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What is the purpose of dating?  

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RandomProddy

[quote name='MorphRC' date='Aug 14 2004, 05:19 PM'] ur [i]stuffed either way[/i] random :P [/quote]

Edit. Note to self: stop scaring Morph... ;)

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I forgot to mention, this may have been said before. Dating should be fun. If you are not having fun with the person your dating then you probably won't have fun when your married. If you are having fun with your date and you think to yourself, I can't see myself with this guy/girl for the rest of my life, then I don't think you should be dating that person and it is more of a friendship. If you are having fun with your date and you think, I can't live without the person for the rest of my life. He/She is the best thing that ever happened to me...etc, Then you are probably good to go.

Maybe I'm wrong. But that's the way I see it. I'm not exactly the expert or anything. ;)

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Mrs. Bro. Adam

You can't base your complete decision on whether or not you have fun... It's, how well you get along, and how much you begin to love that person. No matter who you are, there will be times that you 'hate' the other person, and you don't have fun, but it's those times that will bring the two closer together.

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[quote name='Mrs. Bro. Adam' date='Aug 14 2004, 08:15 AM'] *holds sheild up*


I actually agree with him, except for the adultery part.


Dating is supposed to be for preperation for marriage, and how can you prepare to be married to two different people, at the same time? Dating has been shifted greatly from its original purpose. Dating was used so the woman could choose who she wanted to marry, but this was also done only one person at a time. Courting, on the other hand, involved more than one person. Several men would court the same woman, to try and win her heart. When it got serious, then she'd only date one guy.

If dating is supposed to be so you can date more than one person at a time, then why would so much pain be caused? Good question, huh? It's because of the significance put on dating. If you want to 'date' more than one person, just hang out and be friends with several guys, and when you find one you could possibly want to marry, then date him, not the other way around.
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No, I am not talking about dating several people at once. I thought that the whole dating thing when it turned serious was called going steady. His thought is that when you start dating one person then you can't even think about other guys or whether or not they would be the right one. If that were to happen and I was in that relationship with him and my future spouse came along what was I to do? Would I be committing adultery? What if I wasn't sure about being married or being a nun? What if I thought about visiting nun orders too?

I never thought that dating two people at once was a good thing. Never. But I don't believe in being closed minded when you are searching out God's Will.

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[quote name='Mrs. Bro. Adam' date='Aug 15 2004, 02:07 AM'] You can't base your complete decision on whether or not you have fun... It's, how well you get along, and how much you begin to love that person. No matter who you are, there will be times that you 'hate' the other person, and you don't have fun, but it's those times that will bring the two closer together. [/quote]
That aint right. If you dont have fun together, then you dont get along, and your not happy with the person.

Dating is an experience as well as a search for love and marriage

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[quote name='Mrs. Bro. Adam' date='Aug 14 2004, 10:37 AM'] You can't base your complete decision on whether or not you have fun... It's, how well you get along, and how much you begin to love that person. No matter who you are, there will be times that you 'hate' the other person, and you don't have fun, but it's those times that will bring the two closer together. [/quote]
Sorry, I didn't mean to base the whole relationship off of having fun. If you do that then you're in a world of hurt. That is one of the things that you have to take in account. I agree with Morph.

I didn't mean to make it sound like having fun is what you base whether or not the person is for you.

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Mrs. Bro. Adam

If you're dating someone, and someone else comes into the picture, and you get to know that person, outside of dating, as a friend, and find that they may be your future spouse, and the relationship you're in isn't going to be your future spouse, you simply break it off. That's it.


You shouldn't date until you know that the other person could possibly be your spouse, anything else is a waste of your, and their time.


Yes, you should have fun, but that's not what marriage and dating is all about. There will be down times, and if you don't have any down times, and get married, you're in for a big surprise. Marriage isn't all fun, because you're two different people living together, with two different upbringings. There's going to be times when you don't have fun, but it doesn't mean that you made a mistake, but it's a conflict that you have to take care of. Marriage is to be used for two people to come together and serve God. Raise children. There's a lot more to dating than having 'fun'

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Mrs. Bro. Adam

I took about three or four years....been thinking about taking again, but not sure if I will...



BTW- I think this thread has been officially hijacked!

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