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J.R.D

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[quote name='J.R.D' date='Oct 5 2004, 08:13 PM'] yes but i think if i let it rest in god itll be kool [/quote]
Allright! I that seems like it'd be best, let it be! If ya need anything, the pham is always here for ya!

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Well back when my youth minister turned on our entire family, I sent him an email encouraging him to reconsider and put his trust in God, and to realize how important our friendship was. I poured my heart into that email, and then some. He emailed me back saying "Thank you for your kind words. BUT..." and proceeded to tell me how horrible my parents were and how he was right and we were wrong, etc. I felt like I had reached out and had my hand bitten off at the wrist. Some people just don't want to listen. <_<

Prayers!

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you guys have to realize that sometimes, people's pain is so great that by you saying "Have faith in God" or "God will always be there" seems like you are making light of their pain by not really offering a concrete solution or advice.

i had a friend in high school (i was majorly depressed and suicidal in high school) who would tell me "Smile, God loves you". While that is true, it didn't feel like she actually wanted to help me, and it actually made me feel worse!

plus, sometimes people go through things in their life that make them not believe in God.

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Ash Wednesday

I have to agree with lil Red.

At times it is a matter of discretion when touching on God and faith, especially with people in a great deal of pain.

In situations where people will not want to hear about God, let them know that God is there for them by being an instrument of his peace, less of a talker and more of a listener. Be there for them as a friend.


I had a friend who didn't really insult my beliefs too much, though at times she'd say sarcastic things and poke fun at me, and either hurt my feelings or just make me simmer inside as her personal punching bag, while I bit my tongue. Though last night I turned the tables and said "good night, cheesebrain" and she got kinda huffy. :D

(Hey, she said her brain was swiss coagulated milk, I was just agreeing with her.) ;)

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franciscanheart

I agree too. It is always important to share the light of Christ with others, especially during difficult times, but you really have to know HOW to do it. Some people will push you away if you say something like "give it up to God." Being a listening ear is usually very helpful. Letting them know that you care is good. They will see you doing this and in turn see Christ's love coming out through you. Maybe when things have calmed a little or they feel like you aren't trying to "shove faith down [their] throat" then you can pray with them or go to Mass together or something. ((That was quoting one of my own friends.))

That's just how I try to go about it anyway....

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[quote name='Ash Wednesday' date='Oct 8 2004, 04:25 PM'] I have to agree with lil Red.

At times it is a matter of discretion when touching on God and faith, especially with people in a great deal of pain.

In situations where people will not want to hear about God, let them know that God is there for them by being an instrument of his peace, less of a talker and more of a listener. Be there for them as a friend. [/quote]
thanks for saying what i was trying to in a lot less words. ^_^

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