Eddie needs advice...

[littleflower+JMJ]

[quote name='the_rev' date='May 30 2005, 03:04 PM'] Hey everyone,

I need advice, I have liked this one girl for a while now. Well, since she became a freshman last fall. I first met her when I let her use my cell phone to call home since her ride didn't come to pick her up. Since then I have had a crush.

I then took the initiative to ask her to homecoming dance, she declined, (she bought a ticket but didn't go)

Since then she told someone to tell me that she didn't want me to talk to her. (I don't know if I should believe this person, anyways this was a while ago)

I have really only talked to her once, all our other conversations were non-verbal.

I really didn't discover that I really liked her, until Friday. There is something about her that draws me to her. You see she is the band, and is pretty involved. Friday we took a field trip to Lawrence Universtiy where my band director went to college for a Jazz concert. Now it was a huge auditorium and we could sit anywhere. She sat on one side of the balcony and I sat right across from her.

I felt kind of guilty, I should have sat by her becasue you know I do like her, and someone else that doesn't like her (he's a weirdo and thinks he is realy cool when everybody doesn't like him) sat next to her.

I continued to look at her sometimes, and well we caught each other looking an one another. (:wub:)

There is really something about this girl, I think it is that she doesn't seek personal attention, she doesn't seek to be popular, etc. I think this is what draws me to her. I really want to get to know her, but as I said previously she requested I don't talk to her, (via another person.)

On the bus she sat a few seats away from me on the opposite side, then she moved up a few seats, and than directly sat behind me. I think it is my personal stories of experience, (i have a lot of funny stories to tell!) that drew her closer!! Hahaha!

Today I even drove by her house to see where she lived. I'd really like to have a "girl friend" or a chaste relationship, and I think she is the one, but yet I'm still a little weary as I am still considering a religious vocation.

Advice? [/quote]
eddie, i think you should take the time to get to know her, talk to her casually and be her friend.

since you are both still young, its a good one....

she might be kinda holding back since she doesnt' really know you that well or something.

definitely take it easy, try talking to her, pray about the relationship and see where it goes.

if not, you got a good friend in the end.

[Phazzan]

[quote name='the_rev' date='May 30 2005, 03:12 PM'] I drove by her house once to see where she lives. [/quote]
:skitzo:

[HomeTeamFamily]

ed....you cant discern two vocations at once







you will explode

for both of your sakes, i think you should hold off on a dating relationship until you have a more definitive answer about the priesthood.....it will save both of your hears trouble if and when the time comes for you to go to seminary

[Philippe]

isnt it good to get a taste of dating just go "make sure" thats not what you are called to because you never know if you dont try

[KobeScott8]

Don't worry about a dating relationship, just talk to her let her know you care about her, do stuff with her in groups and then whatever happens after that happens.

[Extra ecclesiam nulla salus]

Help ease the Clergy Shortage

[the_rev]

[quote name='Extra ecclesiam nulla salus' date='May 31 2005, 11:27 AM'] Help ease the Clergy Shortage [/quote]
This statement is balitstic. Your insinuating I should become a priest becasue their is a shorten. Only God calls one to the priesthood. One can not become a priest becase he himself wills it, but it must be willed by God.

If I was ordained a priest, and never dated, could i honestly say I never explored married life, it's more like i ran away from it.


I'm really getting angry at some people here at Phatmass.