curtins Posted March 6, 2005 Share Posted March 6, 2005 im sure many of you have heard this before- my good freind fell away from the faith and we've had plenty of arguements and just had another one and she said she doesnt want to be catholic anymore because it is Catholic teaching to agknowlege that other faiths are false and Catholocism is the one true faith. I just stuck to orthodox Catholocism and she continued to get madder and madder. Now how do I repair a freindship? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JP2Iloveyou Posted March 6, 2005 Share Posted March 6, 2005 The first thing is that you can't bring up the faith with her right now. Sometimes our zeal to proclaim the Gospel must be checked by prudence. I had to learn that when I first got fired up with the faith. The example Jesus gave is meeting people where they are at. If she is not ready to hear the Gospel, then she is not ready. All you can do right now is pray for her and ask the Lord to open her heart. A drop of honey will attract more bees than a gallon of vinegar. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sinner Posted March 6, 2005 Share Posted March 6, 2005 agree...... just be her friend. Time and Our Lord will probably do the rest. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
musturde Posted March 6, 2005 Share Posted March 6, 2005 [quote name='curtins' date='Mar 5 2005, 11:26 PM'] im sure many of you have heard this before- my good freind fell away from the faith and we've had plenty of arguements and just had another one and she said she doesnt want to be catholic anymore because it is Catholic teaching to agknowlege that other faiths are false and Catholocism is the one true faith. I just stuck to orthodox Catholocism and she continued to get madder and madder. Now how do I repair a freindship? [/quote] Your friend holds a belief that doesn't really make sense to me. TRUE Catholics are openminded about other religions and just because they believe they are correct, doesn't mean anything. Everyone says they're right. We believe they can get to heaven by following their conscience. Protestants and even people outside of Christianity have a harsher way to look at salvation. There is no religion or belief that says that every belief is correct. But to actually help you, just stay away from talking religion. Especially stay away from her relationship with God or any debates. Just pray for her and be her friend for now. Things will go on from there. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cam42 Posted March 6, 2005 Share Posted March 6, 2005 Time, prayer and understanding...... One has free will anc can choose to leave the light of God's grace. We must pray that instances in one's life will lead them back. Prayer will help do that. Time will heal. And understanding the philosophical idea of free will will help you to cope with the loss. On the other hand, you need to be understanding, yet firm with her.... Cam Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
argent_paladin Posted March 6, 2005 Share Posted March 6, 2005 So, she is right, Catholicism is wrong and she won't be your friend unless you agree with her. She thinks that hers is the only right way to think and that if you disagree you are not worthy to be a friend. Sounds like she should have a problem with herself if she has a problem with the Church being exclusive. Obviously you cannot give up your faith. But you can point out that you are willing to be inclusive and tolerant and be her friend even though you don't agree with her, and that if she truly is tolerant and inclusive, she should value your friendship and remain friends. But above all, pray for her every day. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ForHimAlone Posted March 6, 2005 Share Posted March 6, 2005 I'm having the same problem. My friend fell away from the faith a couple months ago. She's been on a downward cycle for awhile- drinking, infatuation, and such. It's really been hard. Just show her how much you care for her. She's going to have some confusion in her life, and it's very important that you just stand by her. Preach the Gospel through your actions. Show her how your faith affects your everyday life by what you DO, not what you SAY. It's going to be difficult, but it will be even harder if she feels threatened by an "overzealous" believer. Just take it to prayer. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cmotherofpirl Posted March 6, 2005 Share Posted March 6, 2005 Preach the Gospel at all times, if necessary use words. Ask the Holy Spirit to move her heart back to God. Love her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
curtins Posted March 6, 2005 Author Share Posted March 6, 2005 thank you all also- I think you misunderstood me- she didnt say she would stop being my freind cause im Catholic thank you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
curtins Posted March 7, 2005 Author Share Posted March 7, 2005 should i appologize to her? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
God Conquers Posted March 7, 2005 Share Posted March 7, 2005 For being Catholic? I don't think so.... If it was a guy I'd tell you to fight him... that always seems to make things better.. ease the tensions... but I don't condone hitting girls. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
curtins Posted March 7, 2005 Author Share Posted March 7, 2005 what?? hitting girls is good??? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
God Conquers Posted March 7, 2005 Share Posted March 7, 2005 NOT good. DO NOT CONDONE. Condone = support/encourage Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
curtins Posted March 7, 2005 Author Share Posted March 7, 2005 oh see im dumb I thought it was like condem so what do I do now? act like nothing happened? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
God Conquers Posted March 7, 2005 Share Posted March 7, 2005 I'd say so.... love even more... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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