dig it up and repost it. I don't have the strength to tell it again.

To T - I love you. I miss you every day, and I pray to be reunited with you in God's Light and Love.

[PapaHilarious]

what a beautiful tribute to Tristan. thank you for sharing. i just said a prayer for you and your family.

i lost my father (age 49) to suicide just over a year ago, and it's still a thought that finds me in my dreams even when i manage to escape it throughout the day. i can't say that i can fully sympathize with you, because everyone's experiences in life are so unique, but i will say your post did two things: brought tears to my eyes as i felt a piece of your loss and warmed my heart as i felt the joy of life that we so often undervalue.

God bless.

[cmotherofpirl]

[franciscanheart]

Happy birthday, Tristan. Pray for us.

[homeschoolmom]

As a mom with a child whose birthday is today (he's four) and a child who is 11, I am sitting her trying to imagine life without them and envision the change in my eldest since she was 6 1/2. Children are so precious and we sometimes take them for granted... that they can't possibly die because they are children... Prayers for you, your family and for Tristan's family.

[dUSt]

[Lil Red]

[quote name='hugheyforlife' post='1383684' date='Sep 11 2007, 03:06 PM']Happy birthday, Tristan. Pray for us. [/quote]


for Azzie

[knightec]

Sometimes God only gives us an angel for a little while. Mine was Tyler, he was 4 when Christ called him home. Tyler battled luekemia for nearly a year before his little body couldn't fight anymore. In that year I learned more from him about being strong and loving life. I would have never believed that a 3 year old would be able to save the life of a lost 17 year old.
I believe that God used your Tristan in the same way. He has probably touched someone in a way that no adult could ever do. My prayers are with you and I know that he is up in heaven smiling down on you.

[IcePrincessKRS]

:sadder: Prayers for you and Tristan's family.
[quote]As a mom with a child whose birthday is today (he's four) and a child who is 11, I am sitting her trying to imagine life without them and envision the change in my eldest since she was 6 1/2. [b]Children are so precious and we sometimes take them for granted... that they can't possibly die because they are children... [/b]sadder.gif Prayers for you, your family and for Tristan's family.[/quote]

Its hard to face the grim reality that this isn't true. I know I try to will it away, but the knowledge that something bad could happen is always there in the back of my mind. This year we mourned the loss of our nephew on the first anniversary of his death. Days later we thought of him again on what would have been his 7th birthday. But even in death Joshua has touched many people, brought people closer together. I am amazed when I read the comments on the website they put up in his honor all the people who "heard from a friend of a friend of a friend" and post to offer their prayers and support. I know Tristan has caused the same effect.

[Azriel]

Love to everyone, and thank you for all the words. Back with specific comments later.

[cmotherofpirl]

[quote name='IcePrincessKRS' post='1383912' date='Sep 11 2007, 11:48 PM'] Prayers for you and Tristan's family.
Its hard to face the grim reality that this isn't true. I know I try to will it away, but the knowledge that something bad could happen is always there in the back of my mind. This year we mourned the loss of our nephew on the first anniversary of his death. Days later we thought of him again on what would have been his 7th birthday. But even in death Joshua has touched many people, brought people closer together. I am amazed when I read the comments on the website they put up in his honor all the people who "heard from a friend of a friend of a friend" and post to offer their prayers and support. I know Tristan has caused the same effect.[/quote]

Yes.
Enjoy them everyday, because we don't know if we will have them tomorrow.
Our angel was Mary Rose who died 18 years ago this month from a brain tumor.

[Deus te Amat]

[url="http://www.phatmass.com/phorum/index.php?showtopic=47907&hl=Tristan"]Link to Tristan[/url]


Here Azriel... so you dont have to....

[Azriel]

Thanks Deus_te_amat.

It seems that life is divded into chapters for me. Life with Tristan, and Life without. To all of you that have experienced a loss of someone so young (not that the pain of losing someone old isn't real, just different), it is an experience that is so wraught with pain as to seem unbearable ... and yet, it is an experience that can teach us so much. Not that I wish it on anyone.

Just as Icey described Joshua - that's how it was with T. Scores of people who had heard his story through friends of friends, therapists, doctors, family ... everyone who heard T's story was touched in a way that was indescribable. Just look at the people he touched on PM alone!

I was truly blessed to be in this child's life. As much pain as I feel ... as his family ... his sister, my Goddaughter, now 8 feels .... none of us would trade the time we had with T for anything. And life with T wasn't easy. Carrying around a almost 60 pd child who not only wouldn't help you, but fought you was a lesson in and of itself!

T has helped define for me, the true nature of strength, courage, and living life with Love.

Ok, gotta stop now before the tears overwhelm me.

Thank you to all again. God's blessings to you.

[franciscanheart]

this is coming up soon. the story touches me every time - it never matters how many times i've read it. i'll have to dig up the story...

[Lil Red]

[quote name='hugheyforlife' post='1643892' date='Aug 31 2008, 10:26 PM']this is coming up soon. the story touches me every time - it never matters how many times i've read it. i'll have to dig up the story...[/quote]
+J.M.J.+
thanks hughey.