The Uh, Living With Your Parents Thread

[p0lar_bear]

[quote name='cmotherofpirl' date='Aug 18 2004, 11:26 AM'] I am dreading when my children move out. I like running a household full of people. [/quote]
My parents had absolutely no issue with that....they were happy when all of us left and would probably shoot any of us if we tried to move back (not that they don't love us dearly).

[prov31girl]

I moved out as soon as I started college. It was the best decision I ever made.

[theculturewarrior]

I don't know. There are times when you just can't run away. I'm not saying that to judge anybody. I know you all know what's up better than me. It's just that, even though I've had difficult times with my parents, it has taught me perserverence. Then again, I'm sure you all have different situations than me, and besides, my parents are great.

[p0lar_bear]

[quote name='theculturewarrior' date='Aug 18 2004, 12:34 PM'] I don't know. There are times when you just can't run away. I'm not saying that to judge anybody. I know you all know what's up better than me. It's just that, even though I've had difficult times with my parents, it has taught me perserverence. Then again, I'm sure you all have different situations than me, and besides, my parents are great. [/quote]
On the same note, there's a time when you have to start being an adult....

Moving out when you go to college or turn 18 isn't necessarily running away, it's becoming independent.

[homeschoolmom]

there's dependence, independence and interdependence. There's nothing wong with living interdependently at home.

[Iacobus]

Only from TCW.

[Sojourner]

I'm not meaning this as an attack on anyone's choices, but IMHO...

I think there are many good reasons for someone to still be living at home, and we've listed many of these. And, I know that in other countries, where people are not as wealthy as we are here in the U.S. you often see multiple generations of one family living in the same home. Talk about perseverance!

All this taken into consideration, in looking for a husband, seeing someone who is still living at home is a bit of a red flag -- not something that couldn't be overcome, but a red flag nonetheless. I of course want someone who is committed to working through the rigors of living in relationship, but I also want someone who has proven that he can handle the responsibilities inherent in daily life. I’m looking for someone who I can see is a provider, who knows how to handle paying bills on time, who understands what goes into running a house. For example, I find it really attractive if I see a guy who has bought his own house, and is established on his own. I know he’s got the day-to-day skills that are necessary to provide for a family, and that he’s thinking about long-term stability.

:wub: to all

[Carrie]

Those are great points Sojourner. I agree with you on most of them.

In TCW's case, I don't think a red flag would go up though. This is because he's stated he has a full-time job and is also going to school. He's being smart by saving money and getting a better education, therefore he IS investing in his future and thinking of long-term stability.

:wub:

[theculturewarrior]

Then it's over?

[quote]All this taken into consideration, in looking for a husband, seeing someone who is still living at home is a bit of a red flag -- not something that couldn't be overcome, but a red flag nonetheless. I of course want someone who is committed to working through the rigors of living in relationship, but I also want someone who has proven that he can handle the responsibilities inherent in daily life. I’m looking for someone who I can see is a provider, who knows how to handle paying bills on time, who understands what goes into running a house. For example, I find it really attractive if I see a guy who has bought his own house, and is established on his own. I know he’s got the day-to-day skills that are necessary to provide for a family, and that he’s thinking about long-term stability.
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[theculturewarrior]

Carrie...te quiero mucho! :wub:

[theculturewarrior]

Honestly...I'm quite irresponsible. Soon enough though, I will be living on my own. I've already got a place picked out, it's just a question of having the cash flow when the time comes.

Finally I'll be cool! JK! (I'll still visit the parents ALL the TIME! Mi papa cocina carnes sabrosas! )

[Crusader_4]

My parents have told me that i probably should stay in the house till i get my first degree hahah lol i dunno tho have to see i kind of look forward to living on my own.

[MorphRC]

Same as most people. Need the $$$ to get out of the

[MorphRC]

Closest thing I got to a house. lol

[Norseman82]

[quote name='theculturewarrior' date='Aug 18 2004, 08:53 AM'] I live with mom and dad, and it is certainly not "cool." [/quote]
"Cool" by whose standards? The fornicating bums on MTV?


Anyway, two points:

1) Some of this is cultural. I've heard American parents say they wany their kods to move out on their own. But I knew a central American family who thought I was a sinner because I lived on my own in my 20s! (In their culture, kids stayed home until they were married).

2) Sometimes kids move back home to take care of sick or aging parents. Anyone who thinks that is "uncool" should incur an automatic latae satentiae (sp?) excommunication, in my book.