the_rev Posted May 31, 2005 Share Posted May 31, 2005 Ok, since I believe the other advice thread should die, while I'm gone to work tonight, I was wondering if you people could give me advice on one issue. As you are aware I like this one girl, asked her to homecoming last fall she declined. Now on Friday we went on a field trip together and we talked just a little, and she gradually kept moving up seats that were closer to me, until she was right behind me. PMers have told me to approach her and talk along with my own personal friends. But I have talked to her probably three or four times at most. Now should I just be assertive and start a conversation whereas I'm a complete stranger? Wouldn't it be akward for me to start a conversation with a person with whom I've talked to very little? What would you do if you were in my shoes? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fidei Defensor Posted May 31, 2005 Share Posted May 31, 2005 Just be yourself, and casually say hello, or start up a conversation. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carnanc Posted May 31, 2005 Share Posted May 31, 2005 if you are in the same classes at school, I don't think it would have to be awkward, just start talking like you would with any of your other friends. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
crusader1234 Posted May 31, 2005 Share Posted May 31, 2005 I don't get the point of having two almost identicla threads, aside from the fact that this thread leaves out the part about you driving past her house to see where she lives. Now, don't get me wrong, but it seems to me like you're way too into this. My advice: Talk to her in person once a day or so, making your intentions apparent but not too obvious. After about a week or something, so long as she reciprocates, ask her out. Oh, and don't find out anything from her that she doesn't tell you, it will freak her out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Extra ecclesiam nulla salus Posted May 31, 2005 Share Posted May 31, 2005 try to act really really cool Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phikoz Posted May 31, 2005 Share Posted May 31, 2005 maybe make some comment about something that both of you are familiar with, a class at school, a test in a class, or something like that, and build from that Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Extra ecclesiam nulla salus Posted May 31, 2005 Share Posted May 31, 2005 be like Im descerning the Catholic Priesthood...but i also want to go out with you.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
crusader1234 Posted May 31, 2005 Share Posted May 31, 2005 ^ HAHAHA Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catholictothecore Posted May 31, 2005 Share Posted May 31, 2005 There is nothign wrong with taking the inititave to talk to her. I know what it's like to like a girl and not really know what she thinks of you; not fun. Remember that what you really want is to get to know her. Take it slow, and let God in before you do anything. It's too dangerous to not have His help. Just ask Him to be with you, pray to Mama Mary to help you be resigned to whatever is Her Son's will, and go talk to her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
iggy Posted May 31, 2005 Share Posted May 31, 2005 I talk to strangers all the time! I just walk up and say "Hi! You look like a stranger! My name is Amber, it is a pleasure to meet you!" Of course, I am 20 and have never had a boyfriend and generally only talk to strangers at the Newman Center... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Extra ecclesiam nulla salus Posted May 31, 2005 Share Posted May 31, 2005 is the newman center named after Saint John Newman? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catholictothecore Posted May 31, 2005 Share Posted May 31, 2005 Newman! Yes, named for John Cardinal Newman. Awesome, awesome, awesome! Def one of the bigger influences of my life as an older teen. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Extra ecclesiam nulla salus Posted May 31, 2005 Share Posted May 31, 2005 I made a mistake... St. John Nepomucene Neumann and John Cardinal Newman are different people. oops Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
heyyoimjohnny Posted May 31, 2005 Share Posted May 31, 2005 I think the "be yourself" advice is the best. If you want to abandon politics and take the simple straightforward approach, just do the thing where you say hi, introduce yourself, and be interested; be nice and gentleman-like, and just... be interested in her. Ask polite questions. Affirm her interests and the like. The awkwardness goes away if you're yourself and you're friendly. And just... don't worry, y'know? God's will be done. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
picchick Posted May 31, 2005 Share Posted May 31, 2005 You know you can always say, "Hey!" then smile then say, "How are you doing?" There is no problem there, it is neutral. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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