Teen Sex

[Ash Wednesday]

Ditto what everone has said. Sex was created in part to make babies. It's part of marriage and family, and nothing else. We are more than just Discovery Channel Mammals, we are created in God's image, our body is a temple, and we want to care for our immortal souls.

There is also this illusion that it will make your relationships "deeper" and "better", and that it will make you feel "cool".

But in the end, you're a frog that gets boiled before it's too late, and left with nothing but a broken heart.

Don't get boiled. Abstinence is the perfect litmus test on love. Anyone you are dating that truly cares about you will be willing to respect your abstinence. Otherwise they just want to be with you out of mere physical attraction and sex. This happened to one of my best friends. (She did wait until married, successfully, and didn't get burned by the others she dated!) There are good positive teen abstinence materials and programs out there that really were helpful for me when I was a teenager.

You can only give away your virginity once. Jessica Simpson waited until she was married and she said she was so glad she did that, and that it made the wedding night so much more meaningful.

[Norseman82]

Obviously it's sinful. What ever happened to those movies that showed teenagers having sex, then dying in a car accident right afterward, and then they find themselves in hell for eternity as a result of that one act??

But it also shows the need for strong fathers in families. On a practical note, a teenage boy may think twice if he fears he could, how shall I say this tactfully, get his butt kicked royally by the father or brother of the girl he violated. And a good strong father would not let his daughter associate with gangbangers.

In addition, it is the start of a bad habit that changes a person's character for the worse and desensitizes a person to sin.

I'm sorry if I sound a little harsh and of ther "scare school" in the first two paragraphs above, but sometimes that is what works in behavior modification.

Another thing that may work is to show examples of people who are or have saved it and how waiting has allowed them to be successful and contrast it to people who did not and are now suffering consequences (whether it be economic, health, emotional, spiritual) as a result. Sometimes it is the practical that gets through to them.

[M.SIGGA]

if they aren't Christian and you don't want to sound too " preachy" tell them it's really not worth the risk because I'm convinced condoms don't work. I've known a tone of guys and girls who have had numerous scares, and sometimes kids, because the crappy thing broke. If you want to interject humor, tell them it's gonna be really bad sex. Good sex occurs in marriage where there is that loving bond uniting both people like it's supposed to be.

Edited August 2, 2004 by M.SIGGA

[justfran]

[quote name='1337 k4th0l1x0r' date='Aug 1 2004, 04:51 PM'] It's okay to have sex as a teen, as long as you're married. [/quote]
Dude you took the words right outta my mouth

[Norseman82]

[quote name='M.SIGGA' date='Aug 1 2004, 11:57 PM'] if they aren't Christian and you don't want to sound too " preachy" tell them it's really not worth the risk because I'm convinced condoms don't work. [/quote]
I've also heard that because of the fact that women are only fertile 1/4 of the time you may really need to quadruple the failure rate by a a multiple of 4!!!!

And 4 times 0% is still 0% (in the case of abstinence). I know of only one known failure in abstinence, and we celebrate the resulting birthday on Dec. 25.

There's some food for thought.....

[RemnantRules]

well i don't know if this has been discussed but what about Sexual Diseases!!!! *shudders*

[Ash Wednesday]

[quote name='Norseman82' date='Aug 1 2004, 11:51 PM'] Obviously it's sinful. What ever happened to those movies that showed teenagers having sex, then dying in a car accident right afterward, and then they find themselves in hell for eternity as a result of that one act??
[/quote]
They've had movies that showed this?

[Phazzan]

Personally I don't think just because a man or woman has had sex already doesn't mean the love can't prosper. Sure, I'd like a virgin to marry, who wouldn't, but from where I am they're rare, [b][u][i]VERY RARE!!![/i][/u][/b]. Unfortuantly non-virgins are stock standard where I come from.

I don't blame them though. Society these days teaches sex before marriage is normal, healthy and most of all fun. They don't know. I suppose I'd be willing to marry any chick who's willing to wait, but even that's rare these days. I don't even know if I can wait myself.

[RemnantRules]

don't lower your standards though

[MorphRC]

To not have sex as a teen these days is seen as abnormal.

[StColette]

lol Then I'm abnormal and proud to be abnormal lol

[MorphRC]

LOL me to!

[little_angel202]

another problem is that it so often leads to abortion

[MorphRC]

True. And something like 90% of teens that have sex end up regretting it withing a week, and thats if they dont get pregnant. This is what we get for the total seperation of church and state.

[MorphRC]

within a week*