Spiritual_Arsonist Posted October 17, 2003 Share Posted October 17, 2003 Hey PHHATMASS PHAMILY: I need your adivce. Should young guys that think God is calling them to become priests date? Be honest. Give pros and cons. Thanks. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PedroX Posted October 17, 2003 Share Posted October 17, 2003 Spirtual Arsonist, There are at least two schools of thought 1) No datiing 2) date so you know that you aren't called to the vocation of marriage. I think its safer to follow 1, until you know if you have a vocation or not. In the old days, this was certainly the rule. peace... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cmotherofpirl Posted October 17, 2003 Share Posted October 17, 2003 Dating as in group dates or serious dating? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hyperdulia again Posted October 17, 2003 Share Posted October 17, 2003 serious one on one dating is mean to the girl, what if she falls in love with you and you discern that you have a vocation? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vianney Posted October 17, 2003 Share Posted October 17, 2003 DONT DATE I did that and it was a horrible mistake. You hurt both parties when you leave for seminary. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cmotherofpirl Posted October 17, 2003 Share Posted October 17, 2003 Its really unfair to the girl to "test" your vocation on her. What if she falls in love with you? What if you fall into temptation and have sex with her? Even if you confess it could you still go on and become a priest? And could you look her in the eye if you did? Guard your vocation like the treasure that it is. Don't start something that is unfair to both. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jmjtina Posted October 17, 2003 Share Posted October 17, 2003 What girl would want to compete with God? :o Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cmotherofpirl Posted October 17, 2003 Share Posted October 17, 2003 Many try :( Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
goldenchild17 Posted October 17, 2003 Share Posted October 17, 2003 Well, I'm still not sure what to think. I am seriously trying to decide if I am called to the Priesthood, yet I am also seriously considering the married life. I have a girlfriend. She knows my issues and is supporting me completely in whatever decision I make. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cmotherofpirl Posted October 17, 2003 Share Posted October 17, 2003 Good Luck. You can always be third order or a deacon, as well as a priest. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mary's Knight, La Posted October 17, 2003 Share Posted October 17, 2003 Seriously don't date, I had a friend who was trying to discern the priesthood who decided to "try" dating when he took a yr off and then he decided to "try" for an extra yr and he kept pushing the deadline back and he wasn't really discerning anything and also during that time the intense spiritual life that he had built up started to suffer to the point of almost non-existance. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jmjtina Posted October 17, 2003 Share Posted October 17, 2003 As a seminarian, they are SERIOUSLY discerning the priesthood. Ladies should stay away from them (don't date em romantically, etc) and seminarians shouldn't try to see if thier called to "marriage" during the seminary. Once there, give it your all to see if it works. If your discerning marriage or the seminary, one should put in %110 in discerning if thats your vocation. B) We love our priests and future priests!!!!! :wub: :wub: I LOVE going to Ordinations!!!! That is like the most AWESOMEST thing I love going to!!!!! Even ordinations of deacons, etc!!!! It's sooooooooo cool seeing all those priests there. Since I work in the Youth Ministry, I know almost all the priests in the diocese. So it's fun and SOOOOO amesome!!!!!!! There was a priest that was ordained last year, and he had a dance/dinner just like a wedding!!!! Well, it was a WEDDING to the Church, but I had NEVER seen that BEFORE!!!!! very cool!!!! ok, off the topic I know, but i just had to share that............... :wub: :wub: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jmjtina Posted October 17, 2003 Share Posted October 17, 2003 (edited) Check out the Clergy Compositions Archives. Read the article by Fr Pontifex: Do You Hear the Calling? Short and sweet. good stuff. B) Edited October 17, 2003 by jmjtina Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vianney Posted October 17, 2003 Share Posted October 17, 2003 Being a seminarian and i jsut went through that situation. It is horrible. I dated a girl for three years while in high school and I knew i wanted ot be apriest. We feel into a lil sexual sin and lust. Then it hurt both of us severley when i left for the seminary. It turned her AWAY from God and somehow she is mad at god for not letting me date her. Dont do it i am telling you man. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dave Posted October 17, 2003 Share Posted October 17, 2003 Being a seminarian and i jsut went through that situation. It is horrible. I dated a girl for three years while in high school and I knew i wanted ot be apriest. We feel into a lil sexual sin and lust. Then it hurt both of us severley when i left for the seminary. It turned her AWAY from God and somehow she is mad at god for not letting me date her. Dont do it i am telling you man. Hey vianney, I'm really sorry to hear what you went through. And I'm sorry to hear about your ex-girlfriend. It's really sad. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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