Safe Sex Is An Oxymoron

[cmotherofpirl]

I agree that the only way to 100% safety is not just not do it. Besides, I think just jumping into sex is so cheap... why would God want us to do something in a cheap way that He intended to be beautiful? I'm sorry, but I believe that we are called to act with a lot more integrity than that. 

It is soooo hard to turn away from temptation, believe me. Even though I am in an all-female college, there are temptations just from the way some people talk about sex. It makes being sexually active at a young age seem so "normal", like my way of thinking is so "weird" or something.

The one philosophy that I have a hard time refuting among my peers is, "God made sexual acts feel good so that we would do them more often, so why should we ignore our 'natural' urges?"

...I just grumble to myself, "Yes, sex feels good, but it's meant to have children by in a stable unit of marriage...::grrr::" 

I sort of agree on this point however--if we are supposed to have sex within marriage, why was sex created to feel very good? Why would God implant that kind of temptation in our minds and then tell us to put these feelings aside?

I need guidance. I'm a virgin, plan on being one for quite a while, and I don't want to be sucked in with peer pressure. I need to figure out a better way to hang on so that I can know the true beauty of sexual feelings--but exclusively with my future husband. 

peace,

~TF~

My natural urge is to eat everything in sight, so do I give in?

Boys have a natural urge to hit things with large sticks and throw worms at girls, should I say yes?

My dog has a definite urge to eat the neighbors cat, should I let her?

Mass murderers have urges as well...

"Urges" are like feelings, necessary, useful, but not meant to rule our lives.

[ThereseFlower]

I agree, cmom. I just wish I didn't have them so that they don't make things more difficult.

peace,

~TF~

[notbilln]

Here's a scary fact:

The structure of sperm is smaller then the structure of latex, meaning, that there's always going to be sperm getting through, and it only takes one...

One.. to create a life? <sacrasam>Heaven knows that would be a terrible thing. </sarcasam> But seriously folks, True love waits.

There are many good reasons not to have sex before marrige that are independent of God's comandments, but I think somethimes too much emphasis is put on those reasons. What if the condum, was 100% effective? What if STD's didn't exist? With our always improving technology it would not supprise me, if they devised a method for truly 100% safe sex.

We can all rant and rave about how the new technology is corrupting us, but really its as if we are still in the garden of eden. With increaseing technology we are further given even more freedom. I'm getting off subject slightly, but its something I've been contemplating for a while. Yes, as some of you have mentioned, it can be a strugle. As animals we have certain instincts, but our essential humanity comes from our ability to delay and even deny our gratifications. A true lion is one that kills the zebra. A true man is one that offers his other cheek to his enemy's hand.

[skuba steve]

No one can make changes by themselves.

Throws worms at CoA....

That is the....

well...

hmmm....

[Jake Huether]

There are many good reasons not to have sex before marrige that are independent of God's comandments

I don't necessarily think that's true. Well, partly.

I believe God gave us this commandment precisely BECAUSE of these "many good reasons not to have sex before marriage". Plus extra.

I've been learning this more and more by watching the people around me dissintegrate. God doesn't just give us commands so that he can watch us foul up or make mistakes. His commands aren't simply to be a dictative God. ( I know you didn't imply that - I just am rambbling). God's commands have solid physical as well as spiritual reasons behind them. He is a father that wants to protect us from hurting ourselves. That is why there are commands!

If i reach out to touch a hot stove, I'm gunna get burnt! That's why my dad told me NOT TO! He didn't tell me not to just for the sake of telling me not to do something. There was a reason! And if I listen to him, I might not ever see the fruit of NOT touching the stove. So it may fluster me as to why he told me not to. But when I see others around me reaching out and screaming bluddy murder when they touch it, it gives me great comfort knowing that I did my fathers will.