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I must vent and speak my peace about certain things that go on here. I say this with love and I say this as a shepherd of the Church.

We must present the Truth of the Faith in love. I do not like getting personal emails from people who are very hurt because of the attitude of the postees at phatmass. Enough already!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Enough!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

If the attitudes of some people do not change soon, then there will be action taken to make this a loving and peaceful environment. Think before you post.

In love,

Fr. Pontifex

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"Above all things I believe in love. Love is like oxygen. Love is a many-splendored thing. Love lifts us up where we belong. All you need is love!" -Moulin Rouge

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I know that I can sometimes I can be abrasive and short. I also tend to become impatient too (for I see myself in your words). Forgive please.

'Lord, may the words of my mouth and the thoughts of my heart always be pleasing to you.'

To do all things with LOVE! So easy to say, so very difficult to do.

Like my mom used to remind me, If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all.

Lord help us to pray before we speak and that the Holy Spirit would seal our lips from all unkindness, that Christ Jesus may be glorified by every word that proceeds from our heart and lips.

Blessings,

Nell

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cmotherofpirl

THis is generally a loving and fairly peaceful environment. People do try to balance kindness and honesty here. People do apologize here. Dust and the Mediators of Meh do an excellent job of balancing personalities and threads.

But, everyone of us has issues and buttons and trigger points, and generally we do not post them at the top of every page with clear warning "do not discuss" or "do not go there'". This is not a mental health board.

Yes we have to have sensitivity, but we are people posting on a message board, standing around the water cooler. We are (mostly) not professional counselors, we are people who like to hang out together. And while we are talking about issues of life and death, its only words without gestures and tone and hugs. It can never replace the real thing, but its as close as we can get being scattered all over the globe.

People have to have enough maturity to know what sets them off and get up and walk away from the computer if they cannot handle it or send a PM and talk (or cry and yell) privately. Responsibility, like love, is a two-way street.

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Mother of Pearl,

There is no room for debate here. I am not asking for an opinion at this point. All I am saying is that it needs to change. All, need to take that to heart, and think hard before they post. If you feel that you are loving and have control than this doesn't apply to you. If you are defensive and feel a need to defend, well than maybe you need to look at that.

FR. Pontifex

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Kilroy the Ninja

When you say defensive and feeling the need to defend does this apply to defending the faith? (I assume in a charitable way...)

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Why not privately e-mail the parties you feel are abrasive and make them aware that they are hurting other people? They may not be aware of it and may really not mean to hurt others.

Just my .02 cents

God Bless,

Carrie

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As any parent or child can attest, sometimes love is delivered with a swat of the hand to the rear. And Paul said in 1 Cor. 5, in certain cases people need to have their bodies handed over to Satan to be destroyed in order for their souls to be saved. And Paul also called Cretans drunkards in his epistle to Titus; would that count as unloving?

Sometimes love has to be confrontational. I'm not saying to go out of your way to be mean, but when people tell lies we shouldn't be called unloving for calling them liars.

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Stop nit-picking Fr. Pontifex to death.

Yes, we need to swat on the butt, but first comes love. It's easy to fool ourselves that we're giving 'tough love' when we really are just being 'tough' without love.

Good gracious. You'd think Father would have to talk to a lawyer to word it just right. Take his advice with a bit of grace and pray about it. There ain't a one of us who's always as nice as we should be (not just could, but should be.)

Well, except for Az, but she's freakish that way.

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