N/A Gone Posted October 30, 2006 Share Posted October 30, 2006 I am the token catholic defender on a popular sports website that I do some timberwolves work for (**scary considering how I dont consider myself a good defender) One of the posters recently came back to the faith and has had some gut-wrecking issues and needs serious prayers. But, how would you answer or help with his latest letter? [quote]Just thinking about how I have had sex with two girls. I have denied it plenty more times than I have done it. I know I'm not expected to be perfect, but at the same time, my natural reaction to sinning is terrible. When I do something I know is wrong, I immediately assume God is mad at me, and I don't go to Church that week, because I feel I don't belong there anymore or something. Like I would be a hypocrite to stand among all of those people considering what I have done. The "scene" I am in, is one where going home with a girl happens sometimes. 99% of the time, we'll make out and clothes come off, and I just refuse to have sex. It's really dumb because, first of all, I'm embarrasing and misleading them. And secondly, because what am I doing exposing myself to situations where I will have more temptations. I don't know. I'm just spiritually confused right now. I always feel better when I remember that I shouldn't be alive, but I am. And I know that God has been there for me when I need Him the most. I'm just a dumb and confused college kid and that's about it.[/quote] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thessalonian Posted October 30, 2006 Share Posted October 30, 2006 (edited) He needs theology of the body so that his sexuality is redeemed. So that he doesn't just know that it is wrong but knows that he knows that it is wrong. www.christopherwest.com As for not going to Church, that's the devil talking. Confession is the cure so that what's done in the darkness is no longer in darkness. Then satan has no power over us. As long as the sin is on our soul he can use it to accuse us. Frequent confession would help so that he can partake of the Eucharist, which will give him strength against these sins of the flesh. Edited October 30, 2006 by thessalonian Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
phatcatholic Posted October 31, 2006 Share Posted October 31, 2006 usually someone who will go that far and then stop is trying to have it both ways. he hasn't made the decision yet to live totally for Christ. he has one foot on rock and the other on sand. once he plants both feet firmly on The Rock he'll begin to feel more confident in his return to the Faith. then he can begin to quit humiliating himself and giving the devil fodder for despair. then he can start saying "no" to situations that compromise his faith and his dignity as a person. as long as he tries to have it both ways, he will remain in turmoil. [b]Josh 24:15[/b] And if you be unwilling to serve the LORD, choose this day whom you will serve, whether the gods your fathers served in the region beyond the River, or the gods of the Amorites in whose land you dwell; but as for me and my house, we will serve the LORD. [b]Mt 6:24[/b] No one can serve two masters; for either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve God and mammon pax christi, phatcatholic Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jswranch Posted October 31, 2006 Share Posted October 31, 2006 [quote]usually someone who will go that far and then stop is trying to have it both ways. [/quote] I lived in this world for a few years in college. TOB really helped rescue me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Era Might Posted October 31, 2006 Share Posted October 31, 2006 What phatcatholic said. I think chastity is either all or nothing. If you are going after it half heartedly, you'll fall every time. I like how the Saints talk about temptation as a "discussion" with demons. If you even give the discussion a moment of consideration, they'll trap you, and pretty soon you are in their hands. And that's just in the mind. If you're putting yourself in physical moments of temptation, that's even more damaging, and it's almost impossible to remain chaste. But, as far as going to Church after he sins, Our Lord himself said that the healthy do not need a doctor, but the sick. Jesus is traditionally called the "divine physician". Sin is like an illness. We have to go to Church and receive the Sacraments as often as possible to gradually root out the disease. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EcceNovaFacioOmni Posted October 31, 2006 Share Posted October 31, 2006 The "discussion with demons" is totally true. Temptation must be totally uprooted. At the very first instant you have to pull yourself out because the longer you ponder the temptation, the more you try to justify sin. Looking back at times when I have fallen, it is amazing how powerful temptation is over the mind. You don't quite think the same way at all. If you can pull the thought out of the head immediately, you will be fine. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
XIX Posted October 31, 2006 Share Posted October 31, 2006 Very true. You are a very different person when you sin. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
N/A Gone Posted November 1, 2006 Author Share Posted November 1, 2006 I love you guys...you know that? Oh yea..I luv ya..probably a huge reason why i reverted Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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