sin to flirt?

[avemaria40]

OK, I'm a strong, practicing Catholic and a guy friend of mine, while not Catholic, is a very strong Christian. We've known each other for awhile and we often flirt with each other. Is that a sin?

[cappie]

I suppose it depends on what you mean by flirting

The Bible does not specifically talk to us about whether or not flirting is wrong, so what we should do is examine the definition of flirting. According to Merriam-Webster, flirting is: a) to behave amorously without serious intent, or b) to show superficial or casual interest or liking. It is synonymous with the word “trifle,” which is something of little value.

The next thing we should examine is what people are usually trying to accomplish when they flirt and that's where you may be able to answer for yourself.

Are they trying to get attention from others, whether it is negative or positive? Are they attempting to show sexual interest or attraction? Do they see it as “innocent fun,” ?


It's always good to remember that sin always begins in our minds and then moves to our hearts. Matthew 12:35 tells us that “A good person produces good words from a good heart, and an evil person produces evil words from an evil heart.” It is a fact that whatever we surround ourselves with, whatever we indulge ourselves in, and whatever we fill our minds with is what we will become.

This is why Philippians 4:8 says, “Fix your thoughts on what is true and honorable and right. Think about things that are pure and lovely and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.”