Frankcdnj Posted December 8, 2003 Author Share Posted December 8, 2003 Traichuoi, Yes, I agree that there are secondary virgins and I have not excluded them. But it has to be a lower number of partners. If a woman has had 1(preferably) maybe 2 than I could say ok. But some women have 5, 10 and plus. Then claim to have a change or conversion. I will not accept say a number higher than like I said 2. And I am not being a prude or not being Catholic, but sex is such a personal act that it should be done with discretion. Remember this: Sexual sin is committed with the body, and its gratification is from within the physical body. Other sins, like stealing, are outside the body (the object stolen is outside the body). Hatred or resentment starts from within the person, but is directed to someone outside that person. So it is with all other sins, even though they originate within the evil mind (not body), as Jesus reminds us in Luke 6:45: "The good person out of the good treasure of the heart produces good, and the evil person out of evil treasure produces evil; for it is out of the abundance of the heart that the mouth speaks." I wish I knew where you meet all these virgins because I know hardly any. And I can not ask that question of the women I know but are not dating. Just not a good idea. Plus, at my age the numbers are not as high. I am not claiming to be a saint but time wears on people the same as water erodes a rock. The woman maybe a virgin until 30 but then she is desperate for a man. So, she then gives up her virginity to keep him and it happens often. I have never pressured a woman for sex and never will. In fact women (not street walkers)have propositioned me quite a few times. Not interested! Yes, I am using my single life for praying and enhancing my spiritual life. Like I said I keep increasing my prayer time frequently. Regarding online dating, I am moving away from that idea. I meet younger women in real life circumstances than I can online. Women online that want me are considerably older than the age range I am interested in. (In fact one older woman called me an SOB because I did not IM her 8 times a day. I told her politely to "Go Away." ) Also, I find women who use online dating are more desperate and more picky than in real life. Now, I do not want to sound like a male pig, but that is my take. And I can deal with the rejection. I recently asked a woman I knew for two days. She is a client of my employer. Yes, she said I have a boyfriend. But the rejection does not bother me. They say every pot has a lid, I just want my lid before my pot is warped. Frank Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frankcdnj Posted December 8, 2003 Author Share Posted December 8, 2003 (edited) Just encase you did not know, sex with a virgin has a more serious gravity of sin than a non-virgin. Unless of course they are consumating their marriage. Edited December 8, 2003 by Frankcdnj Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
revolutionoflove Posted December 8, 2003 Share Posted December 8, 2003 Does anyone know if Bobbi and Brian got my last post? Hi Frank, I only have a moment but I wanted to let you know that I read your post. Thanks for the kind words, I'll pass them on to Brian. Sorry about the email mix up. When we changed addresses I forgot to update my PM account but I've done it now so it should be working. I'll try and stop by later and comment a bit more on some of your statements. In the meantime, God bless. Bobbi Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IcePrincessKRS Posted December 9, 2003 Share Posted December 9, 2003 Frank, if you are looking for a Catholic internet dating-service type thing I suggest Catholicsingles.com I know a couple people who have met good solid Catholic people on there and gone on to get married and have kids. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PedroX Posted December 9, 2003 Share Posted December 9, 2003 Frank, My best friend dated a wonderful, orthodox and virtuous woman he met on Ave Maria website. They did not get married, but I know there are no regrets. Just my two cents. peace... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frankcdnj Posted December 9, 2003 Author Share Posted December 9, 2003 Hi Bobbi, I am glad you read my post I will wait for your reply. Hi PedroX and IcePrincess, I have not totally ruled out the online sites. AveMaria and Catholic Singles do have a history of success. I just may. Frank Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carrie Posted December 9, 2003 Share Posted December 9, 2003 Frank, give it a try. You've got nothing to lose and everything to gain. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frankcdnj Posted December 10, 2003 Author Share Posted December 10, 2003 I tried an online Catholic service and the results were not good. I have less than zero interest in those that have interest in me. I am not picky, but no! I have decided to give the money to charity and continue to pray. End of discussion. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IcePrincessKRS Posted December 10, 2003 Share Posted December 10, 2003 Good decision. Prayer works wonders. God will send you exactly what you need. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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