1337 k4th0l1x0r Posted January 28, 2005 Share Posted January 28, 2005 (edited) Bal, if devout, straight as an arrow Catholics were assumed to never commit mortal sins, they wouldn't schedule time for reconciliation each week. edit: wording change to get the correct point. Edited January 28, 2005 by 1337 k4th0l1x0r Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
franciscanheart Posted January 28, 2005 Share Posted January 28, 2005 Have you ever been to counseling for your past? I can't say I've had the best experiences with it but I have heard wonderful things. I would try it. [I'm starting in the fall and would sooner if I could!!] You should not compare yourself to anyone but Christ and everyone is low compared to Him. Reach daily for perfection and you will find a new you. This is your cross but that doesn't mean you can't have someone help you carry it. Jesus gladly did it once and He is there waiting to help you again. Pray lots [and maybe consider counseling]. You can overcome this! With Christ behind you nothing is impossible. You a sinner. Okay. Good. Now take Jesus's hand and walk with Him to your Father by making the choices [b]now[/b] to improve yourself. Who are you running from? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Balthazor Posted January 28, 2005 Author Share Posted January 28, 2005 Me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
franciscanheart Posted January 28, 2005 Share Posted January 28, 2005 prayers and hugs :group: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Balthazor Posted January 28, 2005 Author Share Posted January 28, 2005 AHHHHHH!!!!!!!!! NOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Not the cute cuddly smileys!!!!!!!! ahhhhhh!!!!! I can't take the cuteness.. No I am surly and cranky...what are you trying to do to me woman? :deformed: Oh God the cuteness is weakening me...... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theculturewarrior Posted January 28, 2005 Share Posted January 28, 2005 baltic. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
franciscanheart Posted January 28, 2005 Share Posted January 28, 2005 :group: you mean that one?? im sorry. WHAT DO YOU WANT FROM ME?!?!?! haha no im just kidding. but youre in my prayers for sure [better?? lets hope so haha] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
1337 k4th0l1x0r Posted January 28, 2005 Share Posted January 28, 2005 Let me tell you about a good friend of mine. She was a cradle Catholic and was pretty faithful until the end of high school. She went off to college and got wild and into drugs and was having sex with her boyfriend of the time. She wasn't happy in this relationship, had a breakdown, and after some time decided to leave and come back to her home. She got back in touch with her faith just before then, got confirmed, and started living a devout life. She regretted what she had done in the past and thought that it would be hard for a good Catholic guy to accept her, but she found a good Catholic guy who happens to be a virgin. He loves her for who she is knowing that she is a person who has embraced chastity amidst her past. They're the most madly in love couple of anyone I know and will more than likely end up getting married. Ah, such a happy story. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Balthazor Posted January 28, 2005 Author Share Posted January 28, 2005 :blood: <----- now this is a smiley Actually I kinda look like this. This smiley makes me happy, or at least mildly amused. By the way 1337 k4th0l1x0r, I have never heard a story as such. thank you for sharing. I am both shocked and amazed. ( in a good way, not in a George W kinda scare the terrorist kinda way) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zealousrap Posted January 28, 2005 Share Posted January 28, 2005 [quote name='Balthazor' date='Jan 27 2005, 11:49 PM'] So here is the thing. I have done a lot of things in the past that I really regret doing. I can never undo them, I can be forgiven, but I will always have that baggage. I know this, I know that I will never be on the same level as all of you "nice" girls here on phatmass, and you can judge me, You have a right to. For one I am far from being a virgin, these sins are perhaps my biggest regrets. What can I do now? Can't undo it now can I? Then there is a slew of other things, combined with my surly disposition. You guys were kinda proding me at why I don't want to get married.... well there it is. I don't even want to date anymore. I have made such a mess of everything I am surprised that God would even want me. So perhaps it is not that I do not want to get married, so much as I realize and accept that I have little chance of having anyone want me. After all who the hell would want damaged goods, when you can have a beautiful Catholic girl that didn't f*** up years before? I am screwed folks. Anyway as for my dear friends out there that are in a state of mourning because a bunch of skanky girls or bad boys don't give them the time of day. Be happy. You don't want it, you really don't it only leads to bad things. The right person will come along for you guys, and you have the added benefit of being able to demand respect, a right I forfieted 4 years ago. That is really all I have to say. I would like some responses, but I really don't expect too many. I seem to have a talent for starting dull threads that die as soon as they are released . Thanks [/quote] first of all, God alone is the one who can judge you. and no matter what you've done, his love and desire for you hasn't or will never diminish at all. Even though you lost your virginity, that doesn't mean that you lost your part in God's plan. He has been building you up (even if it sounds crazy) for someone and building a man up specifically for you. look at mary magdalene (luke 7.38) she was a repentant prostitute and Christ forgave her. (John 8.10-11) a woman caught in adultery...Jesus told her "neither do I condemn thee. go and sin no more". he also said "let he who is without sin cast the first stone"...noone is perfect, we have to strive for it, but noone is perfect. Repent and walk away. Don't let anyone look at you condescendingly(yourself included), or in away way that degrades your human dignity. Don't think you aren't worth people's respect...you are a hand crafted jewel that deserves to be treated as precious. You can't undo the past, but you can control the future. You could remain chaste until your wedding day and that night tell your husband how long you stayed chaste for him after you had a change of heart. It's up to you, pray about it, I'll be praying for you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
corban711 Posted January 28, 2005 Share Posted January 28, 2005 you should listen to Jason Evert and his wife Crystalina (sp?). They are an amazing story to share...and Crystalina might have much in common with you. www.pureloveclub.com. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rachael Posted January 28, 2005 Share Posted January 28, 2005 [quote name='Balthazor' date='Jan 27 2005, 11:49 PM'] I know this, I know that I will never be on the same level as all of you "nice" girls here on phatmass [/quote] oooooo.....i am far far FAR from perfect..... -_- besides, we all make mistakes. i know quite a few girls and guys who didn't wait, but know they're happily married. just as long as you've changed, i think you'll be alright. :group: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thy Geekdom Come Posted January 28, 2005 Share Posted January 28, 2005 (((Balthazar))) PM me...I have something you may be able to use. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thy Geekdom Come Posted January 28, 2005 Share Posted January 28, 2005 BTW, I'm a nice Catholic guy who screwed up before. I'm a virgin, but I've done some things I'm not proud of. True love sees through wounds. You're not hopeless at all. There are many, many beautiful people on this site and in real life who have problems. One of my good friends at the Newman Center had a child out of wedlock. I don't view her badly. People do stupid things. The point is that God loves you and so do I and so do the others here. You want a good Catholic man? They want a good Catholic woman. You are one. Your past doesn't disprove it...but the fact that you've learned from it and repented does prove it. Don't lose hope. It's hard. There are more people on this site than you think who can share your experiences...a lot more... Oh, and girls who used to be...well...not so holy...good Catholic men will have an even more tender love for them than for other women. It's easier to love a person you know is as flawed as you are. You aren't "damaged goods"...you are a beautiful child of God and any man would be lucky to have you. I've seen your holiness on the phorums. Not every man is so shallow as to need a virgin...after all, after the first time they consummate the marriage, what's the difference? No...the good Catholic men you're looking for will be much more concerned with having a wife who is loving and supportive. Any man who marries for the one time pleasure of accepting his wife's virginity isn't going to enjoy the rest of the marriage...there is much more that a good Catholic man will care about...many more important things. I say again...PM me...I have something that may interest you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cmotherofpirl Posted January 28, 2005 Share Posted January 28, 2005 (edited) [quote name='Balthazor' date='Jan 28 2005, 02:28 AM'] Me. [/quote] Unless you decide to be schizophenic you really cannot escape yourself. God has forgiven you for your transgressions, why can't you forgive yourself? EVERYONE here is a sinner. EVERYONE here has something to confess to God. Do you think the sins of the body are worse than greed, avarice, lust, hate and pride? You have heard of David, Augustine, Francis, Magdelene right? CS Lewis? They turned out pretty well. Edited January 28, 2005 by cmotherofpirl Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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