Birgitta Noel Posted December 3, 2003 Share Posted December 3, 2003 :( Sigh, the whole thing makes me sad Marielapin. Unite yourself to the heart of Mary, imagine what people said about her and Joseph! You and your mom will be in my prayers. And yes, I agree that she'll come around! In the meantime be good to yourself! And enjoy this joy that God has placed within you, literally! God bless, Birgitta Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IcePrincessKRS Posted December 3, 2003 Share Posted December 3, 2003 You and your mother are in my prayers Lauren. Like Kilroy, Likos, and Az, I am positive that your mother will come around. Until she does know that you have a whole phamily that is thoroughly excited for you and praying for you all. ***HUGS*** Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anna Posted December 3, 2003 Share Posted December 3, 2003 marielapin, God has given you a treasure, the greatest treasure, in fact, because nothing else we acquire on earth will accompany us to eternity...but our children will, Lord willing!!! A very holy priest used to often remind me of that. I think that he noticed the affluence of others around me and feared that I would be remorseful, but I wasn't. I knew he was right. As a mom, I knew where my treasures were. When we announced our expectancy of our third child, my mother in law exclaimed, "Oh no, Not again!" After that, I never afforded her the opportunity to make a remark like that to me again. She would learn of my subsequent pregnancies through the grapevine and rumor mill of our little town. Finally, when we learned that we were expecting twins (babies ten and eleven) my husband paid his parents a visit. "Mom, Dad," he began, "I have something to tell you, and I'm very happy. So, if you can't say something good, please don't say anything at all. Anna and I are expecting twins!!!" They said nothing at all. Once his family (prots) suggested that he leave me, as I was "irresponsible." I think they meant regarding the use of artificial birth control. Both of his other siblings are divorced. One is remarried, with two children and two stepchildren. The other is living in sin and has a 25 year old son from his first marriage and a 2 year old son out of wedlock with his live-in girlfriend.....and I'm "irresponsible!" It's just a matter of perspective, and your mom isn't looking at the world nor at your situation from a Catholic point of view. Also, you've done the best possible thing with your brain. You've used God's gift of reason and intellect to seek and find His Truth. If your sister hasn't properly developed her own brain, yours would surely be wasted on her!!! :D God is charge. He is All Wise, All Knowing. Why, He even knows more than your mom! Don't let her words penetrate your heart. Keep on the full (maternity-size) armor of God. Have no fear, bunny foo, you are on the right path. (P.S. I'm 44, and will happily adopt a phatmass grandbaby, in addition to my own two biological granddaughters!) Pax Christi. <>< Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
foundsheep Posted December 3, 2003 Share Posted December 3, 2003 Make sure you stay away from stress and worry. That baby and your husband are the most important thing right now. I know its hard and I had to do it but you definately have to devolop the I dont care what others think attitude. Youve been blessed, and those who dont want to share in the blessing should stand on the sidelines at least until your pregnancy is done. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cmotherofpirl Posted December 3, 2003 Share Posted December 3, 2003 Oh sweetie I am so happy for you. Another phatmass baby! Your mother missed out on the greatest role a woman can have - the creation of life and a new child of God. Pity her and move on. You have chosen the better part and that will make all the difference. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PedroX Posted December 3, 2003 Share Posted December 3, 2003 Marielpan, Please offer up this small bit of suffering for the souls in purgatory. Rejoice that you have a loving husband, and the gift of a child on the way. Christ said that to follow Him we must be willing to face the rejection of family and friends. My prayers are with you, and I am so happy for you and your child. God bless, peace... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BullnaChinaShop Posted December 3, 2003 Share Posted December 3, 2003 Thank you all for your wonderful responses to Lauren. I would also ask that you all will pray for me that I won't lose my temper over what her mother says. Jared Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anna Posted December 3, 2003 Share Posted December 3, 2003 Surround yourself with the many well wishers and peeps who will be praying for you and your baby! If the naysayers realize that they're missing the boat, they may jump on board. But avoid stress. You and your precious child don't need it. Keep a positive attitude! The world is wayyyyy too down on pregnancy, childbirth, babies, and children. You are now officially an witness for life. Wear it like a badge of honor! :D Pax Christi. <>< Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carrie Posted December 3, 2003 Share Posted December 3, 2003 Jared, you all are in my prayers!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marielapin Posted December 3, 2003 Author Share Posted December 3, 2003 I love you guys! :wub: Please also pray for when I actually have to tell my boss that I won't be coming back to work, and when I tell my family this as well. I'm sure they will have a few things to say about that. What's sad is I think my family will take it worse than my boss will. Most of the men I work with have wives that stay at home with their children, and are continually praising them for all the good work they do. I know they will not be happy that I am leaving, but I think they will understand. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lil Red Posted December 3, 2003 Share Posted December 3, 2003 I don't have anything new to add, just pray for her. Sometimes things happen for the better that are a complete surprise to us. You and yours are in my prayers. Blessings to you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FaustinaVianney Posted December 3, 2003 Share Posted December 3, 2003 girl, you are in the right to be upset that your mother isn't excited about you being pregnant. It is such a blessing to have a child!!! This is another way in which our world has become anti-child. A child is always a blessing no matter what. I've never been pregnant but I struggle all the time with my parents. They don't like anything about me and feel as if I'm constantly making the wrong decision because of it. Keep bringing it before God and know of all the prayers the phamily is sending up for ya!!! :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
revolutionoflove Posted December 5, 2003 Share Posted December 5, 2003 Dearest Lauren, I am so excited for you!! Congratulations on the little blessing growing in you!! I sympathize with the pain of your mom's attitude. When we told my in-laws we were expecting our first child my mother-in-law's comment was "You just couldn't wait, could you?" Which puzzled me since we "waited" a year by force - I had a hard time getting pregnant. She hated the idea of being a gramma b/c it would admit being "older". (She's one of those older but glamourous looking ladies that looks years younger than she is.) But after Bella was born she changed her tune and she loves her little granddaughter and only has wonderful things to say about her. (Except for the fact that Bella seems to be more like her tomboy mama than her glamorous gramma.) My situation is far from the severity of yours (as you've mentioned previously in emails) but hang in there, dear. If it means not conversing with your mom for awhile, so be it. You need to think of your little one now, who needs a happy mommy. As Kilroy stated previously, "Cleave to your husband! This too shall pass!" Our Lord and Lady will strengthen you and bring peace to your heart. And if there's a moment when you just need to vent and receive an encouraging word, your PM family is always here! You are in our prayers, Lauren. Much love, bobbi PS - And if you ever need to talk one-on-one to a "real" voice, let me know and I'll give you my phone number. (I'm sure there are others catholic mamas here willing to do the same. ;) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IcePrincessKRS Posted December 5, 2003 Share Posted December 5, 2003 PS - And if you ever need to talk one-on-one to a "real" voice, let me know and I'll give you my phone number. (I'm sure there are others catholic mamas here willing to do the same. Yes, count me in on that, too! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Janana8706 Posted December 28, 2003 Share Posted December 28, 2003 i'm praying for you girl. How are things now? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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