Philippe Posted July 29, 2004 Share Posted July 29, 2004 awwwwwwwwww grosest thing today ever! i think this lady was about 80 years old and she had shorts on that were shorter then ANY girl ive ever seen it was truly disturbing Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Madonna Posted July 29, 2004 Author Share Posted July 29, 2004 [quote name='Ash Wednesday' date='Jul 29 2004, 12:46 AM'] You know another thing I've noticed recently?!?!? The astounding number of bridal gowns that are spaghetti strap sleeveless and strapless. The majority of them are NOT what I would consider suitable for a Catholic wedding. I finally found some online that specifically market being MODEST bridal gowns and these are so much nicer! (I don't like my big xena warrior princess arms, either) [/quote] I had a friend that wore a strapless dress to her catholic wedding. She was in good taste and looked beautiful. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest JeffCR07 Posted July 29, 2004 Share Posted July 29, 2004 Wow, I had a ton of things to say, but it seems like almost everything has already been said. The only suggestion I have for girls is the following: It may be a safe rule that if the focus is on the outfit, then it is probably more modest, while if it is on the actual body, it has a greater chance of being immodest. What I mean by this is that if, for example, a girl's shorts/skirt highlight her shirt, which highlights her shirt, which in turn draws attention to a necklace and earrings, then the chances are that the attention of the guy will be drawn to the clothes, and not to what is beneath them. On the other hand, if the goal of the shirt is to accentuate the chest, and the goal of the shorts/skirt to reveal/draw attention to the legs, then it may very well be immodest. Keep in mind, I'm putting this out there as a loose rule, not any strict code for dressing. I hope you guys understand what I'm trying to say. - Your Brother In Christ, Jeff Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mmmerf Posted July 29, 2004 Share Posted July 29, 2004 All of the above is why I just don't wear thongs at the beach anymore. :freak: *Kidding* But to the hugging, specifically to the 'trigger' for guys - It's [b]physical contact[/b]. Heck, it can be sitting next to the guy or shaking hands with him. This is why it's gotta be a short hug when it's with a guy. Besides. We steenk. Hug too long and you will find yourself immersed in man-smell. Stanky, stanky. ...and finally, if you're not on the sidelines at a football field, a 'good effort' is not acceptable. ...learned that one the hard way. Never got asked back to LifeTeen after that... Kidding! I Kid! I kid because I care. (If you don't know what a 'good effort' is, well, football season is just around the corner.) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
homeschoolmom Posted July 29, 2004 Share Posted July 29, 2004 This has been an interesting topic... RussianGirl (who lives with us) has a well "different" idea of what's modest and what's not. Her boyfriend's family is really conservative in that regard (no shorts/skirst above the knee, no sleeveless shirts, no collar bones showing). However, when she's not there, she dresses, well... less than fully modest, but not terrible. I've asked her if he is as conservative as the rest of his family (ie, does it bother him when they are out that she wears skimpier things) she says it doesn't, but I bet it does. She maintains that he likes it. I agreed that he probably does, but that wasn't what I was asking!! They were going to his house one time and he asked her to please remember to wear a bra. I wish she'd take a hint. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
homeschoolmom Posted July 29, 2004 Share Posted July 29, 2004 [quote name='Ash Wednesday' date='Jul 29 2004, 12:46 AM'] You know another thing I've noticed recently?!?!? The astounding number of bridal gowns that are spaghetti strap sleeveless and strapless. The majority of them are NOT what I would consider suitable for a Catholic wedding. I finally found some online that specifically market being MODEST bridal gowns and these are so much nicer! (I don't like my big xena warrior princess arms, either) [/quote] I agree... if you can't go into St. Peter's with your shoulders uncovered, why should you be able to go into any parish that way? Expecially as the bride? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Madonna Posted July 29, 2004 Author Share Posted July 29, 2004 (edited) [quote name='homeschoolmom' date='Jul 29 2004, 09:43 AM'] They were going to his house one time and he asked her to please remember to wear a bra. I wish she'd take a hint. [/quote] how do you"forget" to wear a bra? Now that everyone has said the "don'ts"....what are the "do's" of modesty? what is modest and attractive in dress and manner? I think a lot of women are struggling really hard to be just "sexy woman" material and not wife material. (I am guilty of this!) I've given chastity talks before to women and talked to other women on an individual basis. I know so many women who want to be good and holy, but they are weak and fall because they don't think men are attracted to good and holy. Edited July 29, 2004 by Madonna Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
homeschoolmom Posted July 29, 2004 Share Posted July 29, 2004 [quote name='Madonna' date='Jul 29 2004, 09:46 AM'] how do you"forget" to wear a bra? [/quote] It's not that she forgets, but sometimes she would (used to) wear summer tops without one... I know... that's not good. HS_dad and I have both told her not to do that... but when her boyfriend did it, I think it stuck. I don't think he asked her to "remember" to wear one so much as requested that she do so... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mmmerf Posted July 29, 2004 Share Posted July 29, 2004 [quote name='Madonna' date='Jul 29 2004, 11:46 AM'] how do you"forget" to wear a bra? [/quote] I never think to wear one. Never mind... :thumb: Dave Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lil Red Posted July 29, 2004 Share Posted July 29, 2004 [quote name='Quietfire' date='Jul 28 2004, 02:01 PM'] On the thong issue. Here goes. I wear em. I love em. I will continue to wear them until my butt hits the floor and I need something stronger. Sorry, but its my personal preference. Had I not told you then you'd never know and all would be well. Oh, and if you have rolls ANYWHERE on you. Hide them. I dont need to see them. Nor do I want to. Peace. [/quote] i agree!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lil Red Posted July 29, 2004 Share Posted July 29, 2004 [quote name='mom25angels' date='Jul 28 2004, 09:54 PM'] Just wanted to add one thing to the no no list.......clothes with words on the bottom. This is just an invitation for someone to be looking at your backside. I see them on girls my dd age all the time and want to just ask their moms or dads what they are thinking. I saw an 11 yr old with "hottie" written on her bottom just yesterday! [/quote] I HATE THIS!!! i was shopping for my niece's 9th birthday (a couple of years back) at Target and was looking at clothes. I thought I had found a really cute sweatpant/shirt set, until I turned it around and it said "Sexy" or something across the butt area. I'm sorry, but those pants scream, "Hi, Mr. Child Molester, please look at my child's butt!" It's sick and wrong. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest JeffCR07 Posted July 29, 2004 Share Posted July 29, 2004 [quote]I think a lot of women are struggling really hard to be just "sexy woman" material and not wife material. (I am guilty of this!) I've given chastity talks before to women and talked to other women on an individual basis. I know so many women who want to be good and holy, but they are weak and fall because they don't think men are attracted to good and holy. [/quote] I just want to try to respond. Women should know that there are tons of guys who don't think holy is very sexy or attractive, but those arn't the guys who are worthwhile. If the guy is husband material, then he's not going to "pass you by" just because you arn't wearing tight shirts and short skirts. Having said that, I don't think it is an "either/or" between being attractive and being modest. Modesty isn't about trying to make oneself appear androgenous, its just about not encouraging licentiousness. There are tons of shirts that look great on girls without making their chests look bigger. The beautiful thing about modesty is that it presents you as you are, and it doesn't try to be anything that it isn't. The woman who dresses modestly knows that her beauty will shine forth without her trying to draw extra attention or focus. The immodest person, however, greatly desires for others to look at one feature or another, desperately strives to accentuate, flaunt, or embellish, and these are lies of the greatest kind. On a more personal note: jewelry is almost always tasteful, modest, and complimentary on a girl. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
curtins Posted July 29, 2004 Share Posted July 29, 2004 Also: Thongs aren't neccessarily immodest, as long as they're hidden under other clothing. yeah i meant like without anything over them- i went to my freind(agirl) birthday party and all the girls got her thongs- she was turning 13, I think its kinda immature to give thongs like that but girls will be girls Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lil Red Posted July 29, 2004 Share Posted July 29, 2004 jewelry isn't tasteful when you're wearing way too much of it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
franciscanheart Posted July 29, 2004 Share Posted July 29, 2004 [quote name='JeffCR07' date='Jul 29 2004, 10:35 AM'] I just want to try to respond. Women should know that there are tons of guys who don't think holy is very sexy or attractive, but those arn't the guys who are worthwhile. If the guy is husband material, then he's not going to "pass you by" just because you arn't wearing tight shirts and short skirts. Having said that, I don't think it is an "either/or" between being attractive and being modest. Modesty isn't about trying to make oneself appear androgenous, its just about not encouraging licentiousness. There are tons of shirts that look great on girls without making their chests look bigger. The beautiful thing about modesty is that it presents you as you are, and it doesn't try to be anything that it isn't. The woman who dresses modestly knows that her beauty will shine forth without her trying to draw extra attention or focus. The immodest person, however, greatly desires for others to look at one feature or another, desperately strives to accentuate, flaunt, or embellish, and these are lies of the greatest kind. On a more personal note: jewelry is almost always tasteful, modest, and complimentary on a girl. [/quote] YES!!!! omgoodness i want to kiss your mother a thousand times! she has done you well! and tell me, where in the world do we find more guys just like you?! dlkfajd;ofijas;odifjsaldkfjasl;dkjfsa finally someone gets it! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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