Dating

[VeraMaria]

[quote name='Iacobus' date='Aug 10 2004, 01:11 PM'] I just hope I can find a Liz that canoes and isn't dumb. LOL! [/quote]
Haha good luck with that. You would [i]have[/i] to be dumb to like canoeing.

*says the girl who spent 5 days canoeing in the Everglades with the freshman grade and still has bad memories :ph34r: *

[franciscanheart]

[quote name='MorphRC' date='Aug 13 2004, 01:47 AM'] You can date without wantn to have sex. Just depends on the persons mind, and how dirty it is. [/quote]
amen

this time i respectfully.... agree

[VeraMaria]

I agree with most of you here. I wouldn't really want to date a person who I wouldn't consider marrying. But then, again, that's not easy if you don't even know the person. That's why I think it's important to be good friends first.

High School is like a hurricane of dating around like crazy. I know, I was almost sucked into it. I see all my friends go through this endless cycle of "Go out-breakup-cry-go out again". It's as if all they want is someone to call their "boyfriend", no matter how he takes advantage of them. It makes me sooo :angry:

Unfortunately I keep being noticed by certain guys who won't take "no" for an answer. These are the type of guys who would fit into the "popular jerk" category in movies. Really, they don't take hints. They don;t get that "No." is "No.". I know them, they're the type of guys who would never be caught dead in any type of commitment. Girls are automatically "chicks", "hotties", and "babes". They can't think for themselves. :angry:

But when I refuse to go out with them, somehow that makes them all the more determined to get me. All I can say is good luck with that. lol, I even found out that they made a bet to see who could "break" me first :angry: :angry: :angry:

I really wish they would asking me out. I made it clear I don't date around casually just for a fling. It's not getting me anywhere to have this attention from guys, some of whom I want to be friends with (but somehow that doesnt seem to exist), some of whom I know by the way they treated my friends...and I also get jealeousy from girls which I really hate because if I could go I would go "Here, you can have 'em all, I don't want them".

Am I making any sense? I think I'll just stick with my first paragraph. I don't date right now, but if I met someone who respects me, I am friends with first, and who I really enjoy being around and care for (and he for me) so much I'd consider marrying him, then I'd date.

I'd also only date Catholics. Not because I feel like "limiting" myself, and immediately cut out everyone else, but because my Catholicism is such a huge part of my life that I couldn;t be with someone who didn't share it with me.

With high standards like that, no wonder I'm not finding anyone Just let me keep my fantasies a while longer

[franciscanheart]

[quote name='VeraMaria' date='Aug 13 2004, 10:20 AM'] I'd also only date Catholics. Not because I feel like "limiting" myself, and immediately cut out everyone else, but because my Catholicism is such a huge part of my life that I couldn;t be with someone who didn't share it with me.

With high standards like that, no wonder I'm not finding anyone Just let me keep my fantasies a while longer [/quote]
i think most girls here feel your pain

[MorphRC]

[quote name='hugheyforlife' date='Aug 14 2004, 01:32 AM'] amen

this time i respectfully.... agree [/quote]
Lol Good!

[stagefairy]

[quote]With high standards like that, no wonder I'm not finding anyone  Just let me keep my fantasies a while longer [/quote]

If you keep high standards you won't be disappointed. God will lead you where you should go. I had high standards and I ended up with the sweetest, most wonderful and holy man i could ever have dreamed of! Start praying that if you are called to marriage, God prepare the heart of your spouse now, even if you haven't met him yet.

[geetarplayer]

I put "discern marriage", but then again it depends on what you mean by "date". I've only ever "dated" one person, my ex-girlfriend.

-Mark

[Mrs. Bro. Adam]

Dating:


What's the purpose of dating? To prepare for marriage. Really, that's the reason we're supposed to do it!

Let's think logically for a moment, shall we?


What's dating? Dating is to get to know a person better that you have an inkling you may one day want to marry.


How many people do you want your future spouse to have kissed? Most people would probably eventually say only them. So why date someoen that you're not going to marry? It's really a waste of your, and their time.

The way I've always looked at dating was this way:

Am I going to marry this person? Is there a possiblity of marriage in this person?

If I answered no to both those questions, then I knew there really was no use to date them, instead, they became my friends. Friends are good.


Sex in dating:


I don't care who you are, but as long as you're a human, you're going to have the temptation of pre-marital relations.

It's human nature. If one of you doesn't struggle, then there's a problem. Satan always seems to send the temptation the closer to marriage that you get. Thoughts will pop up such as: "Well...we [b]are[/b] getting married. Well...we [b] will[/b] be together forever. What's wrong with it doing it this [b]close[/b] to marriage."


I'd recommend courting to dating, because then you'll at least be engrossed in each other's families, and there won't be as many opportunities to fail.


As for intimacy:


I'd say, if you wouldn't want another woman/man being this intimate with your husband/wife, then you shouldn't be that intimate before marriage either. Intimacy draws two people together, and often times it draws two people closer physically. Be careful with your intentions, and don't fool yourself with the idea of "well...if I'm not thinking about it, it won't happen" because that's not true, and you won't be prepared. Take all possible precautions to ensure that you are only your spouses and your spouse is only yours.


Sorry, I'll step down off of my soapbox now.



*Steps off of soapbox and exits room*

[MorphRC]

Some good advice Mrs

[Mrs. Bro. Adam]

Thank you, Morph.


Course...I've had the advantage of experiencing the dating scene first hand

[franciscanheart]

thanks MBA.... youre so right
hopefully we all will recognize this one day

[Mrs. Bro. Adam]

you're welcome...


I don't think it's as much recognizing it, but being prepared for every circumstance.

[franciscanheart]

except you wont have to be prepared if you dont do it.... unless its time and then be prepared.... but most people are too young i think that are like really into the big dating scene here

[stagefairy]

[quote]I'd say, if you wouldn't want another woman/man being this intimate with your husband/wife, then you shouldn't be that intimate before marriage either.[/quote]

I especially agree with this part!!!

[1337 k4th0l1x0r]

For guys: if you really want to have sex with a woman you're dating, there's only one way you should ask her. The line is:

"Will you marry me?"

(note: It will still take several months, even maybe years, after you ask for you to get the go ahead. Also, have a pretty diamond ring ready then and be ready to exchange some more jewelry later )