Never Tell Your Wife

[livingHimloud]

man oh man, when i get married we will help each other out. there will be no you do this, i do this, we will share the responsibilities. it will be sweet.
i'll have no problem cleaning/cooking/raising the babies, but i expect him to help, no matter how much he worked that day, it's OUR family and home, why shouldn't he want to be part of making that work? babies are soft and cuddly, everyone should want to hel out with them. cleaning is not so soft or cuddly, but getting it out of the way means you get to have fun later... and everyone likes fun, so it is a good trade off.

[Theoketos]

[quote name='Raphael' date='Sep 24 2004, 04:22 PM'] Theoketos, why'd you bump it, man?

You just [i][b]had[/i][/b] to do it, didn't ya?!

[/quote]
I love their relationship!

[Mrs. Bro. Adam]

:confused: And what exactly about our relationship do you "love"?

[Theoketos]

Um, only the parts that you show on line, that is you undieing love and care, as well as respect.

[IcePrincessKRS]

[quote name='IcePrincessKRS' date='Jul 5 2004, 01:19 AM'] Matt did the dishes twice for me this week.... the sink is now full from the past 2 days, we've been out most of the day so I haven't had time to wash them yet... tomorrow morning you know what I'll be doing. Ugh... I hate dishes. Matt never says I should clean up after him but he does seem to think he shouldn't have to clean up since he works and earns all the money.... Boys.

And yet I still love him more than anything. :wub: [/quote]
Hmm, let's make a few corrections to this shall we?

1. I'm never up in the mornings, so Matthew and I probably did the dishes in the evening. Or maybe Matthew did the dishes and I cleaned the bedroom. Hmmm.

2. Now Matthew doesn't think he shouldn't have to clean up at all, he just believes that the chores of the house (ie dishes, laundry and general cleaning) hardly add up to 50 hours a week (which is how much he works ). And Matthew is generally pretty good about pitching in when asked or often starts on his own initiative.


In regard to division of labor: Yes, although the rules shouldn't be set in stone. We are all human even if we are married and if one spouse feels like they are doing more then the other it can lead to problems. Unless they are great, like my husband.

[IcePrincessKRS]

[quote name='IcePrincessKRS' date='Sep 25 2004, 12:45 PM'] Hmm, let's make a few corrections to this shall we?

1. I'm never up in the mornings, so Matthew and I probably did the dishes in the evening. Or maybe Matthew did the dishes and I cleaned the bedroom. Hmmm.

2. Now Matthew doesn't think he shouldn't have to clean up at all, he just believes that the chores of the house (ie dishes, laundry and general cleaning) hardly add up to 50 hours a week (which is how much he works ). And Matthew is generally pretty good about pitching in when asked or often starts on his own initiative.


In regard to division of labor: Yes, although the rules shouldn't be set in stone. We are all human even if we are married and if one spouse feels like they are doing more then the other it can lead to problems. Unless they are great, like my husband. [/quote]
Hmmm.... something tells me my husband was posting under my name again.....

[Theoketos]

LOL!

[IcePrincessKRS]

[quote name='IcePrincessKRS' date='Sep 25 2004, 12:45 PM'] Hmm, let's make a few corrections to this shall we?

1. I'm never up in the mornings, so Matthew and I probably did the dishes in the evening. Or maybe Matthew did the dishes and I cleaned the bedroom. Hmmm.

2. Now Matthew doesn't think he shouldn't have to clean up at all, he just believes that the chores of the house (ie dishes, laundry and general cleaning) hardly add up to 50 hours a week (which is how much he works ). And Matthew is generally pretty good about pitching in when asked or often starts on his own initiative.


In regard to division of labor: Yes, although the rules shouldn't be set in stone. We are all human even if we are married and if one spouse feels like they are doing more then the other it can lead to problems. Unless they are great, like my husband. [/quote]
I just wanted to add a couple corrections of my own.

1) I can't really argue with number one, its mostly true. lol Although I am pretty sure that the time in question I DID do the dishes by myself. When he does the dishes and I "clean the bedroom" I also clean the living room and bathroom, too.

2) He IS very good about helping me on his own initiative (I am sure I've said this before somewhere...), most especially when I am pregnant (not so much other times but definately when pregnant, and thats really when I need his help the most)--as is the case now--and that really does add to his work load, and I tell him how much I appreciate it, maybe not often enough, but can you ever tell someone how much you love and appreciate them enough?

Matthew IS great.

[MrsFrozen]

[quote name='Lil Red' date='Oct 2 2003, 12:21 AM'] He'll get the look, then I'll tickle him (he's *very* ticklish) which leads to wrestling which leads to .. uh.. you know.

hey, I've been getting duped!!!! [/quote]
Lil, you are so funny!