iggy Posted May 18, 2005 Share Posted May 18, 2005 [quote name='Ash Wednesday' date='May 18 2005, 03:56 PM'] But in attacks from Satan, can he not attempt to plant doubts in your head so that it doesn't feel right? [/quote] maybe satan doesn't attack it all the time, or you know that it is just satan attacking you, so you can work past it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Q the Ninja Posted May 18, 2005 Share Posted May 18, 2005 [quote name='iggy' date='May 18 2005, 03:53 PM'] You'd like to think that, wouldn't you! [/quote] Hmm? I'm confused...it is a very different calling, and a higher calling. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thy Geekdom Come Posted May 18, 2005 Share Posted May 18, 2005 [quote name='Ash Wednesday' date='May 18 2005, 04:56 PM'] But in attacks from Satan, can he not attempt to plant doubts in your head so that it doesn't feel right? [/quote] That is precisely what he tries...but regardless...it still feels right...it's weird. Satan attacks, and you worry, but you also know better. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Noel's angel Posted May 18, 2005 Share Posted May 18, 2005 a always used to have dreams about dying for him- i never died, but i was always willing to Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ash Wednesday Posted May 18, 2005 Share Posted May 18, 2005 (edited) I don't know, I have my reservations about "feelings" from personal experience and the idea that it "feels right" and it "feels like this man is the one that God wants me to marry" can be very deceptive and I'm jaded about a lot of the fluffy answers that people give about love. Maybe I'm just still bitter and scarred and operating on a wounded instinct. I felt that way about a previous relationship that "seemed right" and seemed in my destiny but ended in peril. I honestly thought at one time God was telling me that this was going to be the man I would marry. We dated, went to mass, adoration together, and things seemed set. But in the end when things fell apart, I felt burnt, deceived, and wondered how I could've been so stupid -- and the guy I dated who once strived and desired to be a model Catholic obviously has serious issues, now doesn't even go to mass or anything. I had lost all faith in my ability to pray, discern, and understand anything. The best answer that I have heard is that you know you've finally found your spouse when you're standing at the altar. A priest made a similar description when explaining his road to ordination and it is easier for me to relate to this. That finding true love is not always a gooshy feeling in the heart but, as faith is, is a journey and goes beyond feelings and becomes a willful act. I have a boyfriend now who is one of the greatest demonstrators of deep unconditional love that I've known -- he would do anything for me and I often tell him to stop putting me on a pedestal. (To which he says okay, we'll be on the pedestal together) I get frustrated by my fears and my past and the havoc it wreaks on my head in issues of love. Right now he is so much more optimistic, fearless and sure of our future together than I am. Because my last boyfriend was such a disaster in more ways than one at times I clam up and withdraw and keep up a guard. I am afraid to commit and right now can't go back to the dewy eyed optimism I once had about love. I hate it. Edited May 18, 2005 by Ash Wednesday Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thy Geekdom Come Posted May 18, 2005 Share Posted May 18, 2005 [quote name='Noel's angel' date='May 18 2005, 05:22 PM'] i never died [/quote] I should hope not! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Noel's angel Posted May 18, 2005 Share Posted May 18, 2005 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Noel's angel Posted May 18, 2005 Share Posted May 18, 2005 When you know that the other person would die for you-that's always a good sign although, if they showed u, it would be a tad late..... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jaime Posted May 18, 2005 Author Share Posted May 18, 2005 The thing about the dieing piece, There are lots of folks I'd die for. Friends, family, etc. But I wouldn't want to live with them for the rest of my life! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Noel's angel Posted May 18, 2005 Share Posted May 18, 2005 true...but i think it is just a way of knowing that you care for the person a lot Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
iggy Posted May 18, 2005 Share Posted May 18, 2005 [quote name='Q the Ninja' date='May 18 2005, 04:21 PM'] Hmm? I'm confused...it is a very different calling, and a higher calling. [/quote] that was in respect to the cornhusker comments. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Colleen Posted May 18, 2005 Share Posted May 18, 2005 [quote name='Ash Wednesday' date='May 18 2005, 04:23 PM']I don't know, I have my reservations about "feelings" from personal experience and the idea that it "feels right" and it "feels like this man is the one that God wants me to marry" can be very deceptive and I'm jaded about a lot of the fluffy answers that people give about love. Maybe I'm just still bitter and scarred and operating on a wounded instinct.[/quote] I agree with Ash. I'm not sure going with something because "it feels right" is such a good criterion. I don't mean to be critical, it's just that there are many things that may "feel right" but are in fact, not good for us. I think that feelings can oftentimes be very deceptive. So I guess I'd just maybe reword that idea to maybe something more like . . . "you know it's right" or based on prayer and time and thought, it seems like the right thing. Just a thought. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Noel's angel Posted May 18, 2005 Share Posted May 18, 2005 you will know, if you don't know-it isn't right Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thy Geekdom Come Posted May 18, 2005 Share Posted May 18, 2005 No, I wasn't saying that "it feels right" could be a criterion on its own. I would say that it's a sign...in that if you have comfort with another person, and closeness, and it feels good, that's probably a good sign, if other are there. Otherwise, if other signs aren't present, maybe it's a criterion for other things. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
iggy Posted May 18, 2005 Share Posted May 18, 2005 like you are a stalker... or have a vivid imagination Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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