homeschoolmom Posted January 13, 2005 Share Posted January 13, 2005 Well, you could if that would help you "spill the beans." But I assure you, it's unnecessary. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
G-Freak12 Posted January 13, 2005 Author Share Posted January 13, 2005 I'm just worried he won't understand because when I pmed cappie because he wasn't abused(he said he wasn't) what he said hardly helped..... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
homeschoolmom Posted January 13, 2005 Share Posted January 13, 2005 Well, it's really hard to counsel someone over the internet. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
G-Freak12 Posted January 13, 2005 Author Share Posted January 13, 2005 thats true Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dUSt Posted January 13, 2005 Share Posted January 13, 2005 Okay. I don't think I've told anyone on phatmass before, but here goes... My first confession after I came back to the church (after a few year hiatus), I went to my parish priest (he knows my parents, my wife, etc). I told him everything, which included but was not limited to sins against my wife, parents and child--including confessions of what would have been major felonies if I would have been caught. I'm still here and the priest has probably put it all out of his mind a long time ago. So that's that. I'm now in a love affair with The Eucharist and try to make an intimate date at least once a week outside of mass. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cmotherofpirl Posted January 13, 2005 Share Posted January 13, 2005 [quote name='G-Freak12' date='Jan 13 2005, 02:03 PM'] I was just thinking Pham, How can a preist help me if he has never been abused?? Because if he has never been abused then how would he be able to answer my question "I'm stuck on what to do because I want to get help but i donr have the strength to but i know i need it because I know ill end up killing myself or someone else or someone killing me" I dont know how someone can aswer that question if they've never been in a situation like that [/quote] there is nothing you can tell a priest in the confessional that he can repeat to anybody . ever. period. without your permission. there is no sin you can committ that you cannot confess. You could be hitler or osama bin ladin and it would make no difference. priests would rather go to jail or die than to reveal what they know. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
popestpiusx Posted January 13, 2005 Share Posted January 13, 2005 g-freak, First, there is very little that you could tell an experienced priest that he hasn't already heard. You are not likely to shock him. Second, if he reveals something you told him (within the context of confession or spiritual direction) he is ipso facto excommunicated from the Catholic Church, and can never hear another confession as long as he lives, even if reconciled from the excommunication. Suffice it to say, the priest will not reveal anything you tell him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jezic Posted January 14, 2005 Share Posted January 14, 2005 don't tell him you aren't from there if you are. People try to remember you speak not to the priest. You speak to Jesus, risen again. I have forgotten this many times. You would do well to remember it. He has been throug everything heard every illegal act, and anything else that has ever happened. Somehow i think we have lost this. That priest stands in for Jesus there and offers you a portion of the church's grace. That doesn't mean Jesus isn't as present in that room as he is in the Eucharist. You don't know what he will say. Jesus can pour out graces humans can't dream of. Also it is not always you need counseling of the sort we tend to think of. The helping hand is often what you do not expect. By the way, even with permission it is a sealed conversation under almost every circumstance(i think there are a few strange cases but very few). They can only advise a person to act. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BrightSunshine Posted January 14, 2005 Share Posted January 14, 2005 (edited) If he doesn't ask, you can leave out where you are from but if he does ask, I would recomend not lying about it. If you don't feel comfortable telling him what it is, then don't bring it up. If you go to confession, he's not allowed to tell. Edited January 14, 2005 by BrightSunshine Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
picchick Posted January 14, 2005 Share Posted January 14, 2005 hey G, have you ever seen I confess? It is a movie by Hitchcock. A guy confesses to killing someone to a priest. THen the guy frames the priest. Even at the risk of going to jail the priest never revealed the fact that the guy killed the other person. Instead the guy admitts to it. A priest is bound by his ordination not to reveal anything said. Sometimes I too get afraid when I am confessing something in confession. I hate to show people my "dark" side if you will. But the priests never tell anyone. They never even bring it up to you outside of the confessional... Meg Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dreamweaver Posted January 14, 2005 Share Posted January 14, 2005 I know there are some saints who have wonderful stories about confession. St. Faustina's spiritual director wanted to know if Christ really visited her, so he wanted her to ask Christ what was the last mortal sin he had committed. When she asked Christ, he replied, "I do not know". Another (I think either Padre Pio or the Cure of Ars) would encourage those confessing to write their sins on a piece of paper. As they confessed them, they were mysteriously erased from the piece of paper, until the paper was as good as new! I've also heard that when questioned later by the person seeking forgiveness what they had confessed, the priest would admit that he could not remember. Perhaps there's some grace involved in the sacrament which makes priests forget about particular sins people have committed. When confessing to a priest, we're actually talking to God, through the priest. Please don't be scared! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HomeTeamFamily Posted January 14, 2005 Share Posted January 14, 2005 ya know....there still is the possibility of the priest actually going through what you are going through/have went through.....he is still just a man who may have come from a broken family, rough neighborhood, etc etc.....you dont know his background, just as he doesnt know yours its possible that the priest has gone through the exact same thing as you right? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
G-Freak12 Posted January 15, 2005 Author Share Posted January 15, 2005 Probably not but likely.... Oh my goodness okay well I dont know if I can actually call a preist i dont know because in order to do that I would need to be home alone for like 2 or 3 hours and that RARELY ever happens and I CAN'T talk to my parish preist because he won't beleive me I bet he'll just say "Oh sweetie your mom would never do that to you she's a wonderful person" and even if he would beleive me I still CANNOT trust that he wouldn't go to the police despite everyone saying he would never do that Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs. Bro. Adam Posted January 15, 2005 Share Posted January 15, 2005 Facts: 1. There is something heavy laying on your heart 2. You are afraid to tell anyone 3. A priest is not allowed, nor will they, reveal anything that is said in the confessional 4. By not going to a preist, it's like not offering your trials up to Christ. 5. Christ knows how you feel and will give guidance to the priest to help you 6. You never know what will happen until you try. What's the worse that'll happen? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
G-Freak12 Posted January 15, 2005 Author Share Posted January 15, 2005 He'll tell Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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