Correcting my wife on obligation to Mass

[indescribable]

cow of shame. you take the words right out of my abusive mouth :

Edited June 20, 2006 by indescribable

[jswranch]

[quote name='thessalonian' post='1008371' date='Jun 19 2006, 02:27 PM']
Well we can make the difficulty of finding a mass easy.

[url="http://www.parishesonline.com/scripts/HostedSites/USMap.asp"]http://www.parishesonline.com/scripts/HostedSites/USMap.asp[/url]
www.masstimes.org
www.masstimes.com

Is'n't the internet grand. No excuse for sin anymore.
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I know of these sites. I used them saturday to give her directions and times for mass while she was out of town, but she still did not want the information. Her mind was already made up.

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Here is a question for you phatties..

I am sick, like I have an illness that i have been playing with for about 3 years now.

anyway, that is not my point. My point is sometimes on sunday I wake up and I will start throwing up to the point of exuastion and I fall back asleep for a few hours.

Now, would you call this a mortal sin cause i cant go to mass because I have been sick? This does not happen every sunday, just sometimes.

[homeschoolmom]

Start going Sat. evening.

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oh, and I do go to confesssion weekly or biweekly(**depending if it was a weak,,or a week) I just do not feel proper confessing I missed mass when I do not feel guilty for it. it kind of goes against the purpose of confession I feel.

educate me brothers

[homeschoolmom]

My understanding is that if you made every effort to go to Mass but you are unable to (I think tossing your cookies constitutes inability) and you intended to go (but were unable to), you are okay.

However, I think that if you intend to go in the morning, but are sick in the morning so you don't go (but you could go in the evening because you are feeling better and are not contageous) but you don't go because you don't want to go in the evening or you have something else planned or whatever, then you are commiting a sin, IMHO.

[Guest JeffCR07]

[quote name='Revprodeji' post='1011571' date='Jun 24 2006, 12:07 PM']
Here is a question for you phatties..

I am sick, like I have an illness that i have been playing with for about 3 years now.

anyway, that is not my point. My point is sometimes on sunday I wake up and I will start throwing up to the point of exuastion and I fall back asleep for a few hours.

Now, would you call this a mortal sin cause i cant go to mass because I have been sick? This does not happen every sunday, just sometimes.
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If you fully intend to go to Mass, but illness renders you physically incapable, then no, of course you are not committing a mortal sin. The only exception would be (and I am certainly not accusing you of this - I know you wouldn't do this) if you use an illness as an excuse to skip Mass when you really could go and not physically suffer.

Your Brother In Christ,

Jeff

[toledo_jesus]

[quote name='jswranch' post='1007242' date='Jun 17 2006, 08:13 AM']
My better half is in Norfolk, VA to see inlaws with our kids. She missed mass last weekend and did not plan on attending next sunday due to inconvenience of transportation and finding a CC in the area (yes, she has a phone, phone book and a car). I reminded her she is obliged to go every sunday and holy day of obligation. Her response was that God would understand even if she missed and did not have the energy to go (after finding mass and times): the issue was not really that big of a deal. I reminded her that her new faith (reception into Catholic Church on 30 april 06) did not allow her to pick and choose demands.
I like to think I conveyed this message lovingly and charitably.
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Norfolk VA has like 5 Catholic Churches. I live there. You were right on, and as a husband you should be looking out for your family's faith. Just like she should look out for you.

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thanks jeff.

nah, if Im sick, im pretty much kissin the white school bus.

I set my alarm this morning, and then when I pushed snooze I turned it off..

what about that? My intention was to get up and go

[Guest JeffCR07]

[quote name='Revprodeji' post='1011964' date='Jun 25 2006, 12:51 PM']
thanks jeff.

nah, if Im sick, im pretty much kissin the white school bus.

I set my alarm this morning, and then when I pushed snooze I turned it off..

what about that? My intention was to get up and go
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hahaha, again, if it really was an accident and there was nothing more you could do, then its ok. From a spiritual point of view, I would suggest trying to go sometime during the week - not out of guilt, but just because the Eucharist helps us get through the week in a state of grace

[Norseman82]

[quote name='Revprodeji' post='1011571' date='Jun 24 2006, 01:07 PM']
Here is a question for you phatties..

I am sick, like I have an illness that i have been playing with for about 3 years now.

anyway, that is not my point. My point is sometimes on sunday I wake up and I will start throwing up to the point of exuastion and I fall back asleep for a few hours.

Now, would you call this a mortal sin cause i cant go to mass because I have been sick? This does not happen every sunday, just sometimes.
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Have you seen a doctor about this?

[quote name='jswranch' post='1007242' date='Jun 17 2006, 07:13 AM']
My better half is in Norfolk, VA to see inlaws with our kids. She missed mass last weekend and did not plan on attending next sunday due to inconvenience of transportation and finding a CC in the area (yes, she has a phone, phone book and a car). I reminded her she is obliged to go every sunday and holy day of obligation. Her response was that God would understand even if she missed and did not have the energy to go (after finding mass and times): the issue was not really that big of a deal. I reminded her that her new faith (reception into Catholic Church on 30 april 06) did not allow her to pick and choose demands.
I like to think I conveyed this message lovingly and charitably.
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Question: when you two were first married, were you Catholic?

[jswranch]

[quote name='Revprodeji' post='1011573' date='Jun 24 2006, 12:09 PM']oh, and I do go to confesssion weekly or biweekly(**depending if it was a weak,,or a week) I just do not feel proper confessing I missed mass when I do not feel guilty for it. it kind of goes against the purpose of confession I feel.

educate me brothers[/quote]

You are obligated to attend the holy days of obligation. This includes ~8 days (for USA) and every sunday. Ignoring this prescription or being disobediant to it is a grave matter. Midweek is recommended but not required. If you feel God calls you to the mass above and beyond the minimal requirements, then you should attend and repent of missing, however check with your spiritual advisor.


[quote name='Norseman82' post='1012028' date='Jun 25 2006, 03:09 PM']Question: when you two were first married, were you Catholic?[/quote]
No. We were married at an Episcopal church by my father ('priest') in Feb '02. I was received into the church in Nov 05, wife in April 06.

Today at mass she decided not to receive. She asked me if she could first. I told her she was guilty of a grave matter. Whether she had full knowledge and a total consent was only to be known by her and God. She promised to make an appointment with her pastor.