cmotherofpirl Posted November 17, 2005 Share Posted November 17, 2005 Make sure she is not drinking pop, or too much coffee or any energy drinks at night, and getting to bed sometime before daylight approaches. And check her alarm when is not in her room. Make sure her bike is safe, good brakes etc, and she has warm enough gloves, scarves etc, say a prayer to St Jude, and let the consequences occur. Always keep a supply of hot chocolate and hugs available. I am still working out making my kids more responsible for their actions. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
annie Posted November 17, 2005 Author Share Posted November 17, 2005 Thanks, all. Her clock is her responsiblity--we have a million clocks all around, and if hers was off by any significant amount, it would have made itself evident. Even so, she learned a lesson to check clocks. She was mad but civil. She realized I loved her but that I would not cover for her. She has a disabled brother (younger) so some of it is 'why does he get help' mixed with 'I am not disabled like HIM" thing. She wants help but doesn't want help, you know? I think it was a good lesson, and as for the gloves and hat--we HAVE Them available, but she is a 14 yr old who values her looks over comfort-- I tell her the temp, suggest attire and let her suffer for vanity if she so chooses... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thy Geekdom Come Posted November 17, 2005 Share Posted November 17, 2005 [quote name='annie' date='Nov 17 2005, 10:59 AM']Thanks, all. Her clock is her responsiblity--we have a million clocks all around, and if hers was off by any significant amount, it would have made itself evident. Even so, she learned a lesson to check clocks. She was mad but civil. She realized I loved her but that I would not cover for her. She has a disabled brother (younger) so some of it is 'why does he get help' mixed with 'I am not disabled like HIM" thing. She wants help but doesn't want help, you know? I think it was a good lesson, and as for the gloves and hat--we HAVE Them available, but she is a 14 yr old who values her looks over comfort-- I tell her the temp, suggest attire and let her suffer for vanity if she so chooses... [right][snapback]792737[/snapback][/right] [/quote] I think you did well. I hope I'll be as good a parent as you or JasJis. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cmotherofpirl Posted November 17, 2005 Share Posted November 17, 2005 [quote name='annie' date='Nov 17 2005, 10:59 AM']Thanks, all. Her clock is her responsiblity--we have a million clocks all around, and if hers was off by any significant amount, it would have made itself evident. Even so, she learned a lesson to check clocks. She was mad but civil. She realized I loved her but that I would not cover for her. She has a disabled brother (younger) so some of it is 'why does he get help' mixed with 'I am not disabled like HIM" thing. She wants help but doesn't want help, you know? I think it was a good lesson, and as for the gloves and hat--we HAVE Them available, but she is a 14 yr old who values her looks over comfort-- I tell her the temp, suggest attire and let her suffer for vanity if she so chooses... [right][snapback]792737[/snapback][/right] [/quote] 13 -14 has to be the worst age Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rckllnknny Posted November 17, 2005 Share Posted November 17, 2005 [quote name='cmotherofpirl' date='Nov 17 2005, 08:17 AM']Make sure she is not drinking pop, or too much coffee or any energy drinks at night, and getting to bed sometime before daylight approaches. And check her alarm when is not in her room. Make sure her bike is safe, good brakes etc, and she has warm enough gloves, scarves etc, say a prayer to St Jude, and let the consequences occur. Always keep a supply of hot chocolate and hugs available. I am still working out making my kids more responsible for their actions. [right][snapback]792661[/snapback][/right] [/quote] LOL.....thas my cmom! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cmotherofpirl Posted November 17, 2005 Share Posted November 17, 2005 (edited) [quote name='rckllnknny' date='Nov 17 2005, 11:40 AM']LOL.....thas my cmom! [right][snapback]792779[/snapback][/right] [/quote] hugs to my cyber-son. Edited November 17, 2005 by cmotherofpirl Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lil Red Posted November 17, 2005 Share Posted November 17, 2005 you did great annie! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Proud2BCatholic139 Posted November 17, 2005 Share Posted November 17, 2005 Oooh, how cute.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
franciscanheart Posted November 17, 2005 Share Posted November 17, 2005 [quote name='jasJis' date='Nov 16 2005, 05:14 PM']Just a blip. I knew she would be mad at you, though she was responsible enough not to abandon the bike. Consider it as her hoping you'd come get her. Have hot choclate, cookies, and a pat on the back from her. Praise her for what she did right. She took care of business. Tell her she showed maturity and see if you can come to an agreement that you either don't get her up until she's going to be late, and you only tell her once. Tell her she's demonstrated the maturity to deal with the consequences (and you are proud of her). Whether it's riding the bike in the cold, or making up school work if she misses class and what ever else the school does for unexcused absences or tardies. Don't nag her for sleeping in. Refuse to discuss it with her if she's just going to blame the clock or you being mean. Tell her that these things happen and being mature is dealing with it. Tell her she proven to you that she is right, she's not a baby that needs to be nagged. [right][snapback]791908[/snapback][/right] [/quote] i really hope i can be as good a parent as you someday. you have won my respect in a whole new way with this post. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
annie Posted November 17, 2005 Author Share Posted November 17, 2005 Cyber son!!! I will adopt him, too! (maybe I am too old? Should he be my cyberGRANDMOTHER?????? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cathurian Posted November 17, 2005 Share Posted November 17, 2005 I guess you all are right. My mom drives me to school (I have an early class that begins before the bus even reaches my house), and somehow I had the idea in my head that Annie usually drove her daughter to school, and refused this time to punish her. Even though that doesn't make any sense : Yeah, that would be taking special trouble on your part to drive her to school -- I see now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
annie Posted November 17, 2005 Author Share Posted November 17, 2005 oh my, I would never do that! She normally takes the bus and knows it.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StatingTheObvious Posted November 18, 2005 Share Posted November 18, 2005 I would set all the clocks ahead 30 minutes, and get up like I'm going to work and then watch her freak when I leave. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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