curtins Posted June 1, 2006 Share Posted June 1, 2006 So basically theres this girl I like and shes going out with one of my good freinds and it was a major let down to me when I found out aabout a week ago but I've since gotten beyond the initial shock etc and I'm deffinatly living with it and I mean I wish them all the best and everything. However I still sometimes see myself as one day maybe going out with her and I'm kinda keeping maybe a bit more "watch" if you will on their relationship (normally I wouldnt care). Cause the thing is the dude has gone out with several girls this year and they all ended relativly quickly so i mean its not like im hoping they're gonna end so I can go out with her but I'm not gonna lie that in the back of my mind I think its going to end sometime soon jsut because of how things have been with him this year. Then again I could be completly wrong and she could be "the one" for him. so idk is that like jelousy or something? cause I mean you kinda can't help but think about some of this stuff when the girl you like is going out with someone else. Gracias amigos Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Franimus Posted June 1, 2006 Share Posted June 1, 2006 If you lived in a movie, you'd get into some adventurous situation with the three of you, your friend would do something bad causing her to break up with him, and then she'd fall for you without you doing anything at all. But I bet you don't live in a movie. I'd continue to keep quiet about it, and try to act like it's all normal. They say your thoughts control your actions, but I think your actions control your thoughts.. Act a certain way for a while and you'll start thinking that way too. If you act normal about it for too long, you might lose interest in the girl, or if your friend and her break up quickly, then you might not have yet lost interest. Either way it's good, since if they break up after a long relationship it'd be awhile longer till you (as a good friend of his) would be able to date her, imo. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
toledo_jesus Posted June 1, 2006 Share Posted June 1, 2006 yeah, you're jealous. make yourself scarce if you can't control it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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prose Posted June 1, 2006 Share Posted June 1, 2006 I ran into this once. With my hubby's friend. The anger built up so high in him that he couldn't be around us, and it almost destroyed him (and their relationship). Even when he "tried", he was clearly annoyed and angry and bitter. It was very awkward for a long time. He ended up going away for a while, and when he came back, he had grown up and many things had changed, and now we are all good friends again. I am not saying you need to move away, but you need to deal with YOUR issues. This isn't hers or his issue, it is yours. If you let this anger build up in you, it will only get worse. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
curtins Posted June 1, 2006 Author Share Posted June 1, 2006 Im not angry am I disappointed? yeah but who wouldnt be? I'm not angry and I don't hate them or anything. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChrisZewe Posted June 1, 2006 Share Posted June 1, 2006 Curtins...I've seen 3 of your threads on PM, and they've all been whining about some girl, and I'd bet it's the same one from the beginning of school that you were crying about. DEAL WITH RELATIONSHIPS YOURSELF INSTEAD OF LETTING E-PEOPLE DICTATE THEM FOR YOU...ffs... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
curtins Posted June 1, 2006 Author Share Posted June 1, 2006 I've never cried over any girl also- the people on pm are not just "e-people" theres a reason we refer to each other as "pham" I'm seeking input and opinions. Thats it. Good day Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Extra ecclesiam nulla salus Posted June 1, 2006 Share Posted June 1, 2006 [quote name='ChrisZewe' post='994783' date='Jun 1 2006, 04:14 PM'] Curtins...I've seen 3 of your threads on PM, and they've all been whining about some girl, and I'd bet it's the same one from the beginning of school that you were crying about. DEAL WITH RELATIONSHIPS YOURSELF INSTEAD OF LETTING E-PEOPLE DICTATE THEM FOR YOU...ffs... [/quote] this is the only time I think i've ever agreed with Chris... Why do the opinions of people you meet on the internet matter, especially in your relationships with people they do not know? it seems kind of whiny and a tad annoying. Kind of like one of the things one should keep to oneself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JesusITrustInYou Posted June 1, 2006 Share Posted June 1, 2006 curtins, I'll pray for you I'm reading a book called "Bathe Seven Times," it's about the seven deadly sins. I wrote this on one of my livejournal entries, maybe you'll find something helpful in it: [quote]"Mrs. D. lent me a book called Bathe Seven Times, it's about the seven capital sins. It's awesome so far! This is from Chapter 2, on Envy: "Basically, envy is desiring something I don't have, I can't have, or I wish I had." (St. Thomas Aquinas: "Envy is sorrow or sadness over another's good because that good is regarded as something witheld or taken away from the envious person's excellence or reputation.") "We cannot directly control the rising of an emotion in our hearts. But it is that second step of what we are going to do about this emotion or feeling once we get in touch with it that determines whether we are going to sin or not sin." "We need to pray constantly for the gift of wisdom....The highest form of wisdom is surrender. Surrender brings about union, which brings about love. If we are totally surrendered to God, we have paradise within us. We have heaven with us....If we have paradise within us, there is nothing to envy. We have it all." "The second word of the Cross, "This day you will be with Me in paradise" (Lk 23: 43), will bring about the victory and put envy to death. The key words are with Me. Whenever we are with Jesus, we are fulfilled. St. Francis of Assisi said, "My God and my All." When we are with Jesus in this kind of paradise, when we are with Jesus in this kind of union, when we are with Jesus in the kingdom within, what or who is there to envy? We have it all." "The main virtue that we need to beg for to combat this sin of envy will be charity, love....This love will be manifested mainly through humility and obedience....We need poverty of spirit and emptiness like Our Lady had when she received this gift and said, "The hungry He has given every good thing" (Lk 1: 53). The more we can be empty of self, empty of self-love, self-interest, and self-concern, then the more we can be filled with good things as well." "When envy is activated within us, practicing more self-denial will be helpful. We need to pray for an increase in humility and charity." "The Twenty-third Psalm sums up the prayer for a prayer warrior when they can nail envy to the Cross and be with Jesus this day in paradise. "The Lord is my shepherd, truly nothing do I want" (Ps 23: 1). Nothing, nothing do I want." The author also talks about how it's important to PRAY, to talk with God about our feelings of envy..."[/quote] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
curtins Posted June 1, 2006 Author Share Posted June 1, 2006 thanks alot Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JesusITrustInYou Posted June 1, 2006 Share Posted June 1, 2006 welcome Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
curtins Posted June 1, 2006 Author Share Posted June 1, 2006 Do you want me to complicate matters? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChrisZewe Posted June 1, 2006 Share Posted June 1, 2006 You could maybe, you know, develop something resembling social skills and deal with your own meaningless drama without help from people you've never met. Just my two cents, though. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Extra ecclesiam nulla salus Posted June 1, 2006 Share Posted June 1, 2006 [quote name='ChrisZewe' post='994867' date='Jun 1 2006, 05:40 PM'] You could maybe, you know, develop something resembling social skills and deal with your own meaningless drama without help from people you've never met. Just my two cents, though. [/quote] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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