Do I Have No Soul?

[Tony]

I mean when I read or hear something sad... I feel bad for the people involved.. and pray for them.. but I dont find myself into tears as easily as others.. I just dont "feel" much.. I ask myself "Am I sick in the head?" are there other people that are like this?

[Andrea348]

I struggle with that sometimes too. Just because you don't cry doesn't mean you feel things any less. Some people I think are just more able to cry than others. It takes a lot for me to cry. There are many times I want to, but nothing comes. Sometimes I get jealous a little bit, but then I just try to remind myself that that is the way God made me, and that usually helps at least a little bit. Hang in there, you are not alone.

[Ash Wednesday]

I wouldn't let it distress you too much, Tony. Sometimes people aren't always emotional. Sometimes people are more emotional because life events made them that way, too. After someone loses a parent or a friend in death, for example, things are more likely to prompt them to cry. Prayers do more than tears, anyway.

Some stuff makes me cry, but some doesn't. Go figure.

P.S. Sometimes having the cool level head is a gift, too. Like in crisis situations where [b]someone[/b] has gotta keep things together when everyone else is falling apart.

Edited August 10, 2004 by Ash Wednesday

[DancesforLove]

it affects some more others no big deal

[Tony]

[quote name='Andrea348' date='Aug 10 2004, 06:21 PM'] I struggle with that sometimes too. Just because you don't cry doesn't mean you feel things any less. Some people I think are just more able to cry than others. It takes a lot for me to cry. There are many times I want to, but nothing comes. Sometimes I get jealous a little bit, but then I just try to remind myself that that is the way God made me, and that usually helps at least a little bit. Hang in there, you are not alone. [/quote]
wow I thought I was the only one like this... thanks for your replies and everyones

[Crusader_4]

Know i get like that too...sometimes i think the concern and really do think its bad and such but have trouble feeling it. I always pray for the people involved and also for God to open my heart to soften it up and to see and feel him more through experiencing him in others as well as the Eucharist.

[cappie]

Don't feel different. I didn't cry when I did my mother's funeral because as has been said someone has to keep it together. I remember starting the Funeral Mass and looking at the congregation, seeing my brother and sister their respective spouses my cousins who had recently buried their faither (my uncle). I thought God give me strength and that is what he did. I was able to complete the Mass and the burial without tears although the people said they could see I was upset I think they were greatful that I was able to do the funeral.
Mind you the Bishop (who knew my mother) did enough crying for the both of us!! but then he is Irish.

[Phazzan]

You're not sick Tony, just human.

[Maddalena]

Hey, I'm like that too. :B Some things make me cry, and some things just don't. o.o When my grandmother died, I didn't cry at all, and I thought "o.o Is there something wrong with me?" But there isn't anything wrong. :V Some things affect people differently.

[Laudate_Dominum]

[quote name='Tony' date='Aug 10 2004, 06:17 PM'] I mean when I read or hear something sad... I feel bad for the people involved.. and pray for them.. but I dont find myself into tears as easily as others.. I just dont "feel" much.. I ask myself "Am I sick in the head?" are there other people that are like this? [/quote]
My first impression is that you may be preoccupied with it and thus it is blown out of proportion in your mind. This is expressed by such strong phrases as, "Am I sick in the head". On the other hand, I do recall reading in books about psychological/emotional development about people who's capacity to experience emotion is buried because of some kind of trauma or developmental issues. I'm not saying this is you, I have no idea really, just something that I thought of.

Not really sure though. From the fact and tone of your post you actually seem like a person of deep feeling. External things like crying don't necessarily mean anything. Plenty of people have a very interiorized emotional life. I'd say the deepest feeling people tend to be that way. All the secret, tortured souls of the world.

God bless you.

[MorphRC]

[quote name='Tony' date='Aug 11 2004, 09:47 AM'] I mean when I read or hear something sad... I feel bad for the people involved.. and pray for them.. but I dont find myself into tears as easily as others.. I just dont "feel" much.. I ask myself "Am I sick in the head?" are there other people that are like this? [/quote]
There is nothing 'wrong' with you. Just means you dont become a cry baby as much as other people. No Offensive to the cry babies .

I myself aint that emotional, for reasons that I can find them a weakening in someones character, but thats just me.

Everyones different, nothing to freak out about. :peace:

[homeschoolmom]

I'm kinda like that, too.

[cmotherofpirl]

It all depends on the situation. Some people cry at the drop of the hat and are very manipulative with their tears. Some people are like wounded animals and cry in private .Some people just cannot cry and some people just don't need to. I can sing an entire funeral and not cry until we do the last song [i]Welcome to my World[/i] Then if we know the person, we sing thru our tears.

When my mother died, I was greatly critisized for not crying. But what people failed to realize I had taken care of my dying mother for 6 months, and simply had no tears left.

[Tony]

Thank you everyone for their words.. I do appriciate it.. Lots of people with similarities as I, I wouldn't of known.... thank you again

[theculturewarrior]

I'm the same way. People react differently in different situations. Conciousness is personal.