Proud2BCatholic139 Posted April 18, 2006 Share Posted April 18, 2006 Yes, I am frustrated and mostly it is about one particular thing... No, it's about many other things. Why is it, that I try to be the best person I can be and no one appreciates who I am. It's just all of the sudden, one day, a lot of people have just stopped talking to me and essentially ending a good friendship. Just because I am honest in what I feel? Why can't I be a caring person? It's breaks my heart to know once what we had was wonderful. Then, all of the sudden, one day, just end it like that. I won't go into grave detail, because names are not important, but only God knows, and I just want to erase it forever. But, why can't I erase it forever? Why is it always engraved in my brain? Brandon~ You can go off and drink every night, smoke, do whatever. I won't stop you because you are a grown man and you can make your own decisons. I just hope that deep down that one day you will come to be the person you once were, the person I knew you as. As you embark your trip to Europe in 2 weeks, just keep in focus. Go off, I won't stop you, but please, remember me. This wasn't just for Brandon, but, I just need help to overcome this...I need a lot of strength. I know I am stronger and I feel stronger, but I want to keep reaching for the top. I just want honesty from all of my friends. That is all I want. Please, just be honest with me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
indescribable Posted April 18, 2006 Share Posted April 18, 2006 Ironically, my friend from Minnesota (my home state) has taken this course of action in their life. It's so hard now because I don't have the time to drive 13 hours to talk to her or even the time to talk to her every week on the phone. She used to be the most spontaneous, craziest person I knew. Now she's constantly worried about what her group of peers (friends) and her terrible boyfriend think of her. She might be too far gone for me to help, but she isn't too far gone for God to help. And even when I know I don't have the words inside me right now that will change her life, someday either I will be supplied by God with those words or those actions or he will take the direct course or action and speak to her directly. Not everyone reaches the top. Not everyone can. Being great doesn't mean you're better. I'm trying to learn about, love my mediocrity. read parts of East of Eden.... goodness I love that book. but God bless. God will heal your heart - I can tell. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Servant_of_Eve Posted April 18, 2006 Share Posted April 18, 2006 [quote name='Proud2BCatholic139' date='Apr 17 2006, 10:08 PM']Yes, I am frustrated and mostly it is about one particular thing... No, it's about many other things. Why is it, that I try to be the best person I can be and no one appreciates who I am. It's just all of the sudden, one day, a lot of people have just stopped talking to me and essentially ending a good friendship. Just because I am honest in what I feel? Why can't I be a caring person? It's breaks my heart to know once what we had was wonderful. Then, all of the sudden, one day, just end it like that. I won't go into grave detail, because names are not important, but only God knows, and I just want to erase it forever. But, why can't I erase it forever? Why is it always engraved in my brain? Brandon~ You can go off and drink every night, smoke, do whatever. I won't stop you because you are a grown man and you can make your own decisons. I just hope that deep down that one day you will come to be the person you once were, the person I knew you as. As you embark your trip to Europe in 2 weeks, just keep in focus. Go off, I won't stop you, but please, remember me. This wasn't just for Brandon, but, I just need help to overcome this...I need a lot of strength. I know I am stronger and I feel stronger, but I want to keep reaching for the top. I just want honesty from all of my friends. That is all I want. Please, just be honest with me. [right][snapback]951697[/snapback][/right] [/quote] You must not surround yourself with people that will bring you down Go and adore Our Lord in the Blessed Sacrament, don't speak just listen See what He has to say to your heart Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Proud2BCatholic139 Posted April 18, 2006 Author Share Posted April 18, 2006 I just can't stand when people beat around the bush or lie to protect my feelings. It makes me Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Proud2BCatholic139 Posted April 18, 2006 Author Share Posted April 18, 2006 [quote name='Servant_of_Eve' date='Apr 17 2006, 09:20 PM']You must not surround yourself with people that will bring you down Go and adore Our Lord in the Blessed Sacrament, don't speak just listen See what He has to say to your heart [right][snapback]951719[/snapback][/right] [/quote] It's not necessarily being around them, it is what I hear, see, or read. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dUSt Posted April 18, 2006 Share Posted April 18, 2006 I think all your problems stem from the fact that you live in Minnesota. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Proud2BCatholic139 Posted April 18, 2006 Author Share Posted April 18, 2006 What is your point? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Christie_M Posted April 18, 2006 Share Posted April 18, 2006 [quote name='Proud2BCatholic139' date='Apr 17 2006, 08:20 PM']I just can't stand when people beat around the bush or lie to protect my feelings. It makes me [right][snapback]951722[/snapback][/right] [/quote] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OverheadNite Posted April 18, 2006 Share Posted April 18, 2006 Everyone has relationship problems. Its tough. The one thing that I finally did that got me through a world of hurt, and a terrible end to a wonderful relationship is trust, faith and love of God. You need to keep focus on the ultimate end. What this life is for. God is our goal, and yea while it hurts when others let us down, God will never let you down. He'll lift you up in your times of hurt. Trust in Him and all will be okay. Better to suffer in this lifetime then in purgatory. Hang in there. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Proud2BCatholic139 Posted April 18, 2006 Author Share Posted April 18, 2006 Then in the mean time, should I just let them know that I am essentially ending my relationships until they want to talk to me again? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OverheadNite Posted April 18, 2006 Share Posted April 18, 2006 [quote name='Proud2BCatholic139' date='Apr 17 2006, 09:32 PM']Then in the mean time, should I just let them know that I am essentially ending my relationships until they want to talk to me again? [right][snapback]951742[/snapback][/right] [/quote] If your relationship with them is too difficult with them right now then yes, end it, because you can't put yourself through continuous pain if its not necessary. Me and my ex broke it off, I finally got over it, and two and a half years later, I'm starting to talk to her again. I allowed myself enough time to heal. It doesn't hurt me now to see her as a friend. Before, it killed me to think of her as just a friend. But you'll be surprised what taking that necessary time off from that person will do for you. It hurts now to think of letting that person go, but trust me its for the best for YOU. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
franciscanheart Posted April 18, 2006 Share Posted April 18, 2006 [quote name='Proud2BCatholic139' date='Apr 17 2006, 10:29 PM']What is your point? [right][snapback]951737[/snapback][/right] [/quote] I was hoping you would ask. Move to Texas. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
catholicinsd Posted April 18, 2006 Share Posted April 18, 2006 [quote name='Proud2BCatholic139' date='Apr 17 2006, 10:08 PM'] Brandon~ You can go off and drink every night, smoke, do whatever. [right][snapback]951697[/snapback][/right] [/quote] As you wish. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
franciscanheart Posted April 18, 2006 Share Posted April 18, 2006 [quote name='OverheadNite' date='Apr 17 2006, 10:39 PM']If your relationship with them is too difficult with them right now then yes, end it, because you can't put yourself through continuous pain if its not necessary. Me and my ex broke it off, I finally got over it, and two and a half years later, I'm starting to talk to her again. I allowed myself enough time to heal. It doesn't hurt me now to see her as a friend. Before, it killed me to think of her as just a friend. But you'll be surprised what taking that necessary time off from that person will do for you. It hurts now to think of letting that person go, but trust me its for the best for YOU. [right][snapback]951752[/snapback][/right] [/quote] That's good advice. If ever you feel like you're in a situation where it pains you to think of the current state of the relationship and it stays that way for a long period of time with little or no change, a break is probably a good idea... painful... but good. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OverheadNite Posted April 18, 2006 Share Posted April 18, 2006 (edited) Yea, unfortunately this is all from my past expierence. It really is a bummer, but definately worth it so you can be at some what of a peace. Just keep focus on God, and don't stop praying. You'll make it through. Plus, you have a support group right here on this board. Edited April 18, 2006 by OverheadNite Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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