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G-Freak12

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Hey everyone! I am writing to find out what some peoples opinions are about this and hopfully someone could give me some advice well here it goes.... I'm 13 yrs old and I am growing up in a devoted Catholic Family, But I myself have never really beleived in God even though I was brought up to, untill now, I am trying to become closer to God and it is working but there is one thing.... I think I'm bisexual and well I dont know what to do I want to become a devoted Catholic but there is that one thing that makes me want to not become Christain or Catholic because I think God can't love someone like me who... well you know feels for both genders.... I'M CONFUSED PLEASE GIVE ME SOME FEEBACK PLEASE!!!!

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theculturewarrior

This isn't something you should be worrying about at age 13. Strive to live a chaste lifestyle. Childhood can be confusing, so don't go labelling yourself yet, but God loves you. God will always love you.

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Thy Geekdom Come

First off, God loves everyone. In fact, we couldn't exist unless God loved us. God loves you and will love you no matter what you do or who you are. God even loves the people in Hell. He didn't want them to go there, because He loves them, but He let them choose to go there.

Second, you will find that many of us are awful sinners. We all have done evil things. I have as well. So have the saints (all but Mary).

Third, having homosexual or bisexual tendencies is does not make you a sinner. Acting on those tendencies does, but having them does not make you sin any more than the temptation I have to lust after girls. It's when we give in to evil temptations that we sin. You may want to look up the Phatmass member Aloysius, he may be of help to you. Also, you might like to read [u]The Courage To Be Chaste[/u] by Fr. Benedict Groeschel.

There is a place for everyone in God's family...He made us all to be in His family.

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Thy Geekdom Come

[quote name='G-Freak12' date='Sep 13 2004, 06:50 PM'] Thank you for you advice and support! I was just wondering who Aloysius was and how he would be able to help me....? [/quote]
Aloysius is a moderator on Phatmass who has openly shared his struggle with homosexual attraction. He has been striving to remain chaste, as the Church teaches, and he could have some advice specific to how to deal with homosexual or bisexual attraction which I, being heterosexual, would not be able to provide. My guess is that he would be more than willing to help you.

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Thy Geekdom Come

Also, a lot of people your age, in the midst of puberty, feel very strong urges and temptations whenever the topic of sex is mentioned. It often doesn't matter what the topic is, as long as it deals with sex. I think this confuses a lot of people nowadays with the way our television media portrays sexuality. Many people your age feel urges whenever sex is mentioned, even if it is about their own gender, and they think that they are homosexual or bisexual. This isn't to say that homosexuality and bisexuality don't really exist, because they do, but don't be so soon to think that you are one of these when it could just be screwy hormones so common in puberty. I think that is what TheCultureWarrior was trying to get at...you shouldn't worry too much about this at your age, just because it's such a confusing time for all your peers as well as yourself. Certainly, try to figure things out, but don't stress out about knowing who you are yet (trust me, most adults don't know who they are), just try your best to follow God first and foremost.

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Thy Geekdom Come

You're welcome.

We'll be praying for you, too.

Stick around, hang out, you'll make friends quickly, I think.

We are all striving to be holy here and we all have to beat back our temptations, so you're in good company. I think that you'll be able to get a lot of inspiration to fight those urges and temptations here...I know these friends of mine have helped me to grow in holiness.

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Thy Geekdom Come

[quote name='homeschoolmom' date='Sep 13 2004, 07:18 PM'] and don't forget to visit the Creepy Aliens' board... [/quote]
:lol:

Yeah...the phorum below this one...for teenagers...affectionately known here as Creepy Aliens, lol

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okay I tried to pm Aloysius and it said something like he didnt have permition to use Pm... could someone please tell me whats up!?!??!?!?!?

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Do you know what I think of bisexuals?

I think they are cool, as my best friend is bi, but she has began to join the struggle.

I would give you this advice, Rapheal isn't lieing when he says that puberty is a time of confusion. Love the Lord, pray often, go to adoration. These things may help clear your head in a way you've never known before.


Being bisexual could lead to a fruitful heterosexual life and marriage. You just have to deny yourself the sexual urges to have sexual intercourse (or lesser manifestations of sexual pleasure) outside of sacramental marriage.

God bless,

Mikey


PS. Al is a bit tied up, and is using a differnt name, Aloysius is better known now as Aloysius ghost, or something to that effect.

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