Hey Ladies...Dating questions

[ReinnieR]

it's not that complicated. it's like learing how to ride a bike. there would be times when you fall but you learn and you don't forget. but this one. when you fall on this one it hurts worse than falling on a bike. and you definitely learn.

[Catholictothecore]

soo....like, how long do you think is appropriate before asking a girl out?

[Thy Geekdom Come]

Who remembers when VeraMaria, PM's own 16 year-old semi-supermodel was [s]hit on[/s] asked for directions to the nearest porn shop by a couple guys in a truck?

If I recall correctly, she gave them directions to St. Therese of Lisieux Catholic Church...

[ReinnieR]

[quote name='Catholictothecore' date='May 22 2005, 10:33 PM'] soo....like, how long do you think is appropriate before asking a girl out? [/quote]
i don't know. 3 weeks?

[Catholictothecore]

3 weeks after deciding? Not, three weeks after getting to know each other.

[Old_Joe]

[quote]Who remembers when VeraMaria, PM's own 16 year-old semi-supermodel was hit on asked for directions to the nearest porn shop by a couple guys in a truck?

If I recall correctly, she gave them directions to St. Therese of Lisieux Catholic Church...  [/quote]

Nice. :thatsfunny:

[ReinnieR]

[quote name='Catholictothecore' date='May 22 2005, 10:44 PM'] 3 weeks after deciding? Not, three weeks after getting to know each other. [/quote]
3 weeks after deciding what?

[Catholictothecore]

to ask her out. But, Im just spitballing as well. Ignore me.

[Mickey's_Girl]

"Lines" are lame, unless you are suave enough to make it ironic, in which case it could be funny. But eye contact and smiles are the first move, if you don't know someone.

If you are introduced, or have mutual circumstances to comment on (stuck in traffic, watching the same movie, attending an event, etc.), then small talk starts it off.

PAY ATTENTION: is she responding in kind to your advances? If you look at her and smile, does she smile back? Is her smile MERELY POLITE or does it have that sort of "Hmm, you're kind of cute" thing going on? (Yes, I know, guys often have trouble sorting that out. But this is where "chick flicks" come in handy: this little move is in practically every one. You could learn the "Hmm, you're kind of cute" look from them.)

OR--is she smiling, and then AVOIDING YOUR EYES FROM THEN ON? If she's interested, she'll probably sneak looks back at you. If she avoids your eyes, she might be shy, but she probably was just being polite and wants you to leave her alone.

If you chat: does she seem like she's trying to get away (short, polite answers; her body is turned away, or she keeps her distance, and her eyes are focusing on anything but you)? Or does she remain facing you, either looking at you, or looking away because she's shy?

Guys who have trouble reading girls usually have two problems:

1. They don't know HOW to read female nonverbals (they're not always that hard, but they take practice--you mock romantic comedies, but they are EDUCATIONAL, I'm telling you!)

2. They DON'T BOTHER to KEEP reading the signals. They think they've got the message (either positive or negative) after the first few seconds, and then go by that. But girls sometimes are shy at first and warm up to a guy...and also, sometimes they're intrigued at first, but then decide, "Um, no."

PAY ATTENTION! Take learning opportunities! Many guys give up on trying to understand females, but often (with practice) you can at least get the preliminaries (is she interested or not?) down fairly well.

(Not saying that you'll be able to understand women, fully, ever. But practice makes proficiency! )

MG

[zealousrap]

[quote name='Mickey's_Girl' date='May 23 2005, 12:44 AM']
PAY ATTENTION: is she responding in kind to your advances? If you look at her and smile, does she smile back? Is her smile MERELY POLITE or does it have that sort of "Hmm, you're kind of cute" thing going on? (Yes, I know, guys often have trouble sorting that out. But this is where "chick flicks" come in handy: this little move is in practically every one. You could learn the "Hmm, you're kind of cute" look from them.)

OR--is she smiling, and then AVOIDING YOUR EYES FROM THEN ON? If she's interested, she'll probably sneak looks back at you. If she avoids your eyes, she might be shy, but she probably was just being polite and wants you to leave her alone.

If you chat: does she seem like she's trying to get away (short, polite answers; her body is turned away, or she keeps her distance, and her eyes are focusing on anything but you)? Or does she remain facing you, either looking at you, or looking away because she's shy?

Guys who have trouble reading girls usually have two problems:

1. They don't know HOW to read female nonverbals (they're not always that hard, but they take practice--you mock romantic comedies, but they are EDUCATIONAL, I'm telling you!)

2. They DON'T BOTHER to KEEP reading the signals. They think they've got the message (either positive or negative) after the first few seconds, and then go by that. But girls sometimes are shy at first and warm up to a guy...and also, sometimes they're intrigued at first, but then decide, "Um, no."

PAY ATTENTION! Take learning opportunities! Many guys give up on trying to understand females, but often (with practice) you can at least get the preliminaries (is she interested or not?) down fairly well.

(Not saying that you'll be able to understand women, fully, ever. But practice makes proficiency! )

MG [/quote]
ok so I am one of those guys who can't read girls at all. In fact, my friends at school often joke about my complete obliviousness when I am being hit on. I never understand what it is that I'm missing. I REALLY would like to become aware of this stuff without going to red alert whenever a girl talks to me...although I've been told I still would miss it. It's not that I'm unattentive, it's just that I don't have any experience with reading girls (or dating for that matter). Can somebody please help me?!

[zealousrap]

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