soberisms Posted May 22, 2005 Share Posted May 22, 2005 (edited) I know this will help a lot of guys in here as well as myself. 1. Please tell us guys what you girls like to do on dates. 2. What do you expect on a date 3. What types of places would you like to go? 4. whats your idea of having fun? Any other guy want to ask a question for the ladies do it here. If you girls want to ask us questions, some girl has to make a post like this one. Use the same topic title syntax "Hey Guys or Gentlemen...Dating questions" This should be fun I love my posts Edited May 22, 2005 by soberisms Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bookwyrm Posted May 22, 2005 Share Posted May 22, 2005 I think it depends on the girl. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Skylark Posted May 22, 2005 Share Posted May 22, 2005 (edited) Hmm, you know, you can find thousand and one advice about those things in magazines... There is just one problem with those advices: they are true for some girls/women but not for all. When you meet your lady and wish to impress her - love her, listen to your heart, use your imagination, find out what SHE likes (not what women in general like), make her feel special (don't ask how, you have to find YOUR way) ... I think that your girl will not be happy with a feeling that you are doing (nice) things to her, because you heard that women like that... you should do nice things to her, because SHE likes them... Edited May 22, 2005 by Skylark Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fides_et_Ratio Posted May 22, 2005 Share Posted May 22, 2005 Overall tip: Be a gentleman (open doors, pull out chairs, etc.). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ReinnieR Posted May 22, 2005 Share Posted May 22, 2005 [quote name='bookwyrm' date='May 22 2005, 04:20 PM'] I think it depends on the girl. [/quote] yeah it does depend on the girl Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catholictothecore Posted May 22, 2005 Share Posted May 22, 2005 [quote]yeah it does depend on the girl[/quote] Haha! smells of elderberries, don't it?! Sooo..... why the heck does it seem like girls are constantly travelling in packs? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mickey's_Girl Posted May 23, 2005 Share Posted May 23, 2005 [quote name='Catholictothecore' date='May 22 2005, 06:48 PM'] Sooo..... why the heck does it seem like girls are constantly travelling in packs? [/quote] Hee hee. Funny question! I don't know the age of the girls in question, but I know that pre-teens and adolescents tend to do the group thing *more* than older females. Possible reasons: 1. The group makes one feel safe; they are back-up. 2. Girls like to communicate, and having a group to talk to makes life interesting. 3. If boys are around, the group is helpful for a variety of reasons. One need not be embarrassed in the presence of boys if one's friends are near. Also, one can comment on the boys in question, and ask the opinion of one's friends on said boys. Group approval can be very important during these years. Also, the group can be supportive: if one likes a particular guy, the girls can give "educated" opinions as to the guy's level of interest. (Wow, flashbacks! I haven't been there for a while. ) Regarding dates: the best way to go about it is to talk to the girl as much as possible, so as to find out her interests. LISTENING impresses most girls who are worth impressing. If you pay attention to *her* specific interests, she feels special. For most females (not all), conventional "romantic" expressions of interest (flowers, chocolate, dinner-and-a-movie) are appreciated when the relationship has reached an appropriate stage. (Flowers are often appreciated at any time; don't overdo it, though.) If you go for a gesture (say, flowers), be confident. If you are nonchalant, it won't be as awkward if she thinks you're overdoing it. Don't be afraid to be yourself. Faking something you're not doesn't work in the long term, and you'll feel miserable for betraying yourself. A word about poetry: many people think that an original expression of poetry is greatly romantic. This is not always the case. If you are unsure of her affections, it is best to stick to published poetry (someone with a decent reputation, whether modern, like Billy Collins, or old-school, like Shakespeare). There is no shame in quoting the classics (make sure it's appropriate to her, please, and not too scarily overboard), but you don't want your heartfelt expression of love to become the next joke among her "pack" of girlfriends. I say this out of pity. I am an adult, but I have a friend who used to date a guy. She broke up with him long ago, but he won't get the message, and keeps sending her "original" poetry, which he seems to think will woo her back. It's crappy beyond words (and does NOT follow the cardinal rule of paying attention to HER; it's all about HIM), and I confess: we've mocked it, more than once. :ph34r: If she likes you, on the other hand, a poem written by you will usually go over well, even if it IS crappy. :wub: And there are circumstances where an original poem turns her feelings in your favor. But beware. MG Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BeenaBobba Posted May 23, 2005 Share Posted May 23, 2005 [quote name='soberisms' date='May 22 2005, 05:12 PM'] I know this will help a lot of guys in here as well as myself. [/quote] This won't hold true for all girls, but I'll tell you what I'd like. [quote]1. Please tell us guys what you girls like to do on dates. [/quote] On first dates, I like to keep things relatively simple. It's so important that there's plenty of room for conversation on the first few dates. I don't care what anyone says, but dinner and movie dates are always fun. Amusement parks make for fun dates, as do dates that feature bowling, ice skating, sledding, hiking, playing tennis, etc. It'd be so cool to be able to have Bible studies and religious discussions with a guy. If a guy's into literature, politics, and theology, dates where there'd be discussion on these topics would be cool. It'd also be cool to do volunteer work with a guy. I can be a homebody, so just watching movies or hanging out with a guy at home would be cool as well, though. [quote] 2. What do you expect on a date [/quote] I'm a bit old-fashioned, so I love when a guy opens doors and all that. I don't [i]expect[/i] a guy to do that, but I'd really, really like it if he did. What I do expect, however, is for my date to be a perfect gentleman. I wouldn't like it if a guy was lewd or rude. It's vitally important for a guy to be attentive on a date. [quote]3. What types of places would you like to go?[/quote] The movies, restaurants, amusement parks, plays, bookstores, church, sporting events, the beach, coffee shops, concerts, etc. Just about anywhere is cool, really. [quote]4. whats your idea of having fun?[/quote] I could have fun on any of the dates I mentioned above. What's most important is how my date and I are getting along on the date. If a guy's cool, and if he listens to me and makes good conversation, things are bound to be fun. I hope this helps! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
iggy Posted May 23, 2005 Share Posted May 23, 2005 [quote name='Catholictothecore' date='May 22 2005, 06:48 PM'] Sooo..... why the heck does it seem like girls are constantly travelling in packs? [/quote] The creepy guys get scared and don't hit on you as much, and so that when you go to the bathroom, you can sing the harmony. On a date, it does depend on the girl... and the guy. If a guy is a conversationalist, the date would be different than if the guy is quieter. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BeenaBobba Posted May 23, 2005 Share Posted May 23, 2005 [quote name='Mickey's_Girl' date='May 22 2005, 09:58 PM'] If you go for a gesture (say, flowers), be confident. If you are nonchalant, it won't be as awkward if she thinks you're overdoing it. Don't be afraid to be yourself. Faking something you're not doesn't work in the long term, and you'll feel miserable for betraying yourself. [/quote] So true! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KizlarAgha Posted May 23, 2005 Share Posted May 23, 2005 I'm not a huge fan of formal dating. I prefer: The Hangout. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lifeteenchick527 Posted May 23, 2005 Share Posted May 23, 2005 okay... yeah first it depends on the girl... but i think i feel most comfortable in a group, also for the places...um... probably....like for me... get a bunch of friends together and either go to the movies or bowling or somehting like that where u can get to know eachother. as most of the others said...be a gentlemen...my idea of having fun is being with my friends and messing around and just hanging out God Bless LTC :hearts: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catholictothecore Posted May 23, 2005 Share Posted May 23, 2005 hanging out is def cool, and can usually be a lot more comfortable than a more personal interest. And while my question is sincere, the correct answer is "Get a lasso." After that, expect the biggest slap on the face you've ever seen. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ReinnieR Posted May 23, 2005 Share Posted May 23, 2005 [quote]It'd be so cool to be able to have Bible studies and religious discussions with a guy. If a guy's into literature, politics, and theology, dates where there'd be discussion on these topics would be cool. It'd also be cool to do volunteer work with a guy. I can be a homebody, so just watching movies or hanging out with a guy at home would be cool as well, though. [/quote] where am i gonna find a girl like this???? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
iggy Posted May 23, 2005 Share Posted May 23, 2005 [quote name='ReinnieR' date='May 22 2005, 09:11 PM'] where am i gonna find a girl like this???? [/quote] The corner of 16th& Q Streets Lincoln, Nebraska Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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