fearundercontrol Posted November 20, 2006 Author Share Posted November 20, 2006 [quote name='Balthazor' post='1124415' date='Nov 20 2006, 05:21 PM'] we are a pretty small galaxy and you are anonymous [/quote] That doesn't mean anything to my dad. Just the fact that I blabbled it to anyone and everyone is enough, and "who knows who is on there" and blah blah blah. It would never end. Trust me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Balthazor Posted November 20, 2006 Share Posted November 20, 2006 Yeah I understand. But don't worry. As for you parents being against you... I highly doubt that they are against you. Maybe against what you think you should do, but they want you to be well just as much as you want to be well. They are only trying to help you in that healing and they have a different idea than you do. I know it is frustrating, but don't be hurt, they are really trying to look out for your best interest. Before you close off to other options find out what they have in mind and see if you could work together on it. Maybe there is more than one road to wellness. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fearundercontrol Posted November 20, 2006 Author Share Posted November 20, 2006 (edited) [quote name='Balthazor' post='1124438' date='Nov 20 2006, 05:35 PM'] Before you close off to other options find out what they have in mind and see if you could work together on it. Maybe there is more than one road to wellness. [/quote] I know what it is. My therapist has already told me. And one problem I have is that she's always all talk. She never actually gets to doing anything she talks about doing. Or she starts and never finishes. So as much as she insists that DBT will help, it may be months, or maybe never, before we actually do it. And clearly she doesn't understand at all what I'm having problems with, even though I know I have shared these things with here. She says I'm not having problems with the very things I'm having problems with! I really don't want to continue going through this, especially when I know there's something out there that could very possibly actually help me. I feel like the past four years I have spent going to Joan have been a total waste. Edited November 20, 2006 by fearundercontrol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fearundercontrol Posted November 21, 2006 Author Share Posted November 21, 2006 Holy carp. MY DAD ACTUALLY UNDERSTOOD ME. HE ACTUALLY LISTENED AND UNDERSTOOD ME!!!! He came up to my room and asked to talk to me and we talked for like maybe five minutes. No yelling, no lecture, nothing. He asked some questions and he totally listened to what I said AND HE ACTUALLY GOT IT! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kosh Posted November 21, 2006 Share Posted November 21, 2006 aren't parents awesome? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cmotherofpirl Posted November 21, 2006 Share Posted November 21, 2006 Hurray!!!!!!! the first hurdfle is crossed! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JesusIPray Posted November 21, 2006 Share Posted November 21, 2006 Its a good start! Putting one foot in front of the other. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Groo the Wanderer Posted November 21, 2006 Share Posted November 21, 2006 JMJ! w00tiness! Luv ya sis - you are on yer way!!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jaime Posted November 21, 2006 Share Posted November 21, 2006 [quote name='fearundercontrol' post='1124722' date='Nov 20 2006, 08:18 PM'] Holy carp. MY DAD ACTUALLY UNDERSTOOD ME. HE ACTUALLY LISTENED AND UNDERSTOOD ME!!!! He came up to my room and asked to talk to me and we talked for like maybe five minutes. No yelling, no lecture, nothing. He asked some questions and he totally listened to what I said AND HE ACTUALLY GOT IT! [/quote] Excellent. I'm glad he listened. almost as important I'm glad I was right Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fearundercontrol Posted November 21, 2006 Author Share Posted November 21, 2006 (edited) [quote name='JesusIPray' post='1124780' date='Nov 21 2006, 12:53 AM'] Its a good start! Putting one foot in front of the other. [/quote] Isn't there some Sesame Street song about that? Edited November 21, 2006 by fearundercontrol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Balthazor Posted November 21, 2006 Share Posted November 21, 2006 There is a song on "santa clause is coming to town' that the winter warlock sings. You put one foot in front of the other, and soon you'll be walkin cross the floor. You put one foot in front of the other and soon you'll be walkin out the door. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fearundercontrol Posted November 21, 2006 Author Share Posted November 21, 2006 I don't think that's the one I'm thinking of. Maybe it is. I dunno I'd have to hear it. I've been thinking today about this whole situation. And it just seems so strange to me. I feel like I'm not the kind of person who should have to get this kind of help or have this kind of problem. It's like, this isn't really happening to me, right? I feel like I'm someone else or something. I don't know how to explain it. I called the person Sherie told me to call about whether or not Centre Syracuse is approved by my insurance and about getting an evaluation, but I had to leave a message. I also called and left a message for Sherie to call my dad, because he said he would like to talk to her. And when I talked to Sherie, she said she is going to try to get ahold of Joan and talk to her. So that is where everything is at. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Balthazor Posted November 21, 2006 Share Posted November 21, 2006 Well sounds like you are doing a good job of taking care of things. I am glad to hear that your Dad listened. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fearundercontrol Posted November 22, 2006 Author Share Posted November 22, 2006 The person from Centre Syracuse called me back this evening and said they do accept my insurance (or, rather, my parents' insurance). My dad said that that isn't an automatic green light, however. In order for our insurance to approve of this, they are going to have to review my whole history--and that is where I will probably run into problems. He also said he isn't going to support me on this without a second opinion. Which pretty much means Sherie is going to have to be able to convince Joan that this is the right thing for me, which seems next to impossible. I don't want to have to wait for all this to sort out, or have to deal with the "what if" thoughts of it not working out. I just want it to happen now, even if it meant not finishing the semester. I mean I want help with this finally, for the first time, and now I'm having to wait and wait and wait, with the possibility lingering that it might not happen. This is so frustrating; I JUST WANT HELP! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mary EJ Posted November 22, 2006 Share Posted November 22, 2006 I will pray for you! I hope you will be able to get the treatment you need! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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