Eddie needs advice...

[the_rev]

Hey everyone,

I need advice, I have liked this one girl for a while now. Well, since she became a freshman last fall. I first met her when I let her use my cell phone to call home since her ride didn't come to pick her up. Since then I have had a crush.

I then took the initiative to ask her to homecoming dance, she declined, (she bought a ticket but didn't go)

Since then she told someone to tell me that she didn't want me to talk to her. (I don't know if I should believe this person, anyways this was a while ago)

I have really only talked to her once, all our other conversations were non-verbal.

I really didn't discover that I really liked her, until Friday. There is something about her that draws me to her. You see she is the band, and is pretty involved. Friday we took a field trip to Lawrence Universtiy where my band director went to college for a Jazz concert. Now it was a huge auditorium and we could sit anywhere. She sat on one side of the balcony and I sat right across from her.

I felt kind of guilty, I should have sat by her becasue you know I do like her, and someone else that doesn't like her (he's a weirdo and thinks he is realy cool when everybody doesn't like him) sat next to her.

I continued to look at her sometimes, and well we caught each other looking an one another. (:wub:)

There is really something about this girl, I think it is that she doesn't seek personal attention, she doesn't seek to be popular, etc. I think this is what draws me to her. I really want to get to know her, but as I said previously she requested I don't talk to her, (via another person.)

On the bus she sat a few seats away from me on the opposite side, then she moved up a few seats, and than directly sat behind me. I think it is my personal stories of experience, (i have a lot of funny stories to tell!) that drew her closer!! Hahaha!

Today I even drove by her house to see where she lived. I'd really like to have a "girl friend" or a chaste relationship, and I think she is the one, but yet I'm still a little weary as I am still considering a religious vocation.

Advice?

[Fidei Defensor]

I would just talk to her and get to know her. Be nice to her so she wont not want to talk to you. Get a good friendship with her first.

[Philippe]

eddie,

this may not be what you want to hear but i think that you are only making the relationship worst. Really truly try and seperate yourself more and try and not be so "into her". Only then will the relationship have a chance at getting stronger and maybe then you can do something about it. For now you really have to try and let it go and give it more time because i think she feels rushed. Im saying this because i care. God Bless brother.

- Philippe

[Qoheleth]

Even if you are called to be a priest, she may be a great friend for you to have along the way.

[Noel's angel]

yeah, don't stalk her-even if you aren't trying to stalk her, it might seem like it if you keep driving past her house and staring at her

[the_rev]

I drove by her house once to see where she lives.

Basically want I want to do is start out as friends, adn let the relationsihp grow.

[Noel's angel]

just warning you, that's all

[geetarplayer]

Yeah, definately try to keep your emotions under control. Don't be too forward or you might scare her.

-Mark

[Catholictothecore]

Eddie,

There is nothing wrong, in my mind, of what you are saying. It's def natural! my advice is too be relying on God's will. be friends if He allows, let it grow if He allows. Cauee, what is the point of being in love with someone other than for Christ in their life!

I can see the fingerprints of God very srongly in a certain girls life. That's what (dare I say it) I like about her. I can see Christ in her. We're both imperfect, so we know there's no point in hainvg anything without Him. That's as it should be.

Peace and prayers,
Alex.

[DancesforLove]

I agree with Noelsangel, that is a little stalkerish. Why would you need to see where she lived if you don't even know her. And if she did ask that you not talk to her you should respect her wishes, if its mean to be it will.
I know thats not what you want to hear but trust me, I know how you feel.
I had a crush on a guy in my homeschool group for two years, we talked a little bit but not too much. He was very shy and quiet and I was very drawn to him. Nothing ever happened between us besides talking so I eventually moved on and my family left the group and we didn't see each other for two years. One day he came online and talked to me and the rest if history. So far we've been together for about 8 months or so and he is my closest friend and we have the best relationship I couldn't ask for more!! I never thought it would happen and I never thought we'd reunite and be together.

I told you that to help you understand that time is a good thing. He and I are both much more mature and we are ready for the relationship and we are happy.
Give it time and if its meant to happen then it will!
God bless and be patient!

[lil bull 04]

talk to her and tell her how you feel. i never knew how my fiance felt about me until he told me to sit my bum down and listen to him a few months ago when he asked me out and after really getting to know him and he asked me to marry him i said yes because i am madly in love with him...even though sometimes you'd wonder because of the way he and i pick on each other and beat each other up in a playful manner but yeah talk to her and see what she thinks.

[Phazzan]

[quote name='the_rev' date='May 30 2005, 03:04 PM'] Hey everyone,

I need advice, I have liked this one girl for a while now. Well, since she became a freshman last fall. I first met her when I let her use my cell phone to call home since her ride didn't come to pick her up. Since then I have had a crush.

I then took the initiative to ask her to homecoming dance, she declined, (she bought a ticket but didn't go)

Since then she told someone to tell me that she didn't want me to talk to her. (I don't know if I should believe this person, anyways this was a while ago)

I have really only talked to her once, all our other conversations were non-verbal.

I really didn't discover that I really liked her, until Friday. There is something about her that draws me to her. You see she is the band, and is pretty involved. Friday we took a field trip to Lawrence Universtiy where my band director went to college for a Jazz concert. Now it was a huge auditorium and we could sit anywhere. She sat on one side of the balcony and I sat right across from her.

I felt kind of guilty, I should have sat by her becasue you know I do like her, and someone else that doesn't like her (he's a weirdo and thinks he is realy cool when everybody doesn't like him) sat next to her.

I continued to look at her sometimes, and well we caught each other looking an one another. (:wub:)

There is really something about this girl, I think it is that she doesn't seek personal attention, she doesn't seek to be popular, etc. I think this is what draws me to her. I really want to get to know her, but as I said previously she requested I don't talk to her, (via another person.)

On the bus she sat a few seats away from me on the opposite side, then she moved up a few seats, and than directly sat behind me. I think it is my personal stories of experience, (i have a lot of funny stories to tell!) that drew her closer!! Hahaha!

Today I even drove by her house to see where she lived. I'd really like to have a "girl friend" or a chaste relationship, and I think she is the one, but yet I'm still a little weary as I am still considering a religious vocation.

Advice? [/quote]
Don't know what everybody else is thinking, but I'm getting MAAAAJOR stalker vibes here..

[KizlarAgha]

[quote name='Phazzan' date='May 30 2005, 06:04 PM'] Don't know what everybody else is thinking, but I'm getting MAAAAJOR stalker vibes here.. [/quote]
Phazzan!!!

[Cam42]

[quote name='the_rev' date='May 30 2005, 03:04 PM'] Hey everyone,

I need advice, I have liked this one girl for a while now. Well, since she became a freshman last fall. I first met her when I let her use my cell phone to call home since her ride didn't come to pick her up. Since then I have had a crush.

I then took the initiative to ask her to homecoming dance, she declined, (she bought a ticket but didn't go)

Since then she told someone to tell me that she didn't want me to talk to her. (I don't know if I should believe this person, anyways this was a while ago)

I have really only talked to her once, all our other conversations were non-verbal.

I really didn't discover that I really liked her, until Friday. There is something about her that draws me to her. You see she is the band, and is pretty involved. Friday we took a field trip to Lawrence Universtiy where my band director went to college for a Jazz concert. Now it was a huge auditorium and we could sit anywhere. She sat on one side of the balcony and I sat right across from her.

I felt kind of guilty, I should have sat by her becasue you know I do like her, and someone else that doesn't like her (he's a weirdo and thinks he is realy cool when everybody doesn't like him) sat next to her.

I continued to look at her sometimes, and well we caught each other looking an one another. (:wub:)

There is really something about this girl, I think it is that she doesn't seek personal attention, she doesn't seek to be popular, etc. I think this is what draws me to her. I really want to get to know her, but as I said previously she requested I don't talk to her, (via another person.)

On the bus she sat a few seats away from me on the opposite side, then she moved up a few seats, and than directly sat behind me. I think it is my personal stories of experience, (i have a lot of funny stories to tell!) that drew her closer!! Hahaha!

Today I even drove by her house to see where she lived. I'd really like to have a "girl friend" or a chaste relationship, and I think she is the one, but yet I'm still a little weary as I am still considering a religious vocation.

Advice? [/quote]
Ok Eddie,

Breathe...in my previous life, you know, the one before I moved into the cave that I live in now, I was pretty handy with girls (ok, stop laughing, it's true, ask hot stuff, he'll vouch for me).

My biggest advice for you is actually simple.....be cool, don't over react, but do react. Walk up to her and talk to her. If she doesn't want to talk to you, you will know quickly. The pain from that will be sharp, but will pass quickly.

If you don't, you are going to wonder and wonder and pine and wonder and pine....ok, you get my point......don't do that. Train yourself now to be straightforward and honest about what you are feeling.

It will make dealing with girls much easier in the future. Most girls will tell you that they don't like those who sit in the wings and watch. Most girls want someone who is assertive. So, be assertive. The younger you understand that, the better off you will be in many aspects of your life....not only with girls, but in many other areas as well.

Trust me on this one, it works. I am not saying be a dink, but I am saying that if you just go up to her and talk to her, you will know what you want, quickly. Be nice, be charming, be assertive, be yourself. You will win over many more people, in this manner than if you are simply a church mouse who waits.

My former roommate was like that....and he made a great wing man. Who do you want to be.....? Maverick or Goose?

Cam

[Phikoz]

just take it slow, let it develop. i was in a well, not so similar situation, but vaguely alike. i liked this one girl, i was really drawn to her, but never really talked to her that much. the first time i got to talk with her is when i sent out an e-mail to all of my youth group, asking for a ride to the bishop's farewell mass, and lo and behold she was the only one to respond and she gave me a ride there and we talked quite a bit and became distant friends. though of course what eventually happened is i asked her out, we dated for 6 months, and now i am entering seminary. lol so God used the relationship to teach me a lot, but in the end wanted something different.

now you have a lot of time, still a couple years of high school, so i say let God take control of the relationship. if He wants you to be with her, you will be with her, if He doesn't, you won't, simple as that.
i didn't force the issue with my past g/f, God slowly revealed to me that He wanted me to be with her(over the course of a year He showed me before i dated her) and now i am still good friends with her even after our breakup.

so be patient, some things take time, and some times old feelings die off, but if it is God's will, do not fret, for eventually things will take off, as they did for me.