curtins Posted August 8, 2006 Share Posted August 8, 2006 Do you think it would be a good idea to write a letter to the father of the girl you love to 1. inform him and 2. to seek his permission in moving into a serious relationship with her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tojo Posted August 8, 2006 Share Posted August 8, 2006 There are, imo, a few things to consider. Like, is he conservative to not think you're crazy? Also, I personally wouldn't tell a father I loved his daughter unless she loved me and was willing to tell that to her dad, you might be different, I don't know. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
curtins Posted August 8, 2006 Author Share Posted August 8, 2006 He's conservative. Hes a cop and thus protective of her by nature. What if its a mutual love (yes dear sir I love your daughter who hates my guts ) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tojo Posted August 8, 2006 Share Posted August 8, 2006 Then it should be okay. Though many men would prefer you come and talk to him, look him in the eye, firmly shake his hand, that sort of thing. So, he can size you up, lol. Is that an option you've considered? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
curtins Posted August 8, 2006 Author Share Posted August 8, 2006 ive met him before Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tojo Posted August 8, 2006 Share Posted August 8, 2006 I looked at your ptofile since last posting and I see that you're 16 years old. As a a matter of personal policy, I discourage relationships for high schoolers. Dating in high school is a bad idea, you're too young. There, I've fulfilled my duty. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
curtins Posted August 8, 2006 Author Share Posted August 8, 2006 (edited) well i appreciate your input anyone else? Edited August 8, 2006 by curtins Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
onlygrace08 Posted August 8, 2006 Share Posted August 8, 2006 Well, I agree with tomasio127, in that teenage relationships rarely work out. However, that fact aside, I think that a father would much rather have a young man come and talk to him. I know if any young man were to write a letter to [i]my[/i] father, that he would think that the young man was to scared to come and talk to him. However, this all depends on the father really. Would her father think it a respectable thing to do? sorry if that sounded really confusing... lol God Bless Anna Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tojo Posted August 8, 2006 Share Posted August 8, 2006 Assuming your young lady is close in age to you, your actions could cause her father to fear that you desire to be more serious with his daughter than he would like for her to be with someone at her age. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lahecil Posted August 8, 2006 Share Posted August 8, 2006 I'm a teenager in a relationship and in love, so I can relate, at least from the female perspective. I wouldn't write her father a letter. Go talk to him. [quote]Assuming your young lady is close in age to you, your actions could cause her father to fear that you desire to be more serious with his daughter than he would like for her to be with someone at her age.[/quote] Tomasio 127 brings up a really good point. If or when you talk to her father, make your intentions VERY clear and as innocent as possible. Keep in mind though, things DO change, and love may not always be around forever. Don't tie yourself down unless you're absolutely positive this is what you want. I'm not saying to break up if you're not sure, just leave the possibility open. My boyfriend and I do plan to spend our life together, but at the same time we're sure to create alternate plans, just in case things don't work out. For example, I want to move to Florida and go to school with my boyfriend. My dream college is there as well. I'm not only going to apply to several Florida colleges, but several NY colleges as well, in case things don't work out and I don't want to move. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ash Wednesday Posted August 8, 2006 Share Posted August 8, 2006 I agree that face-to-face would be better than a letter. Tell him you have nothing but the most honorable intentions for his daughter, and would like his permission to court her. Of course he may or may not grant your request, but at the very least I would hope that he would view your conduct to be very considerate and noble. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
curtins Posted August 8, 2006 Author Share Posted August 8, 2006 seeing that the general consensus is face to face conversation - which id probably do anyways- now I gotta figure out how to set that up.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Norseman82 Posted August 8, 2006 Share Posted August 8, 2006 I agree with face-to-face. For one thing, if the father ends up disliking you, anything written could be used as evidence in court to get an order of protection against you! Advice: since you are in high school, go slow. Start out with group dates or dates to family outings, either yours or hers. Gain the family's trust. Maybe the father will take you to the shooting range - that may gain his respect. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
curtins Posted August 8, 2006 Author Share Posted August 8, 2006 Court? what? lol yeah shes gonna have a party I think before school starts so that'll probably be a good time to see if I could talk to him speaking of shooting- she said he'd teach me to shoot Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lahecil Posted August 8, 2006 Share Posted August 8, 2006 Definitely try and talk to him at the party, if only for a few minutes on the side. If not, see if you can get invited over for dinner one night and you can chat with him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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